Strong Recommendations from the Free Spirit Theory

by September 20, 2023 · Featured / The Free Spirit Theory

The Free Spirit Theory is not a religion, but can certainly replace a religion. It is not attempting to govern your behavior or forcefully align you with God or any equivalent. There is a moral discussion, but I do not believe moralizing works. It is more a study of human behavior in relation to spirituality, morals, and psychology, rather than any attempt to control it through one-size-fits-all control. The only control I suggest is using psychological awareness to protect yourself from other people using this knowledge. The more important goal is to become a better parent, friend, and lover to those you love.

The Free Spirit Theory aims to reconnect you with your true instincts and return you to your authentic self within the boundaries of the current local laws. It must ultimately manifest your authentic wishes and dreams – not those dictated to you by others. While I discuss certain aspects outside the law that I believe should be legalized, it is not suggesting you break laws, but rather act to change laws that limit us unduly. My philosophy does not give you any permission to unlawful behavior, albeit it doesn’t suggest it can stop you from breaking the law, either. That would be naive to believe.

It is a philosophy, and I cannot put in dogma or commands, but I can put in some strong recommendations. They are recommendations because we’re all free spirits with free will and responsibility over our own actions; thus, RULES would rarely work in every situation. In addition, we’re all constantly learning new things and learning to employ new strategies and ideas, and we’ll all fail, but we’ll pick things up and try again.

The gist of all Free Spirit Theory recommendations:

Decide for yourself what you want and don’t want, and become aware of the words, values, and assumptions people use to make you accept that unwanted things and people are in your platonic, romantic, and sexual life and that you “can’t want,” “can’t wish for,” or “can’t work towards” something that you truly want in your life no matter how unusual or unlikely your wishes may be. You have the right and responsibility to strive for your personal happiness and fulfillment. Your duty is to try your best not to harm others while doing so, while acknowledging that “harm” is subjective and you cannot act upon something you don’t know is there, meaning you’ll make mistakes. I try to make you aware of the ways you may accidentally harm those you care about, because if you care about them, you don’t want to harm them, and you’ll be thankful.

ITEMIZED Free Spirit Theory Recommendations:

