There are more soulmate types to explore, but unless you have a special interest in soulmate dynamics, the ones mentioned on this page should be enough definitions for most people.

A quick glossary of terms Cat Type Thinker and Dog Type Thinker – two BASIC personality types. They are completely incompatible with each other in every way possible. Cat Type Thinker – believes the biggest crime in relationships is to tie someone reluctant into one. The Dog Type Thinker – believes the biggest crime in relationships is to leave someone, to break a commitment even to someone who doesn’t want that commitment. (There’s a logic to that, but that’s another post.)

Exact Principle Mirror

These soulmates mirror each other’s principles and values exactly. The more you get to know them the more you love them. The more you get to know them, the better you understand how they fit into your life and should be in it.

The Exact Principle Mirrors match each other by their life values, moral principles, and what they value in life in general. The True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates share very intricate, detailed principles with each other. What makes a pair or group of Exact Principle Mirrors a match to each other makes them a mismatch to another pair or group of Exact Principle Mirrors. One person’s eww, thus, is another person’s wow! It is important to remember that Exact Principle Mirrors are YOUR ideal partner, but another person’s Exact Principle Mirror won’t necessarily like you (or your perfect counterpart) at all. This is why finding true love takes courage to be yourself, even though the Partial Principle Mirrors will always dislike you for it.

1st Tier Exact Principle Mirror: True Emotion Mirror

Eternal connection: death won’t part us, separation won’t part us, marriages to other people won’t part us -connection. There may be a physical separation, but the true connection always remains. This is because your essence is perfectly the same. This is like pouring water in two glasses. It is physically separated, but their essence still connects them and makes them the same thing. You can put gold in one glass and silver in another. They may be physically connected with the water, but they’re not becoming the same thing and will never do so. That’s the Partial Principle Mirror. (There is no deeper meaning to the metaphor in terms of physics, by the way. I’m sure a better metaphor could be made with a deeper understanding of physics.)

True Emotion Mirrors are romantic partners whose life’s principles, values, decisions, interests, life goals, sexual fetishes, career goals, ambitions, and everything else match each other. They are each other’s ultimate soulmate, the unsurpassable romantic connection that is bound by mutual complete love. The connection is based on a similar personality and matching values, not familiarity, co-dependence, fear, survival instinct, or even commitment like Partial Principle Mirror relationships are. They need to commit to each other to make the relationship work, but their connection exists inside or outside a public relationship. They may be married to other people, but their connection remains. (I very much recommend not marrying someone else’s True Emotion Mirror without discussing the exit plan because one of you will likely need it. Your Partial Principle Mirror or Precious Soulmate, “the less attractive” or “the irritating one,” is someone else’s True Emotion Mirror, someone else’s perfection.)

You CANNOT exaggerate the feelings the True Emotion Mirror pair or soup experiences. This is the feeling when your picky brain falls in love – your ego is just as excited as your heart is, for once. You want them with everything you are simultaneously as you fear trapping them against their will. The one thing… The ONLY thing you do not want to do with a True Emotion Mirror is hurting them, even a little. The same fear of hurting them exists in both men and women. You both fear trapping the other and getting in the way of them and who they actually want. There is likely a fear of it all becoming a fantasy, a figment of your imagination. In addition, men fear their sexual attraction toward her, which may border violence but isn’t really, as it lacks any real need to hurt her.

The connection the Cat Type Thinker would do well to wait for – not sexually, but by not making lifelong commitments to temporary lovers at a weak moment.

2nd Tier Exact Principle Mirror: Precious Soulmate

The same as above but in a friend or knowingly temporary variety. Someone who is PERFECTLY right for that time, that place; a God-sent, eternal in terms of lifetimes, but not an “until death do us part” connection. They’re there as friends, family members, or temporary lovers but never as the ultimate destination. They feel the same toward you, and the relationship ends or transitions to a new form painlessly.

This is typically a non-sexual connection between friends and family members whose life’s principles, values, decisions, interests, life goals, and career goals and ambitions match each other perfectly, even when they “don’t match”: “I don’t even WANT TO be linked to you for all my life!” “I don’t, either! See you in another lifetime when we’re young again, bestie!”

The Precious Soulmate is the same thing as a True Emotion Mirror except for the sexual and romantic connection, OR a sexual connection that is MEANT TO BE temporary and is seen as such equally by both partners. One day, they’ll part ways painlessly and in perfect harmony.

These are the people with whom you pick up right where you left off as if no time had passed between meetings.

Confusion happens when technically sexually compatible (straight, gay, polyandrous/polygynous/polygynandrous) Precious Soulmates TRY to push it toward permanent romance and commitment and feel needlessly guilty about not wanting to stay forever. The antidote for these situations is a habit of open communication in relationships.

