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Sebastyne

A rock fan. A thinker. A psychic empath and a channel, a Tarot reader. The lover of men, kings, and gods. An eternal romance analyser. A polyandrist. A romantic pervert. (A psycho-spiritual life coach.)

If You’re Super Sexy

What movie star looks do to your mojo...

I noticed this on an adult dating site… The normal looking men would approach me with very little worries about being rejected. They’d go “oh, you look stunning, I’d love to fuck you all night…” and then they’d elaborate. They would not hold back – and I didn’t want them to. I lapped it up as it came, whoever said it. I love hearing it, over and over and over.

Now… The guys with movie star looks. You can almost tell whether a guy is actually themselves in the photo by the way they write… Fake photo – they’re aggressive, demanding, and they INSIST on attention. Real one… They start a conversation, they mention something about sex, then… They seem to lose interest. SEEM TO. They stop picking the conversation back up if it stops for a duration of time, or the talk never goes deeper into the sexual or anything else, for that matter. And this is not about them being shallow, either… It’s just that they are VERY AWARE that people with movie star looks get more attention than what they know what to do with – out of personal experience. They also know that no matter how good someone looks, it doesn’t mean we all agree on who is actually a picture of perfection, and who is simply a good looking person with the wrong flavor. (Are you interested in my flavor? :p Hey, polyandrist, the more the merrier!)

Average looking people know they have to fight for their position a bit. They go after who they want and they SHOW their interest. It’s the only play they’ve got on top of being a nice person. The people who know they are good looking will tend to wait for people to go after them, and they tend to wind up with the one who is most aggressive and determined. No matter they might be in love with someone completely different, they usually still wind up with someone who simply pursues them strongly enough. Otherwise, they don’t trust their level of interest.

When all stunners do the same, the result is that all stunners wind up with people they are not that excited about, but who are excited about them…

Time to tweak your play a little…

 

By the way… I know this, and I still let the conversations die when I am not 100% sure I want to freaking marry that guy. If I want to freaking marry this guy, I don’t want to run after him because I fear he might think I’m one of those desperate women… You see how difficult these things are? I do love it though, when someone says CLEARLY they want me and that they INSIST I go out with them, at least once… It makes all the difference…



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