  1. Young Souls* should live with a very traditional lifestyle with clear rules for male and female gender roles. Cat Thinking parents should marry their Dog Thinking children to Dog Thinking families. Young Souls* must let their Old Souls* go and leave the family unit without being made guilty for it. Old Souls*’ role is to oversee society at large, not their immediate family.
  2. Your job for yourself, in this world, is to find an entertaining way to live, so that your immortal soul doesn’t suffer from boredom, which is its only true danger.
  3. Your job, for others, is to entertain Old Souls* and protect and teach Young Souls* without causing harm to them.
  4. Never allow the Free Spirit Theories to be used to force another person to do something against their will. This excludes situations where the oppressed person has stated, clearly, that they want it for whatever reason. (BDSM-like situations, you see.)
  5. Remember, you owe it to yourself to strive for your personal happiness and awesome relationships. Every time you compromise in relationships, you also compromise on behalf of your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates.
  6. Old Souls* should aim for physical safety and emotional danger (when it’s sexy). Entertain yourself by risking heartache, not physical damage. Young Souls* should be kept safe from all drama, even though they’re the ones who usually cause it.
  7. Try to be selfish within moral constraints. Try not to harm others, but follow your instinct. Hone your instincts so that you’ll harm fewer and fewer people over time.
  8. Aim for a win-win. Know that everyone is different, but everyone can design their own place and perfect life to their own specifications. Accept compromises as temporary solutions only. Always aim for perfect situations for each and every individual, even though we all understand it’s not always immediately possible.
  9. Compromises are never suitable for situations intended to be permanent.
  10. Accept certain contradictions in logic when it favors individual freedom. A person should have the freedom to be controlled, governed, and even oppressed by someone if they so choose. (Young Souls* and True Emotion Mirrors with each other.)
  11. Stop fighting your true feelings and trying to be better than what you truly are or want to be (within current laws, but remember, what is unusual, frowned upon, or not legally recognized is not the same as what is illegal). Stop striving for or limiting yourself to goals set out for you by other people unless you are a Young Soul* and happy to do so. What you want to be says more about what you truly are than what you currently appear to be – but you must do the work to BE IT. Sometimes, realizing the things you truly want is quite embarrassingly clichéd. Otherwise, they would have never become clichés, unless they were very enjoyable things and thus became so popular they became clichés.
  12. Don’t allow people to tell you what you want “deep down” when you can’t even feel a hint of it. Otherwise, they can say completely random things: “You suffer because deep down you want to fly to the Sun and burn, and you know you can’t achieve that.” Don’t allow people to project their own secret deep feelings onto you and act like they know you better than you know yourself, especially when they are projecting their WISHES of what they WISH you felt deep down.
  13. Remember that even when it’s not your fault, it’s still your fault: You allowed it to happen, didn’t see it coming, and opened yourself up to a situation you didn’t handle well enough.
  14. Remain alert to the accusation of “selfishness.” If they are the only person winning in the (suggested) interaction, they are being selfish, not you, if you refuse to be taken advantage of. Ask yourself or them: “What’s in it for me?” Just because you take care of yourself doesn’t mean you don’t care about others. Surround yourself with people who are willing AND ABLE to take your needs into account, too.
  15. Take some responsibility of the bad choices in soulmates you’ve made in the past. Rehome them responsibly.
  16. Learn to be willing to disappoint people who ask you to sacrifice yourself or your happiness for them, even if they’ve gotten used to you doing so.
  17. Realize that you are being effectively controlled by nothing more than negative labels. Stop fearing negative labels and violating yourself just to avoid negative labels (“getting unfollowed” or “getting canceled” “because you are This or That bad thing”). Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never harm you. Let them call you names all they want, but remain loyal to yourself. Find new friends. (There are YouTubers with literal millions of followers, but you’ve never heard of them. There are quite likely ENTIRE COUNTRIES you’ve never heard of. There are enough people in this world for you, too, online and offline.)
  18. Be fearless in the knowledge no matter what you’ve done; someone sees the situation the way you do. Thus, remain fearlessly honest. Allow people to avoid you if they don’t like your way of being. Still, avoid getting blinded by the fact some people agree with you. That can be more dangerous than fearing nobody does: Keep yourself under constant observation looking for failures in good logic and in being responsible for your thinking.
  19. Do not allow other people to define what your value systems ordain you to do or do not ordain you to do. Stay true to your values, and remember it is your job to not be manipulated.
  20. Forgive when it suits you, not when it suits the person seeking forgiveness.
  21. Beware that every individual everywhere in every walk of life is their own idea of an ideal individual, even if you cannot understand their perspective. The way to make a person change is to change their idea of perfection, rather than force a change on them. However, never hang onto the need and obsession to change someone to your liking. It’s a waste of time and can turn into abuse. Whenever you try to change someone or their perspective, be VERY WATCHFUL on your own motivations, virtue, and self-serving impulses in doing so.
