Monogamy

A bonding orientation so rare that I don’t honestly believe it exists in a natural form, but I could be wrong. The markers of true monogamy would be that neither partner is interested in finding new partners, turned on by the idea of another partner “having” their spouse… Neither party is in any shape or form turned on by “outsiders” or needs the support or approval of “outsiders” to make their relationship sexually interesting. Whenever there is a sexual permission given, I include a blessing from god into this category, there is “another party” at play, and if that other party is IN ANY WAY sexually arousing, it’s not genuine monogamy, I feel.

Performing, even with the idea of “I know they’ll be thinking about what we’ll do after this garden party together”, to me is a sign of suppressed polygamous tendency. The need to get permission from a dominant force, parent, God, or even a friend, is a type of suppressed polygamy, IF that “permission to fuck” is in any way sexually exciting in itself, rather than a legal formality to the partners.

Correct me if I’m wrong. We’ve been so conditioned to romanticize and live in an enforced monogamy that if there is a real form of it in existence, we simply don’t know what it’d look like in an actual reality. I also believe that if true monogamists exist, their sexual attention is so focused inward, that they are not interested in sharing their “findings” with outsiders as a natural need like most of us feel like doing to at least some extent.

Please comment.

This post accepts comments, as I want to hear, do you know for an absolute fact you’re a natural-born monogamist? I also know that we can fall in love so strongly with a True Emotion Mirror, that even if our natural bonding orientation is polygamous, we lose interest in others until we meet another person from that same soulgroup or find our sexual fantasies match and involve non-monogamous elements.

Let me know, but please refrain from agreeing with me in the comments. I know I’ll likely get a lot of excited support to the notion that people are not naturally monogamous, it is a mantra repeated by a lot of polyamorists, but if you KNOW you’re a natural born monogamist, please let me know and explain how you know?