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I just watched the unsettling scenes of Chris Lilley’s J’amie King

And made me wonder... Is J'amie really a bitch or has she been misrepresented?

For those of you who are unfamiliar with J’amie. Chris Lilley is an Australian comedian, a 40-something dude dressed up as a high school girl… And this is sooo, so so good. (You’ve gotta watch the entire Chris Lilley production, he is beyond brilliant… But here’s a taster…)

Look, I know J’amie is a fictional character but she’s based on a very recognizable character. She could be a complete fake as she’s presented, but she could also be the real thing that other girls talk shit about because they THINK she’s a fake… Because they are.

We always tend to think others think the way that we do. If you spend your life pretending to be something you’re not, everyone’s gonna think that’s what everyone else is doing – especially the high achievers who, to you, would seem like they are simply better at faking stuff than you are.

So is J’amie really a bitch or is she a TRULY nice girl that everyone else is jealous of?

When the J’amies of this world fucking lose it.

There’s a point where everyone snaps. If you try to be a good person, try to rise above people’s ill talk and jealousy, fail to defend yourself, try to do the honorable thing at all times… And then get screwed over at the end of the school year, it’s entirely possible you freaking lose it.

There is an end of patience to everyone.

The successful parents

Imagine the parents. They are high achievers who want to raise high achievers. They’ve given her everything she could possibly desire, only expecting her to graduate with high grades and be the… What was the honor she was supposed to get? Was this something her parents wanted her to achieve, that she felt was something her life dependent on?

Her future was taken away

You’ve been groomed your whole life to achieve something specific. “You’ll get X if you achieve this.” You do your work, you do your very best, and you know YOU WERE the very best, but because your teachers thought you always do so great, that it’s easy for you, and they decide it would be good to reward someone who needs encouragement and maybe monetary aid that might have been a part of the deal… And they decide J’amie’s parents can fix her up with anything she could possibly want, so the other girl needs it more…

“The fat lesbian boarder bitch”, as she so eloquently put it.

Fuck it, then.

Your future, your freedom was riding on that award. Without it, it’s the next carrot your parents put in front of you expecting you to jump through hoops to get your life into your own hands.

You learn life isn’t fair. Your work is not rewarded. No matter how well you do, they’ll always reward the second runner-up, because that’s how life works. “She’s so good she has plenty of time to achieve all the medals she wants…”

Only the Olympic medals are… No, wait. Doping.

So you decide to throw the rest of it out. After all, if you’ve completely torched your future, your parents no longer have a hold on you, nor will any other school. So you go nuts and whip your tits out to seal that deal.

She doesn’t need it!

I know how easy it is to think that the high achievers don’t need encouragement or attention or “feeding of their ego” as so many people justify it.

I don’t know how much of this is complete fiction and how much of it is based on a real person and their high school life… But I bet there is someone who inspired the story.

My step cousin took part in the Miss Finland competition this year. She was the favorite to win. Absolute favorite to win, and justly so. She even didn’t get a crown. I understand the judges ruling, but not one part of it was fair. The winner… A meek nice girl who would be forgotten before the news of her victory became yesterday’s. My step cousin…? Everyone wanted to know what’s up with her. There’s at least some justice in this world, but it won’t last for her, either, I’m afraid.

High achievers still need to hear it

And I bet that even though she puts on the perfect smile and a brave face, she needs a whole heap of people to tell her that that crown was rightfully hers. Why? So she knows she’s not just imagining it and getting popularity rise to her head while she’s losing perspective.

Speaking out of the experience of some description. The truth is, if it doesn’t want to fuck you, it won’t say anything nice about you. This is also true for other girls… Unless they want to “bed you” 1)In this case, it means that the girls want to make you a part of their group. To take advantage of your shine. To make you the lure that pulls men in so they can have the spoils. The men want to be near you, but they chicken out and choose one of your less scary friends. This makes your girlfriends think you’re actually a bitch no men like but they actually like “nice girls” more. Your sex appeal, therefore, leaks onto them. All the while as they’re bitching behind your back planning your ultimate demise. they won’t say a nice thing about you.

(And no, we don’t look alike. At least I don’t think so… Although a lot of our family does, because we’re the only two girls on my side of the family who are under… 45 and over 5.)

I still love J’amie King and laughing at her like I was mental

IF J’amie was really the kind that she’s described as being; completely selfish, self-absorbed, fake, callous, self-conceited and so forth, it would be the best fun laughing at her. In reality, however, girls like that don’t usually get to lead a pack for very long if ever. High achievers don’t like fakes. She’d be shunned from the group very soon if that’s the way she was.

The way it would be was that she’s hanging out near the popular girls, trying to convince herself and others that she’s a part of that group when in reality, she isn’t.

But an outsider looking in…

They see whatever they want to see.

Two of my favorite characters are similar

BTW. Scarlett O’Hara, I am sure of it, was written by a similar group of on-watchers. The irony is, I love Gone With The Wind, (the movie more than the book, because the book reveals what they THINK are Scarlett’s motivations and I always objected to them) and I love Chris Lilley like mad. He is a freaking genius, and so was Margaret Michell.

These are two of my favorite characters, in whom I see so much of myself I swear I inspired Scarlett in some previous lifetime… And I see a lot of myself in J’amie. It’s such an irony to love these characters so much and laugh at J’amie, and still feel they were both screwed over by mean-spirited gossipers.

 

One more for the road:

How Mitchell managed to keep a straight face and act completely natural… I have no idea!

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1.In this case, it means that the girls want to make you a part of their group. To take advantage of your shine. To make you the lure that pulls men in so they can have the spoils. The men want to be near you, but they chicken out and choose one of your less scary friends. This makes your girlfriends think you’re actually a bitch no men like but they actually like “nice girls” more. Your sex appeal, therefore, leaks onto them. All the while as they’re bitching behind your back planning your ultimate demise.

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