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A rock fan. A thinker. A psychic empath and a channel, a Tarot reader. A polyandrist; The lover of men, kings, and gods. An eternal romance analyzer.  A romantic pervert. Generation X Rebel. A psycho-spiritual life coach.

How we fall in love

Simple carnal lust over someone is a sign of perfect compatibility with that person. This is NOT a sign of an easy ride, but it is a sign that in the end, you will find a paradise together if you stick with it. Something about each other is drawing you together, and that attraction, the stronger it is, the more important it is to follow it, the more it encompasses within you both.

“If only it was so!” I hear in my head, and I assure you it is. Nature is not stupid.

The fact is that these relationships break easily because they are not calm, they challenge your very idea of who you are, and they look violent and nasty to the outsider – like two wild animals butting heads sometimes, and I must keep on repeating this obvious but forgotten truth: We ARE animals. Our mating rituals can be somewhat violent.

This doesn’t mean you will never get rejected, but you will get violently rejected sometimes, especially if you are a very aggressive type of a suitor, whether you are a male or female – the more aggressive you are, the higher the chances are that you will get rejected. However, sexual attraction is a different matter to being overly aggressive… (Sometimes people tend to fake attraction by exaggerating their own feelings by coming on stronger than what they naturally would, and this may temporarily make their object feel “in love” until they realize, that “oops, my bad, you’re a dick.”)

People with the most complex personalities and hidden dreams and aspirations MUST follow their instincts here, they ABSOLUTELY MUST. We all hide so much out of ourselves for simple appropriateness, that it is VITAL that we learn to trust our sexual instincts when looking for the right people. Sometimes it means love at first sight, sometimes it means that we have to keep on digging at a scab, you know? We keep returning to the same person no matter that it feels weird and there’s just no real reason to, but something about them keeps pulling us in – that is no accident. Follow it until you know what it was… Sometimes, unfortunately, it is a communication error – you thought they meant X when they meant Y. That happens. Life is for grown ups only, children are protected from it (although they shouldn’t be protected QUITE as much as they are now, children should be LEARNING how to live, and the word ‘child’ should refer to “an inexperienced adult in training”.)

Falling in love is fantastic, as you know, and it becomes more so when you realize that if you feel something… it is about something…

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