Soul Enemy – the opposite of a Soul Mate.

The way reincarnation works is that we have certain people that we reincarnate with for one reason or another; some of them are friends, and some are enemies. This definition of a Soul Enemy is of the latter type and also refers to what other philosophies call “a karmic soulmate,” what psychology refers to as a narcissistic relationship or maybe a narcissistic dynamic. This narcissistic bond can be either one-sided or go both ways. If it’s one-sided, it needs to be broken – by force if necessary – if it goes both ways it needs to be healed; it may disguise amazing friends. Just as likely, you can still be “enemies,” even after healing, but you just won’t be tied to each other until the end of existence. (And you won’t. This bond is based on a soul-sickness if you will; therefore, eventually, you will heal from whatever is holding you together.)

What binds you together?

A narcissistic bond means that the existence of at least one of you threatens the ego that at least one of you holds. The soul enemy feels a threat to the way they see themselves because of the very existence of the other person. They need not say anything, they don’t need to attack you or be mean or brutally honest with the soul enemy for them to consider that person a threat to their own sense of excellence.

The bind happens when the future Soul Enemy has gotten used to uncontested attention and devotion from the people around them, but one day, another person enters the picture and gets more admiration than the future Soul Enemy gets, for whatever reason. The Soul Enemy got too comfortable being treated like a goddess of a god, and when another person enters their life and challenges that view others have of them; the superior, unchallenged, unmatched; they may target that person as an enemy even though they have never shown any signs of aggression toward that person. That, itself, can be a narcissistic insult; that this intruder doesn’t even consider their will-be rival a worthy enough match to hate them for it.

What does the Soul Enemy hate?

The Soul Enemy doesn’t truly hate the person they are focussed on hating, but the insecurity that this person makes them feel. They hate the ease that this other person does things and the admiration that they get from other people, and they hate the feeling of being out-matched.

If the difference between the Soul Enemy and their rival is massive, and if the original admiration toward the ego-driven person has been based on falsehoods, such as the love the followers of a dictator would receive. Dictators, who would basically kill anybody who doesn’t act like the source of narcissistic supply to begin with. Obviously, that dictatorship doesn’t need to be official, but simply a housewife in a suburb demanding everyone around her to work as a narcissistic supply or be cast out – in comes another housewife, who simply does everything perfectly every time without breaking a sweat… And now, the previous suburban queen is rendered the one who no longer holds the adoration of the other housewives – and is nice to others to boot! What’s there not to hate?

The Soul Enemy hates the fact others do easily what they feel they have to force others into showing, and have to fake to pretend to be able to do.

Mostly, what drives hate in general, is hypocrisy. In the case of the Soul Enemy, they may hate real hypocrisy or imagine it exists: “Nobody can be that good for real. They must be faking it.” (A bit like Britney Spears being talked down because she uses auto tune; she can’t be a really good singer – but then you hear her sing without being autotuned, and you realize the auto tune did her a disservice.)

“Teach me to be you.”

There maybe a time when the Soul Enemy was humble enough to ask you to teach them how to be more like you – or they thought you’d do it if you were friends. Sometimes, however, the last thing we want in this world is a copy of ourselves – for a few reasons. You have the sole right to be you, and that’s fair; most people will only want to teach WAYS OF THINKING, not to create cheap copies of themselves into this world… Let alone good ones to compete against themselves.

However, the Dog Type Thinker thinker will want their friend to teach them how to be THE SAME, and the Cat Type Thinker will categorically refuse to. This alone may turn some people into Soul Enemies: “I asked to be like you and you refused – I’ll get you for this.”

The attempt of recovery.

When the Soul Enemy has to attempt to recover from their lowered position, they will, effectively, try every tool in their toolbox to regain their power position. First, they’ll try to compete fair and square. Failing that, they’ll start telling themselves that competition is not that important. They might start appealing to the sense of loyalty of their former friends and lovers: “You must stay loyal/faithful to me, you cannot be friends with him/her.” And failing all of that, they’ll start spreading lies behind their rival’s back, and trying to convince others of negative traits that this person possesses; usually under the guise of a “greater insight” to that person, on the basis of their former glory: “I know these things, I was once the queen, too. I know how they play.”