  22. Learn to break up relationships that are not working, and to feed and foster those that make life more enjoyable and joyful to you.
  23. Approach depression as a sign of it being the time to rethink your life and changing it toward something worth living for. It’s often good to start with sex (that does not need to include your current partner and does not have to exclude same-sex partners if you can be tempted to go there.)
  24. An informed Free Spiritist knows whether they are a Young Soul* person or a Old Soul* person. Young Soul* thinking Free Spiritists should aim to find their Committed Life Partners amongst other Young Soul*, and Old Soul* should seek to find their True Emotion Mirror among Old Soul*.
  25. Young Soul* should avoid following the wrong leader, friend, or lover. This should be the Young Soul*’ first goal: be mindful about who you listen to and follow. Old Souls* are better at this naturally, but Young Soul* thinkers will follow anyone who has been kind to them for a while, and even a psychopath can fake being nice for 15 minutes at a time. Ironically, as suspicious of strangers as Young Soul* thinkers are, they may not be quite suspicious enough of the people they think they know and drop their suspicion a bit too early into the relationship. Ask yourself: What are you being led into by this kind, well-meaning, self-confident person, and do you want to be led into it?
  26. Young Soul* should practice thinking and studying alone, without other people’s influences. They have a too strong tendency to go with the flow and change their mind and what they want in exchange for love and acceptance. This is not wise. They should spend as much time as they can spare into identifying what do they TRULY want and wish for and start forming more stable, solid personality traits.
  27. Never accuse another person for not loving you. It is your failure to perform to expectation, not theirs.
  28. If you want to experience true love, you have to stop trying to fall in love. It is 100% effortless to love your true love. The feeling is absolutely effortless – but it takes a lot of effort NOT to feel that love, which is an effort not worth putting energy into—just love. The relationship may require work at times, but feeling love does not.
  29. Always keep a door open for your True Emotion Mirror or Committed Life Partner (by your choice!!), even if they were theoretical to you. Trust they exist. Old Soul* people should not make commitments they wouldn’t allow themselves to break if they were to meet their true love, their True Emotion Mirror.
  30. Old Soul* thinkers should not befriend, date, or marry down. While a true Free Spiritist would never coerce or manipulate another person into a relationship with them, we cannot tell an utterly selfish person to respect your right to wait for your True Emotion Mirror or to name the one you want yourself. Therefore it is up to you to keep this promise to yourself; you have the right to wait for the one you authentically love, despite how much so-called sense it would make for you to marry someone else.
  31. Learn to approach and befriend your Precious Soulmates, and while waiting for your True Emotion Mirror, date within your Potential True Emotion Mirrors only.
  32. You can fuck down, but keep these relationships purely sexual, avoiding any friendship or love to form, for that is not good for you, even if it was good for them.
  33. You decide what matters to you in a relationship. That is not for another person to decide for you. Stop letting others dictate what you must and can’t want out of your relationships. If they want your love, they must become someone you can love, not so that you must become someone who would love someone like them. They cannot dictate to you what you should and should not love.
  34. Remember, people shouldn’t use inclusiveness principles to manipulate their way into your bed. (You can reject a person based on their body type, gender, race, their religion, or freaking brand of their shoes if the brand they wear isn’t to your liking.)
  35. Do not value your relationships by how long they’ve lasted.  A lifelong relationship making you unhappy the whole way through should not be valued more than a 5-minute encounter that made you happy, most likely for longer than it lasted.
  36. Know that Old Soul* thinking depression is very different from that of Young Soul* thinking depression. Old Soul* thinkers get depressed because they are stuck in a life, and a relationship they don’t truly want, Young Soul* get depressed because nobody wants to be with them. The latter does not bother a Old Soul* thinker much at all; they are bothered by not finding anyone they truly adore. Do not allow yourself to be treated for the opposite type of depression. This is the main trap relationship when a Young Soul* thinker wants to avoid depression by forcing a Old Soul* into a relationship with them, and thus into Old Soul* depression. As a Old Soul*, force a Young Soul* thinker to date other Young Soul*.
  37. When you read any sexual identity definitions, imagine yourself being at a restaurant and picking what you want to eat; every dish is equally healthy/unhealthy, and everything is priced the same – ideally, even though in reality this may not be the case. The chef is not going to judge you by your choice. They’re happy to deliver even the most unusual of choices – and classics are always classics. Decide what you would want if the real world price was the same for every “dish.”
  38. Before you marry, women ask yourself: “What is this really about, and is it worth tying a person to yourself for life – for their or your good?”
  39. Innovate, organize, and take part in sex parties. 😉