Old Soul* or Young Soul*?

Can’t decide whether you’re a Old Soul* or a Young Soul*? Sometimes, when we get used to the opposite type of thinkers, we adopt ideas that seem authentic but actually come from someone else. Therefore, I’ll ask some key questions to decide which camp you actually belong in, even if some of your behaviors would contradict this.

These are deciders:

1. How much time do you spend wondering if your family members or people (not “the one,” but people in general) love you for who you are?

Young Soul*: None. As long as everything works well and they’re not leaving me “because they don’t love me,” I don’t care whether they love me or not. I love them, and that’s all that matters.

Old Soul*: Frequently or all the time (or have forced myself to stop doing it), but I don’t particularly care if they do or don’t. My first question, however, is: “Do I love them or not?”

2. Do you feel guilty for not loving people who you feel “deserve your love”?

Young Soul*: No.

Old Soul*: Never, but only because I fell in love with someone I’ll never fall out of love with, and I don’t waste time thinking who else might “deserve” to have me, I’m off the market; unavailable. Spoken for – even if I am not in a relationship with this person, nor do I know if I ever will be.

Also Young Soul*: That sounds stupid. You should get someone who can give you what you want.

Also Old Soul*: That sounds pragmatic. It’s not about what you get out of it; it’s about who you love. I do wonder if I “should” love people or give people a chance all the time, even though I know I’m actually not interested or even completely devoted to someone I fear won’t want me in the end.

Also Young Soul*: I love someone fiercely, too, and I know they will love me back again one day because they wouldn’t dump me – they’re not that kind of a person. That’s why I love them because they’re loyal to me.

3. Do you know what it feels like to HATE someone?

Young Soul*: I hate people who have left me or abandoned me completely, or for having rejected me, but I’ll love them again the moment they return. Maybe I’d throw a little tantrum just to show them I’m not a pushover! I don’t like it when people leave each other. Loyalty is the most important thing. I trust my loved ones to come back sooner or later. Maybe I’d hate someone for screwing me over in business, but if they apologized I’d be good again.

Old Soul*: Oh yes. Yes, I do—nothing to do with abandoning me or having had any interaction with me at all. I hate profoundly selfish people who take advantage of others or ignore others’ needs… I know what it feels like to hate – very clearly.

4. Do you feel it’s possible to hate oneself?

Young Soul*: No, it doesn’t make any sense. I can’t leave myself. But I suppose one could be very disappointed with one’s own performance, but I don’t think “hate” is the right word.

Old Soul*: Oh, yes it is. It takes a lot of effort to remain the kind of person one doesn’t have to fucking loathe… Some people fail.

5. Do you have a dream?

Young Soul*: Yes, I dream about a family of my own, and/or to one day work alongside a loved family member or my very best friend. I dream about a deep sense of belonging.

Old Soul*: Yes, it has nothing to do with my family or friends; I choose my friends based on a matching dream, and that would be amazing, but I know what I want as an individual.  I want to experience true love, too, like fantasy fiction -level feelings, but fear it’s a pipe dream, as no matter how much you love someone, the chances are that the feelings aren’t mutual, a sad fact. OR No, I feel a certain emptiness without a dream; I try to find it but I just can’t seem to be able to figure out what it is that I want. OR, Yes, but that dream seems way too far out of my reach, I’m actively talking myself out of it on a daily basis.

6. Do you ever feel conflicted?

Young Soul*: What does that word mean? No. I know how I’m supposed to live.

Old Soul*: Oh. I feel conflicted all the time! I have so many options, choices to make, and I struggle figuring out what is moral, and what is not, am I within my rights or not, am I being selfish or are they being selfish… Should I follow this path or that path… My life is a juggling act and I envy people who have all this stuff figured out and make it look easy.

7. Do you fear you might be “dog-type”?

Young Soul*: No. Doesn’t matter to me. OR Yes, if it’s the wrong type to be or causes me not able to be friends with someone or to get a job I want if they deem me “dog-type.”

Old Soul*: Yes. I don’t want to be like that, but there are aspects of it that seem like me.

8. Do you love personality tests, in general?

Young Soul*: Hate them. I’m only here because someone rejected me based on the fact they deem I’m Young Soul* and I’m trying to prove them wrong.

Old Soul*: I find them curious at times, but feel they’re a bit pointless. OR kinda love them. They shed light into who I am even if they’re a bit off, I still learn something about myself when I read them and disagree with a point or two. Don’t like ones that are WAAAAAAY off.