They may also try to befriend their soul enemy, in order to gain control over that person. “Once we are friends, they can no longer steal my husband/wife/job/charity organisation chairmanship…” And, as a friend, they regain another level of power over that person, too: the chance to convince others that “I know that person better than you do, and this is the truth about them…”

Playing both fields.

As I mentioned, the Soul Enemy can try and play both fields with you; appear as your friend and an enemy at the same time. They’d use phrases like “it’s for your own good” if you knew they were the one to burn your house down, then helping you cope with the devastation by saying “God must be punishing you for something.” They may try to cut your road down in any way they can, but appear to be the helpful one if they get caught: “I know you can handle whatever life throws at you. It was for your own good. I know it hurts but… It’s medicine; I love you.”

Talking behind your back is effective with anyone who feels even slightly threatened by you.

When people in general are feeling threatened by another individual for any reason, they find it very tempting to NOT believe they’re as good as they seem. If they feel trepidations at the idea of trying to form a relationship with that person, but feel insecure about making that first move, it’s a relief to hear that person isn’t that great “for real.” This is what the Soul Enemy will use to their advantage. They will give the much-needed relief to any person: “you are not the problem; they’re fake.”

Added to that, the Soul Enemy can easily make a person, particularly a True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate believe that you’re too good to be true, (they wouldn’t be that lucky, right?) basically because you happen to tick all of their boxes by simply being you. No matter who you are, to your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates you are perfection, and you don’t have to try to be anything else. Therefore, you are also VERY unnerving for them to be around and to believe you even exist.

Therefore, when your Soul Enemy comes to them, with a wish to “rescue” you True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate from the hands of this (she-)devil, they can feel quite relieved and grateful for this “information” that saved them. It is also much more comfortable, in many ways, to hate someone rather than love them. Therefore, the Soul Enemy can make your True Emotion Mirror and Precious Soulmate believe you’re a horrible person no matter what you do to prove them wrong. You gave them no reason to hate you, but there they are, hating you. With venom.

Spiritual attacks.

Sadly, the soul enemies are not only with us in person, but they also have a hand in the way our life works out. We all manifest things into our lives, but some of us are good at manifesting things into other people’s lives, too. If two people want or are curious about the same thing in a person’s life, and if one of these people is the person themselves, the manifestation power is huge.

You have to agree the attack is acceptable.

Let’s say you’ve always felt curious about how you’d survive if you had no legs. Your soul enemy thinks “well that’s truly an interesting idea…” Now there’s two people wishing that you’d be hit by a bus. You and your Soul Enemy. The Soul Enemy does not have a power to solely manifest anything negative into your life alone; but what they CAN DO, is to push through any small crack that you leave open: “Wow it would be weird/interesting/challenging to be a music lover, and married to a musician… Oh, it would be nice to be able to turn other people’s voices off by a push of a button on your mobile phone…”  And bang, 5 weeks later, you injure your ears.

In my case, I wanted a chance to prove myself in the eyes of… Well, anyone who holds an interest to it. I wanted a proper challenge. A real grilling. An intellectual and moral challenge. You can bet your sweet ass that my soul enemies jumped to the chance.

And that ear thing. Personal example.

The point of this being; they cannot harm you in a way that you don’t kind of agree that you want it or deserve the punishment. They’re just very happy to be the deliverer of your darkest thoughts.

They cannot harm you if you don’t want it.

Another personal example in the opposite: I cannot see ghosts because that would make me scared to death (it would be just too weird) and I simply DO NOT WANT TO feel that way. I know they can be seen with physical eyes, I mean – or hear psychic voices the same as physical ones, but that would make my reality so difficult to handle, that I don’t want that experience. No matter how much they push, they cannot make me see ghosts, simply because I don’t want to. I hate two feelings in this world more than anything: sadness and fear. Therefore, I cannot truly be made to feel either emotion by anything. I have a certain threshold for both.