Temporary alliances: Partial Principle Mirrors

The more you get to know them, the less you like them. The more you get to know them, the better you understand why they shouldn’t really or really shouldn’t be in your life.

These relationships are always based on at least a partial illusion or an agreement to “not go there,” to “not talk about that,” or to “not look.” Without avoidance of realities, these relationships do not last. These are the most common type of soulmates, and quite the source of all of your relationship pains and aches because to maintain a relationship with them, you have to pretend to be something you’re not, try and change into a person you don’t want to be, and to lie about your true feelings continuously. This warps your expression of who you are and as you become increasingly unhappier, you also look less and less like the person your Exact Principle Mirrors know and love.

These are the connections that survive on white-knuckle commitment, weekly couples therapy, and a lot of teeth-grind determination and self-sacrifice or ignorance of one’s own needs. Another great ingredient in these relationships is the creation of empty, unnecessary (both consciously created and spiritually manifested) drama when true feelings don’t exist or weaken.

Peachy? Yeah nah.

The positive about them, and the reason why people choose them is that they are a) readily available anywhere and b) lack the ability to truly hurt you to your core if and when they’d end. c) Relatively easy to start and maintain as long as neither party expects great big emotions (from it) or a real connection and both parties love calm in life. They’re pretty solid as long as you don’t want to pretend it’s true love.

Dog Type Thinkers’ Choice Soulmate (Baseline Dog Type Thinkers)

Basically, anything goes between two Dog Type Thinkers. It’s difficult to define them in any useful way as they seem to change their way of operating by fashion trends and whatever is admired in their culture. They are the “perfect couple,” “fashionable couple,” “the power couple,” or the “influencer couple.” Shiny and polished to the outside, but what goes on on the inside is anyone’s guess. They are basically a show put on for other people, but they are both equally devoted to this task. Their life values are in sync, even if they are not exactly in sync as a couple.

They may become True Emotion Mirrors over time; they are working on it as long as their interests at least authentically align. It just needs time to develop and deepen. Typically, however, they work on ONE partner’s true interests; the other is kind of a staff member and a servant to the other’s authentic life goals. (They may also become staffers to one of their children unless the children work together.)

The Dog Type Thinkers’ Choice Soulmates can be categorized into several subgroups, but let’s agree that I, as a Cat Type Thinker, cannot fully comprehend them no matter how much I try. My biggest problem is that they are so keen on commitment and loyalty. Still, they’ll switch partners at the drop of a hat when someone more impressive comes along, so they’re not really soulmates but rather some temporary alliance to solve a problem at the given time while operating under the illusion of unity and loyalty.

The #1 identifier is the tests of loyalty and love, aggressiveness, and nagging behaviors that both/all partners engage in if they are Dog Type Thinker. If a Cat Type Thinker is involved, it is called a Main Trap Relationship, and the Cat Type Thinker should hasten their way toward the door as soon as possible.

That said, as long as BOTH (all) parties want the connection to continue, it should. If it brings you life satisfaction and happiness, so be it. It has the real potential to develop into a True Emotion Mirror bond, but ONLY IF both (all) parties are in it because they want nothing else more than this.

Basal Principle Mirrors (Cat Type Thinker)

Basal Principle Mirrors are basically a pairing of Cat Type Thinker thinkers that share their base values because they’re both Cat Type Thinker thinkers, but not their OTHER, more complicated, and personal values. They make very good couples and friends but lack the fiery love and sexual compatibility of the True Emotion Mirror.

They will not cheat on each other, disrespect each other, they’ll live harmoniously from start to finish, and more than likely divorce in harmony if at all. There is no need for any Cat Type Thinker that has lost their fate in finding true love to lower their expectations any lower than this. I don’t mean to sound dismissive of the connection; it’s just that it’s not uncommon or impossible to find, but it can feel bland if you’re used to fighting a narcissistic Dog Type Thinker. However, a bit boring and harmonious build on friendship, respect, and the same sexual fetishes is better than a Main Trap relationship any day. (And, if you’re looking for a Basal Principle Mirror, you might accidentally find a True Emotion Mirror – they’re made from the same base ingredients, at least.)

This is basically what most Cat Type Thinker who haven’t met their True Emotion Mirror consider to be the achievable reality, a healthy, good relationship, and that would be correct, too. Two people with very few relationship issues will work fine; just focus on certain compatibilities, some mutual interests, and goals, and you’ll find this without any shadow of a doubt. Just don’t fall into the Main Trap:

Main Trap Relationship (Dog Type Thinker and Cat Type Thinker together)

The Main Trap relationship forms between a Cat Type Thinker and a Dog Type Thinker is born from a deep misunderstanding between the pair. The Cat Type Thinker and Dog Type Thinkers are such opposite types of thinkers that when one is trying to reject the other, the other takes it for flirtation – for example. Therefore, whatever each partner naturally does is interpreted the opposite way by the partner, leading to a bond that shouldn’t even exist.

