The Young Soul* and The Old Soul*

This is the most important part of all Free Spirit Theories but not necessarily the most interesting one. Old Souls* and Young Souls* are a part of everything I write. Without understanding the differentiation, it is quite impossible to understand the rest correctly.

These two thinking types divide people into two groups. In between, there are the Teen Souls*. These two groups are not to be considered “the privileged” and the “non-privileged,” but simply a different way of thinking. The Young Souls* tend to think that grouping people always means a status hierarchy, or a rights hierarchy. That is not what it means, it simply means Young Souls need to be taught things that Old Souls have learned lifetimes ago. These groups also need to be spoken to differently for the same exact message to sink in.

Whenever you are trying to decide which type you truly are, consider in the light of your approach to primarily non-sexual relationships. Think of your approach to close friends and family. If you have trouble even focusing on your non-romantic relationships enough to do so, you’re definitely an Old Soul*.

Reaction to People’s Flaws

One of the biggest differences between Old Soul* and Young Soul* thinkers is their reaction to other people’s flaws and incompetence. The Old Soul* Type people cannot stand incompetent people. They absolutely HATE incompetence, failure, and flaws, but ACCEPT that they are a part of being a human. They are perfectionists who accept the realities of being human. Young Soul* see flaws and incompetence as an opportunity to bond and make friends and lovers. They think: “If I can do what you can’t, we’re a PERFECT MATCH!” While this makes LOGICAL SENSE to a Old Soul*, they don’t find the idea that they are loved for their weaknesses over their strengths romantic at all. Further, they find the idea of remaining flawed to keep their partner’s love and attention even less attractive.

Old Souls* are compassionate toward incompetence and flaws and will offer and give help without a second thought. They view it as an act of charity or “first aid,” NEVER a start of an ACTUAL FRIENDSHIP between EQUALS. Young Soul* view friendship as nothing as much as a pact of mutual help, which Old Soul* can appreciate, but only in theory. Both Old Souls* and Young Souls* want “more” from their friendships, romances, and families, but what they want more of is completely different. They also try to GIVE more of what they value, which is the opposite of what the other type values.

“All I want is a very simple life…”

Young Soul* prioritizes their non-sexual relationships over their sexual ones. They may prefer marrying a partner who is utterly sexually incompatible with them just to keep the relationship easier to manage. They value the stability of a relationship over the romance or sexuality of it. This makes them dangerous partners for the Old Soul*, to whom this is the sexless marriage trap. Old Souls* are turned on differently from Young Souls*, and marriages between the two types always lead to sexlessness as a result.

People lose their interest in life easily without a sexual or romantic flavor to it. They can get bitterly depressed if their romantic or sexual life is in trouble. Still, a Young Soul* wife wants to turn her spouse on by cleaning up his home. This couldn’t do less for the Old Soul* husband’s libido, which is strong, but cannot hold up to the smell of chlorine. The Young Soul* wife wants to show him “how much she cares and does for him”, when truthfully, the only thing an Old Soul* spouse wants is for their partner to put the *fuckknn* rag down and chill!

Old Soul* defines “sexy” very differently from the Young Soul*.

A Old Soul* person, male or female, turns people on by trying to relax and forget all about work. This is the last thing that turns on a Young Soul* partner. A Young Soul* partner rewards housework and domestic duties with sex. A Old Soul* person couldn’t care less for sex after a hard day working, particularly, not on the house. They LOATHE the idea – unless it’s with a lover who they’ve never seen clean up anything. They enjoy the fact that work, particularly domestic work, vanishes out of their mind at the sight of their completely-detached-from-all-things-mundane fuck buddy. (The definition of the word “mundane” is also thinker type specific: Old Soul*: mundane, a person who is fully focused on domesticity; Young Soul*: mundane is a person who is ‘lame’, ‘lazy’ – not truly engaged in the household duties.)

Still, Young Soul* feels they do a person a favor if they keep them from romantic or sexual entanglements by, for example, marrying them. “You don’t have to try so hard to be sexy… Just take out the trash and clean floors.” This means a Young Soul* person can be very persuasive when they offer a desired and popular Old Soul* person marriage: “If you marry me, you will not have to remain a sexual object for the rest of your life.” They don’t say as much; they feel the surprise should be positive, but it is anything but to the Old Soul*.

“I just want your love” means very different things.

Therefore, when a person says “I don’t need much from my partner, I just want ‘your love’,” What they mean is very different depending on their thinking type. A Young Soul* means they just want a normal house to work on, the basic cleaning tools in the closet, and someone to organize school car pools and work schedules with. Someone to work on life with. Sexy! An Old Soul* means what they want is a fireplace and a fluffy rug in front of it, a bowl of grapes and their potentially flat broke, lazy, and naked spouse next to them… And NOBODY in a 10-mile radius to point out the dust – in the candle light, you barely notice it anyway!

“Just your love” thus, means: “just your sex” rather than “I don’t need you to have sex with me/give me a lot of money, I just need you to take care of me, our kids, and our house with me.”

Reaction to Rejection

Young Soul* have difficulty recognizing a rejection, for instance, from a job or a group of friends and a potential life partner. They think that when someone tells them “no,” it only means “try harder” or “I want to know if you’re serious.” They feel rejection is a way for another person to lift their profile, to make it seen and known that they’re worth pursuing, rather than a real one. This makes Young Soul* a bit of the rejection junkie type, and they may not know when to quit. Having said that, they tend to get their way in this manner, in the job market, politics, personal life, and indeed, in their romantic life, too, to the bitter depression of the Old Soul*.