I still want THE TRUTH, therefore, I have heard a couple of seconds of psychic (non-existent) voices seemingly with my physical ears, and a second or two of a ghost with my actual eyes. Just enough to show me they can be seen/heard in that way, but not so long I’d feel insane or scared because of it.

And no matter how hard they try, they cannot make me feel sadness over a loss of a person; death, or a loss of a friend or a lover. I HATE feeling sad, and they cannot make me. The closest I’ve ever come is to cry over the death of a friend who wasn’t all that close or important; I’d rather cry for someone I didn’t really mind losing than crying for someone who mattered: it would be an insult to them, to think that crying would make it better in the slightest, anyway, or that getting attention from your stupid neighbours would be something that would make you feel any less dead inside when your True Emotion Mirror dies. (Luckily, this is based on a past life memory, not this one.)

Even though I wanted to experience “big emotions” in my life, fear and sadness are never the emotions I want emphasised. I want them GONE. The fuck away from me. I wanted a huge romance, and namely the love. Fuck the drama.

Mutually felt hatred.

Sometimes, this rivalry is felt both ways. In this case, the likelihood that the Soul Enemies will sort it out and turn out to be Precious Soulmates or True Emotion Mirrors is super high.

Both feel a sense of fear over their own idea of self; the ego; “am I as good as I think I was, or is this guy/girl going to prove to me that I’m an egotistical ass…?” Both of these people have some strengths and some weaknesses, and they look at each other mainly from the “loser” perspective: “he’s better than me in that…” while not giving their own strengths enough attention and value.

Ironically, they may also falsify this to themselves: while they blind themselves from their true strengths, they lie to themselves about being as good or better than in an area where they’re truly not competing well. Therefore, the remedy to this is to be FAIR toward both rivals – yourself and your Soul Enemy. “AM I that bad in comparison? Is he/she really that good?”

Submission.

You may also find yourself in a situation when your Soul Enemy will try to show submission to you once you’ve proven yourself their authentic, uncontested superior. Sometimes, this works, sometimes the level difference is so great, that the submission doesn’t really feel all that big of an achievement to the winner. They may have never even thought this person was of importance, let alone an actual rival to their throne. Therefore, their reaction maybe to the most humiliating day of the Soul Enemy’s life, a mere: “What are you on about?”

The Soul Enemy might have been competing with the other party for literal lifetimes, without their rival even taking notice of it it. They might have noticed “fire and brimstone” raining on them constantly, but as they maybe a master of life, they’ve handled these challenges or considered them the work of a God (who, after all, knows best.)

Good for your soul, nonetheless.

The Soul Enemy may claim they are doing things for your own good just to wash their sins off them, but the fact that the stuff they do to you is actually going to benefit you anyway. It’s like they try to trip you out of hate and jealousy, but you’ll overcome it for your own good. They are doing it because they need to, and you’ll survive it because you need to.

What will they learn? Not to waste their life trying to sabotage another person, as they are falling further behind every second they waste on attacking you, where as you are learning faster than you would otherwise. Ironically, spiritual attacks on a spiritual person willing to learn and grow from their experience benefit the target, not the assailant.

You’re not good for them, if you are the winner.

While you would be a good sparring partner for a near-equal rival, if your bond is one-sided, you’re not good for them. They may think they’re just a fraction behind you, while you see them as being a mile off. (Are they?) At any rate, ask yourself if your relationship is really enjoyable to you, and if it is, in what way?

Maybe it’s time to employ revenge? Have they earned the benefit of your rage yet? No? Cut them out so they can be the king/queen of a pond sized to their abilities? Ignore them and force them to a state of satisfaction of how amazing they are as long as you’re not there? What would be the best revenge? What would be the kind thing to do?