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A rock fan. A thinker. A psychic empath and a channel, a Tarot reader. A polyandrist; The lover of men, kings, and gods. An eternal romance analyzer.  A romantic pervert. Generation X Rebel. A psycho-spiritual life coach.

The trick to sexy is to be everything that you are at once

People tend to section themselves too much... One dimensional is not hot

Charismatic, alluring, captivating, whatever the word… Whenever a person is something amazing, it all really comes down to their ability to be everything they are at once.

Clearly, we do not do everything that we do all at once, you don’t parent your kids while you fuck your girlfriend, nor do you serve your clients while you’re hanging out with your friends, hopefully, but what the charismatic people do is that they don’t hide what else they are when they walk into a new situation. They are everything at once.

I know I hide a lot when I am around my family. They are the last people I want to really know who I am. I feel judged and evaluated and criticised at all times, and on top of that, I feel like my mom is always looking for ways to find the psychological flaw that made me this way so she could fix me and make me normal. That’s when I get constricted, small, meaningless, inane, one-sided. I give them but a slither of what I actually am, the small section I figure they’d approve of. We clamp up and turn cold when we feel judged by those who we wish loved us.

Whenever we feel truly… Whenever we really wish to be something for someone, we tend to hide ourselves from them. The fewer people know and love you for who you are the harder it is for you to allow someone you truly like to see the full spectrum of what you are, no matter how amazing you’d be.

Remind yourself of everything that you are. A lot of us find it really difficult to reveal the child in us, the truly childish child, the one that was afraid of everything and pretty nerdy or wimpy, when we’ve grown up into somewhat of the opposite. We learned to hide the wimpy kid we never even wanted to be but were. (Too recently, too, while pushing 40 or 50.) It is also not helpful when the parents are just looking for signs of THE CHILD they loved so they can latch onto the child they lost when you’re trying to break free from them, and find independence while this “they will be my babies forever” -parenting culture rages on like the putrid viral infection that it is. Trusting someone to see the child you were is a major test of trust inside a relationship, because so many people, women especially, have trouble allowing the adult rise back up once they’ve seen the child.

A lot of people reject the inner child completely once they grow up. They barely remember having been a child, to many people, childhood seems to be a time that didn’t really even happen. My mother is one of those people. Whenever I ask her to tell me something about her childhood (me and my brother used to love hearing stories of our aunts and uncles “being little” but our mom NEVER “remembered anything”. She repeats one story, and that is it and looks at her sister in dismay when she tells stories of them two together like she wasn’t even there. Anyway. This is an intercept for another post about soul splitting theory.)

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