It is often called a “karmic soulmate” because the Cat Type Thinker considers the connection toxic and abusive and needs to be broken off (and I agree), even though the Dog Type Thinker does not. To the Dog Type Thinker, the connection is filled with ambitious opportunities to improve one’s social stance and a way to get free education and day-to-day support. A great deal for a Dog Type Thinker but not so much for the Cat Type Thinker… What the Cat Type Thinker gets is a cheap cook, cleaner, and a child-minder or a handyman and security guard for the house. The benefits for the Cat Type Thinkers are very practical, where as the Dog Type Thinker feels high emotions toward their… Shall I say, Master… Who they often wind up bossing around, ironically.

So there lies the Trap for the Dog Type Thinker; as the Dog Type Thinker tends to test relationships and commitments and the self-confidence of the people they interact with by picking a fight and arguing, the Cat Type Thinker will easily just submit to whatever the Dog Type Thinker wants. The Cat Type Thinker may also submit to the opposite gender automatically, and since the Dog Type Thinker make a commitment to a partner by the 3rd date, they’ll find themselves trapped into a relationship with a partner who has no intention of teaching them a damned thing. So, their ambition to learn from the Cat Type Thinker is not going to be fulfilled, and their expectations fall short.

The Main Trap Relationship can be fierce and abusive or plain boring. There are multiple possible dynamics to explore, but this is the worst relationship type and also THE MOST COMMON THERE IS. These tend to wind up in divorce sooner or later, and they definitely should.

Vaporizing Lust Mirror (Any)

The most temporary of temporary connections.

You share an ‘unacted upon’ desire for each other. This type of connection (itch) will disappear once you scratch it. It can last years unscratched and vanish in a week if acted upon. Great for single and polyamorous people, terrible for monogamy.

This is largely based on ego, but it is harmless to act on, especially if you’re single. (It is NOT the same as a narcissistic need to steal someone’s partner, however. That is not a soulmate thing at all.)

Confusing INDIVIDUALS who are NOT necessarily YOUR TrEmoR but may feel like it

In Twin Flame Concept, these individuals would probably be called False Twins.

Libertine

These people are basically seduction masters, either male or female; they know their way around the opposite gender. They don’t set out to deceive anyone; they simply don’t have sexual hangups or guilt, so they engage in sexual relationships completely without guilty feelings. This may seem like “an intent to commit” or like “the most real connection I’ve ever felt” when it’s simply a reaction to someone who hasn’t got sexual hangups or shame. That makes them easily deceptive, for those who BELIEVE sex will lead to commitment.

The Libertine also doesn’t engage in sex to get something else out of it. They don’t do it to gain leverage or to use it to control their partner. Any one of their partners can feel this. This is very confusing in females, who are not expecting commitment, payment, marriage, or anything else from a sexual act. This means a man will easily react to it as if it were true love when it’s simply uninhibited sex. The real True Emotion Mirror test is a discussion, not a sexual connection with a Libertine.

Libertines obviously have a True Emotional Mirror of their own, and that person is also inevitably a Libertine, who are irresistibly desirable. Libertines are basically the “can have anybody” type that sometimes baffles the understanding of those of the same gender who are trying to see where the attraction is. “What does that guy have that I don’t?” sort of question.

Soul Enemies

Also known as karmic soulmates, soul enemies are people tied to you with an unhealthy, mostly narcissistic bond (one-sidedly even). They can be mutually felt but, most often, one-sided fixation on a superior rival that threatens the ego (the idea of self, in this case, a positive idea of self) of the Soul Enemy by simply excising in their life.

Soul Enemies can INSIST they are your True Emotion Mirror but you know quite clearly they are not. (Whenever one does not feel the unquestioned love of a True Emotion Mirror, the connection IS NOT a True Emotion Mirror, no matter how strongly the other feels it. In the common case, it’s often a Libertine + Dog Type Thinker combination rather than a True Emotion Mirror connection.)

Clarifications

There are some points that I wish to make clear about the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology that have come up over the years. These may feel obvious to the Cat Type Thinker but will have to be explained to the Dog Type Thinker, whose starting point to everything vastly differs from the Cat Type Thinker. Also, Cat Type Thinker may want to read this so they don’t get bamboozled into relationships with the Dog Type Thinker, who insist they understand these definitions better than you do. (I am Cat Type Thinker, which means I tend to explain things from a Cat Type Thinker perspective.)

This is not a personality test despite the word “personality” in the title.

Every person can belong to several categories of soulmates with a different person (sometimes even one and the same). NOBODY is just one soulmate type. This is not a personality test but a relationship “test,” or rather, a typology. The word “personality” in the title doesn’t mean a personality test but a relationship between two people and their personalities.