Survival or happiness

The Young Souls* are survivalists. They try their hardest to keep their head above water and to keep up with the Joneses. In contrast, the Old Soul* strives for personal happiness, realization of their dreams, and self-actualization, all of those words and concepts Young Soul* find quite pretentious social media junk. The Old Soul* Types can be quite idealistic if their sexuality or romantic dreams do not COMPLETELY drive them. On the other hand, the Young Soul* considers too many virtues to hinder a person’s survival, and they value companions who are willing to cut a few corners here and there.

You’re In My Way

When Young Soul* finds someone in their space or their way, they will quickly try and adapt to that person by picking a fight with them. This is true even if that relationship is most likely transitional and unimportant. An Old Soul* will avoid conflict with people whom they need to get along with for a prolonged period but who they have no romantic interest in. They avoid conflict more with a stranger, whom they never need to meet again.

A Old Soul* person may be so focused on their romantic and sexual relationships that they barely notice any other type existing in their lives. This applies to both men and women. Still, it is to be noted that Old Soul* people have interest-based friendships. In contrast, Young Soul* have, again, “survival” friends; people who help them manage life itself. Old Soul* may, however, DECIDE TO direct their focus elsewhere at times out of sheer embarrassment of their one-track mind, or camouflage a sexual goal into a hobby.

Therefore, if an Old Soul* is not sexually or romantically interested in you, they may simply dodge you completely as if you weren’t even there. Still, they can be very easily provoked into an altercation if you get in their way when they are focused on their romance or sexual interest. No matter how civilized an Old Soul* is, both men and women cannot stand it when someone gets in the way of their romantic life. Still, they are not sexually or romantically very POSSESSIVE, unlike the Young Souls* are. They will get irritated if their supposed partner is ALSO interested/in love with the,m but won’t fight for a partner whose affections they are not certain of.

Gender typical, not gender specific.

Although Young Soul* thinking is more female typical, it is not gender specific. This sounds like a depressing statistic for the Old Soul* thinking men. The difference is made up by non-monogamous women, who are supposed to permanently partner up with multiple men simultaneously. My gut instinct is that polyandrous relationships “hold” more men in one than the equivalent polygynous relationships require women for one man, to explain the low number of Old Soul* thinking females.

Another, perhaps better explanation is that society has always tried to silence sexually-thinking women and force them into the mould of what Young Soul* feels is a good wife. Old Soul* thinking women often feel like aliens around gender-typical women.

Blending into the other type.

And to add to the confusion, Old Soul* thinking will blend into Young Soul* thinking when in love. Similarly, when a Young Soul* falls in love, they’ll start to blend in Old Soul* thinking quite naturally. But for as long as someone can say they’re “feeling normal” around another person, they are not truly in love with that person. Sexual attraction may be there, and some baseline compatibility, but if they don’t start feeling excited in some way about something they’d normally avoid, not love.

This doesn’t mean you’ll CHANGE types, what it means is that you’ll start expanding your comfort zone. A Young Soul* will start experimenting with sex toys, and an Old Soul* will start thinking about how to manage day-to-day things with their True Emotion Mirror, and find it romantic at least… I doubt they’ll ever find scrubbing floors and doing school runs quite as erotic as the Young Soul* does. (Not in THAT way, gosh! Even they’re not that creepy! No, in the “Honey, I picked up our children-the fruit of your loins – from school today… Want to reminisce about how we made them?” Yeah, OK, that’s pretty creepy to us Old Souls*.)

I’m Old Soul* – for your information.

I am an Old Soul* personally. As such, I find understanding Young Soul* both boring and difficult. I don’t truly care about the way they live their lives, and want nothing to do with it. Still, as a self-educated life coach with an aim to NOT CAUSE PROBLEMS elsewhere as I try to fix another. I MUST have a level of understanding toward a Young Soul*. In the name of fairness, I must say that I may still misunderstand Young Soul*.

I try my best, but I may misrepresent their logic at times. Especially Young Soul*’s sexuality, which, to me, seems like an impossible combination of things, as they couldn’t look any less sexually attractive to me if they tried, the women especially, – even if they’re technically good looking. It’s like they’re not even trying, right? They’re stressed on a stick, not sex on a stick to me.

So basically, at this stage, after 12 years on the job, I’m starting to have the points of disagreement marked down… But my answers are still shaky at times.

Us Old Soul* can learn from them… I’m surprised to say.

Having said that, Old Soul* CAN learn from the Young Soul* – which I never thought I would ever say. Considering I’ve always taken them for absolute brain-dead zombies, I find it surprising. As it turns out, they have a point or two to make. I wouldn’t go so far as to say “we were wrong,” per say. I’ll say, tho, that sometimes, they have a way of thinking that can, if combined with a Old Soul* romance and a True Emotion Mirror, can actually work out to something quite nice. Like… You take a humble pie and you add the True Emotion Mirror chili on it, and it can go down a treat… When otherwise, you wouldn’t touch it with a 6-foot pole.

But us Old Soul* must be Old Soul* first, and Young Soul* second, and vice versa… Even though the Young Soul* don’t have the brain to do what we do, and can’t be trained to think like a Cat, even if they could miow like one. They’re morons. 😉

(Outside this theory, I’m a dog person, just so you know. Love them on 4-legs… Where they belong. Scrubbing floors on all fours…)