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Please notice that my posts (as all life coching) should be considered to be supportive of your own instinct, not a replacement for it. Which means that study your situation in this light and see if it fits. Do not act against your better judgement - after all, you may even misiniterpret what I say, or the situation I mean when I write. You are responsible of your own actions, regardless of what I say here.


These posts are listed in the order of newest to oldest.

Why do some natural polygamists adjust well in monogamous society?

While other types have issues?

There are three main categories of polyamorous people. There is a ton of different ways to subcategorize and add to each, but the main types are Polygynous, Polygamous, and Polyandrous (plus gay variants that are somewhat confusing to us straight people, as many gay men resemble polygynous men, and a lot of gay women seem […]

What does it mean when someone defines themselves through a relationship?

In other words: Does the label define or describe you?

I had a fight with a friend once years ago. I remember her retorting to me: “I’ve never met ANYONE who defines themselves through a relationship as much as you do!” That comment struck me as a bizarre one, I didn’t think it was true, but it has been nagging at me ever since. What […]

Waiting, Patience, and Divine Timing

What is stopping you?

In everything we do, we are always subject to time. We must grow patient, but not too patient, we must be ready to spring to action, but not foolishly so. We must learn to take steps at the right time. That means no delays, no rushing. One thing at a time. Time, even divine timing, is […]

Love is a sacrifice vs. Love is a bliss

The contradiction of values and how to solve it.

Sometimes even True Spirit Mirrors hold a different value in this area. One of them feels he or she needs to sacrifice something for his or her partner, and the other feels they want to give that person everything they want, and also receive everything they want from that person – they want love that […]

My most poignant True Spirit Mirror advice

Your meeting point is your authentic ideal life you would choose for yourself.

Your meeting point is your authentic ideal life you would choose for yourself. This is why authenticity is your #1 goal. To stop lying, pretending, pleasing others when it causes you discomfort. Stop compromising and self-sacrificing and figure out who you truly are.

Learn to be in the moment and in the future simultaneously

This is master class shit.

You are surrounded by people who wish to teach you a lesson. Some want you to plan for the future and be prepared for the future, some want you to stay in the moment and take everything as it comes. There are also people who want you to remember the past at all times. Let’s […]

Men have trouble *fucking* the woman they’ve confessed to love

"To fuck" means disrespect, and a man cannot disrespect the one he loves. Here's the fix.

This post is going to get complicated even by my standards, but it is important for you to try and keep up. This may transform your love and sex life in a way you never thought possible. I am about to explain and fix the reason why two people madly in love seem to not […]

How do you know if a rejection is real or a game?

Are they seriously telling you to go away or is this a bait?

There are people who toy with the people who they are interested in. They play games of all sorts, test their intended, challenge them, irritate them, try to push them away just to see if they’d call their bluff. It may be truly difficult to tell when a rejection is real and when it is […]

Intuitive Polyamory, Powerful Non-monogamous Relationships

How to form a polygamous relationship that will last

Most people, when getting into polyamory, will begin by tallying up cocks and pussies in the right ratio. There is nothing wrong with that, if that is enough for you, but if you want a little extra still, you’ll have to go deeper than that. Taking the intuitive approach will save you some trouble and […]

The Soulmate Typology is not there to tell you how lousy your love life is compared to other peoples’

Let's sit down for a moment and talk about this.

This is an important thing to know about the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology. It is not there to make you feel like a loser. That is not its purpose, OK? The purpose of the typology is to help you trust your intuition when you have met your True Spirit Mirror. It’s there to give you […]


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