In order to have a soulmate-type title, you need a partner to define that relationship against. Kinda like you have different dance partners. With one, you dance salsa; with another, you dance disco. That makes you a salsa dancer with one, and a disco dancer with another. Nothing to do with your permanent personality.

The Cat Type Thinker/Dog Type Thinker typings ARE a personality type that is more permanently definable. (It’s not 100% permanent, but it won’t usually change per partner. I’ll write more about the possible changes later, but it only affects the Cat Type Thinker in a way that is concerning to them.)

True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates are not groups you can copy from a list of traits to become one.

I am not writing a seduction guidebook (despite my many, many TrEmoRs). This is not “a how to win the love of anyone you want” guidebook, which also means that I could not, even if I wanted to, describe True Emotion Mirrors or Precious Soulmates as a group that you can copy and mimic and then become one. It would be easier for a man to turn into a woman and a woman to transition into a man than for anyone to “become a True Emotion Mirror” because non-matching True Emotion Mirrors are even less common than males, and females have accurate stereotypes.

The only thing I CAN DO is to guide you toward your more authentic SELF, which is where you find your True Emotion Mirror. A single Dog Type Thinker, however, does not HAVE an authentic self, which means that the only people I can help to get closer to their True Emotion Mirror are the Cat Type Thinker. The Dog Type Thinker needs more patience than that, and as irony would have it, the Dog Type Thinker have no patience. This is why the Cat Type Thinker have to learn to FORCE the Dog Type Thinker out of relationships they know to be hopeless with themselves. Otherwise, the Dog Type Thinker will always be looking for a shortcut to a happy relationship that simply won’t be one.

 You either ARE someone’s True Emotion Mirror, or you’re not.

Although True Emotion Mirrors seem rare, they are not quite as rare or impossible a match as they sound like. Having said that, you either match or you don’t, but either ARE a match to someone or you are not. There’s nothing you can do about it, nothing worth trying at least, especially if the other person seems reluctant to make a connection.

Now, this is something that will have to be explained to Dog Type Thinker and Cat Type Thinker very separately, as their starting point is the opposite.

In the sense that Dog Type Thinker understand it: No, you cannot CHANGE to become someone’s True Emotion Mirror. The way Cat Type Thinker understands it: Yes, there is an infinitely small possibility you may become someone’s True Emotion Mirror if one of you changes (or grows) to become an authentic match to you.

The reason why it’s explained differently is this: The Dog Type Thinker take an infinitely small theoretical chance of something possibly happening in the fringes of this universe as a strong possibility it is just bound to happen TO THEM. The chances of it are FAR LESS THAN winning the jackpot in a national lottery. However, it is still a possibility big enough worth mentioning to Cat Type Thinker, who have a more theoretical and general curiosity toward the theory where the Dog Type Thinkers are only curious about it in the PERSONAL sense. That chance is categorically outside the Dog Type Thinker realm of interest.

Rejection

There is a reason why True Emotion Mirrors sometimes “play reject” each other, but THERE is absolutely NO INDICATOR that IF someone rejects you, they’re a True Emotion Mirror to you. This should go without saying, but Dog Type Thinkers are often rejection junkies, which is also the reason why some Cat Type Thinkers have taken to playing rejection/hard-to-get/cat-and-mouse games with their True Emotion Mirror when they should NEVER resort to these strategies if they want true love as these games ONLY EVER work on Dog Type Thinker men and women… With MILD exceptions. (Cat Type Thinker can enjoy a little playful to-and-fro, but never a full-blown-cold-as-stone rejection game.)

Dog Type Thinkers are rejection junkies, and being rejected SHOULD NOT BE TAKEN for a True Emotion Mirror sign because it is only a problem that needs clearing, not a SIGN of the connection. In fact, being a rejection junkie is a good sign of being a Dog Type Thinker, but not a sign of any kind of being a True Emotion Mirror, even though they do, sometimes, reject each other, but more often think they’ve been rejected when they haven’t been.

“Everybody will get what they want 100% of the time.”

There’s another misunderstanding. Everybody will get what they want, eventually, and 100% of the time, in the sense that they will GET IT down the line, but not in every INSTANCE of obstinant refusal to accept defeat. You will get your Life Partner eventually, without any chance of that not happening, but that person might not be the one you’re currently hanging onto tooth and nail.

There is also a limitation to this promise. It speaks of an experience, not another being with their own free will. It promises you WHAT you want, not WHO you want. You want true love, and you’ll find true love, but that doesn’t in any way promise you will get the one you THINK you truly love. Also, it will not be able to bring you true love if you keep hanging onto false love tooth and nail. (Are you hanging onto false love test: Do you think you DESERVE them because you’ve already given them so much love so far? Do you feel you’ve poured love into a bottomless well with no love returned? If so, that’s hanging on to false love and hope. If not, you’re good.)

 

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