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Sebastyne

A rock fan. A thinker. A psychic empath and a channel, a Tarot reader. A polyandrist; The lover of men, kings, and gods. An eternal romance analyzer.  A romantic pervert. Generation X Rebel. A psycho-spiritual life coach.

Making Pleasurable Life Choices that Others Do Not Approve

What if I told you they don't need to agree?

If you wish to change your life, the choice is entirely yours. Other’s do not need to be OK with your life choices, it’s your call. They may grumble, they may think you are ruining THEIR reputation, but you’re not. You are you, and unless they join you, their reputation is safe, if they join you, they will choose to. If they support you, that’s their choice, if they don’t, that’s their choice, too.

I needed to point this out for my readers and for myself, too. I have been writing with such a huge change attitude that even though I have never meant anything but each individual to change their own lives to their liking, my energies have given out the vibe that I want everyone to agree and live their lives in some bizarre manner that is a combination of everything that is mutually exclusive choices! To some people, this is understandable, but to others who tend to think on a community scale, it’s been confusing.

Your life choices will force others to change theirs

This is the rebellious part. No matter who you are, your choices will have a ripple effect. This is often seen as a bad thing, but it isn’t. When you make a positive change for yourself, you remove a toxin out of your circles – your own unhappiness. When you refuse to live your life in a way that destroys you rather than builds you, you will force others to cope with the change you made. Once your associates have to find a replacement for you, in some cases, they’ll have to find someone who CHOOSES to replace you, as they can no longer coerce you to be it.

Once you take your authentic form, others will have to conform, and the chances are you will force them into a more authentic way of living, whether they like it or not. Your happiness will force the people around you to find a happier way to live. Or not. If they choose to make themselves the victim in this, then let them. That is their idea of happiness at this stage: “I’ll do anything as long as I have a reason to complain and blame others!” Good on them, you gave them something to moan about!

What life choices should you make?

What frustrates you? Why do you put up with it? Because people expect you to, right? Why should they have such an expectation on you? Are they entitled to it? Did you sign a paper at some stage? If you did, did you actually sign up for what you thought you did? (I am thinking a marriage certificate here mainly.)

Money is most often the issue. Is there a way you could make your life work with less (or no) money spent? Is there a way you could make tons of money without it having a negative effect on your happiness?

I often say this: If sexuality is important to you, as it is for most people, start from there. What kind of a sex life do you WISH you had? Is monogamy the right choice? Probably the easiest thing to fix about anyone’s sex life is to stop thinking true love can only exist in the state of monogamy. Are you really supposed to have children? The world is drowning in people, do you need to contribute to its destruction or should you just say… “Fuck it, I don’t need kids to be happy.”Is monogamy the right choice? Probably the easiest thing to fix about anyone’s sex life is to stop thinking true love can only exist in the state of monogamy. Are you really supposed to have children? The world is drowning in people, do you need to contribute to its destruction or should you just say… “Fuck it, I don’t need kids to be happy.”

Have you noticed work is simply a way to earn money. Do you need to earn as much, do you need more to finance the life money is supposed to finance for you? So often people work because they need the approval of having a job, but in reality, all it needs to do is to finance the life you want. Just pointing that out.

Your life choices and your reputation

OK…. Here’s the killer mind altering trick you need: Do you care about the opinion of the people who would judge you for your behavior or life choices? Are they worth the drama or the lack of it? Is their approval of you so important that you’ll hand your life choices over to them? In my case, I declared that I’d only do business with perverts. They are the people I like, anyway, so why the hell would I build a business on the approval of prudes that I hold nothing but contempt for?

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