The Dog Thinker and The Cat Thinker
This is the most important part of all Free Spirit Theories but not necessarily the most interesting one. The Cat Thinker and The Dog Thinkers are a part of everything I write. Without understanding the differentiation, it is quite impossible to understand the rest correctly.
These two thinking types divide people in two groups. In between, there are the Cat Thinker that are Dog Thinker -conditioned and Dog Thinker that are Cat Thinker conditioned. Yet, this conditioning tends to change our behavior toward the opposite gender more than anything else. Whenever you are trying to decide which type you truly are, try to think of your approach to primarily non-sexual relationships. Think of your approach to close friends and family. If you have trouble even focussing on your non-romantic relationships enough to do so, you’re definitely Cat Thinker.
Reaction to People’s Flaws
One of the biggest differences between Cat Thinker and Dog Thinker thinkers is their reaction to other people’s flaws and incompetence. The Cat Thinker Type people cannot stand incompetent people. They absolutely HATE incompetence, failure, and flaws but ACCEPT that they are a part of being a human. They are perfectionists who accept the realities of being human. Dog Thinker see flaws and incompetence as an opportunity to bond and make friends and lovers. They think: “If I can do what you can’t, we’re a PERFECT MATCH!” While this makes LOGICAL SENSE to a Cat Thinker, they don’t find the idea that they are loved for their weaknesses over their strengths romantic at all. Further, they find the idea of remaining flawed to keep their partner’s love and attention even less attractive.
Cat Thinkers are compassionate toward incompetence and flaws and will offer and give help without a second thought. They view it as an act of charity or “first aid,” NEVER a start of an ACTUAL FRIENDSHIP between EQUALS. Dog Thinker view friendship as nothing as much as a pact of mutual help, which Cat Thinker can appreciate, but only in theory. Both Cat and Dog Thinker want “more” from their friendships, romances, and families, but what they want more of is completely different. They also try to GIVE more of what they value, which is the opposite of what the other type values.
“All I want is a very simple life…”
Dog Thinker prioritize their non-sexual relationships over their sexual ones. They may prefer marrying a partner who is utterly sexually non-compatible with them just to keep the relationship easier to manage. They value the stability of a relationship over the romance or sexuality of it. This makes them dangerous partners for the Cat Thinker, to whom this is the sexless marriage trap. Cat Thinkers are turned on differently to Dog Thinker, and marriages between the two types always lead to sexlessness as a result.
People lose their interest in life easily without a sexual or romantic flavor to it. They can get bitterly depressed if their romantic or sexual life is in trouble. Still, a Dog Thinker wife wants to turn her spouse on by cleaning up his home. This couldn’t do less for the Cat Thinker husband’s libido, which is strong, but cannot hold up to the smell of chlorine. The Dog Thinker wife wants to show him “how much she cares and does for him”, when truthfully, the only thing a Cat Thinker spouse wants is for their partner to put the *fuckknn* rag down and chill!
Cat Thinker define “sexy” very differently to the Dog Thinker.
A Cat Thinker person, male or female, turns people on by trying to relax and forget all about work. This is the last thing that turns on a Dog Thinker partner. A Dog Thinker partner rewards house work and domestic duties with sex. A Cat Thinker person couldn’t care less for sex after a hard day working, particularly, not on the house. They LOATHE the idea – unless it’s with a lover who they’ve never seen clean up anything. They enjoy the fact that work, particularly domestic work, vanishes out of their mind at the sight of their completely-detached-from-all-things-mundane fuck buddy. (The definition of the word “mundane” is also thinker type specific: Cat Thinker: mundane, a person who is fully focussed on domesticity; Dog Thinker: mundane is a person who is ‘lame’, ‘lazy’ – not truly engaged in the household duties.)
Still, Dog Thinker feel they do a person a favor if they keep them from romantic or sexual entanglements by, for example, marrying them. “You don’t have to try so hard to be sexy… Just take out the trash, and clean floors.” This means a Dog Thinker person can be very persuasive when they offer a desired and popular Cat Thinker person marriage: “If you marry me, you will not have to remain a sexual object for the rest of your life.” They don’t say as much; they feel the surprise should be positive, but it is anything but to the Cat Thinker.
“I just want your love” means very different things.
Therefore; when a person says “I don’t need much from my partner, I just want ‘your love’,” What they mean is very different depending on their thinker type. A Dog Thinker means they just want a normal house to work on, the basic cleaning tools in the closet, and someone to organize school car pools and work schedules with. Someone to work on life with. Sexy! A Cat Thinker means what they want is a fire place and a fluffy rug in front of it, a bowl of grapes and their potentially flat broke, lazy and naked spouse next to them… And NOBODY in a 10 mile radius to point out the dust – in the candle light, you barely notice it anyway!
“Just your love” thus, means: “just your sex” rather than “I don’t need you to have sex with me/give me a lot of money, I just need you to take care of me, our kids, and our house with me.”
Reaction to Rejection
Dog Thinker have difficulty recognizing a rejection, for instance, from a job or a group of friends and a potential life partner. They think that when someone tells them “no,” it only means “try harder” or “I want to know if you’re serious.” They feel rejection is a way for another person to lift their profile, to make it seen and known that they’re worth pursuing, rather than a real one. This makes Dog Thinker a bit of the rejection junkie type, and they may not know when to quit. Having said that, they tend to get their way in this manner, in the job market, politics, personal life, and indeed, in their romantic life, too, to the bitter depression of the Cat Thinker.
Survival or happiness
The Dog Thinkers are survivalists. They try their hardest to keep their head above water and to keep up with the Joneses. In contrast, the Cat Thinker strive for personal happiness, realization of their dreams, and self-actualization, all of those words and concepts Dog Thinker find quite pretentious social media junk. The Cat Thinker Types can be quite idealistic if their sexuality or romantic dreams do not COMPLETELY drive them. On the other hand, the Dog Thinker consider too many virtues to hinder a person’s survival, and they value companions who are willing to cut a few corners here and there.
You’re In My Way
When Dog Thinker finds someone in their space or their way, they will quickly try and adapt to that person by picking a fight with them. This is true even if that relationship is most likely transitionary and unimportant. A Cat Thinker will avoid conflict with people who they need to get along with for a prolonged period but who they have no romantic interest in. They avoid conflict more with a stranger, who they never need to meet again.
A Cat Thinker person may be so focused on their romantic and sexual relationships that they barely notice any other type existing in their lives. This applies to both men and women. Still, it is to be noted that Cat Thinker people have interest-based friendships. In contrast, Dog Thinker have, again, “survival” friends; people who help them manage life itself. Cat Thinker may, however, DECIDE TO direct their focus elsewhere at times out of sheer embarrassment of their one-track mind, or camouflage a sexual goal into a hobby.
Therefore, if a Cat Thinker is not sexually or romantically interested in you, they may simply dodge you completely as if you weren’t even there. Still, they can be very easily provoked into an altercation if you get in their way when they are focused on their romance or sexual interest. No matter how civilized a Cat Thinker is, both men, and women, cannot stand it when someone gets in the way of their romantic life. Still, they are not sexually or romantically very POSSESSIVE, unlike the Dog Thinkers are. They will get irritated if their supposed partner is ALSO interested/in love with them but won’t fight for a partner whose affections they are not certain of.
Gender typical, not gender specific.
Although Dog Thinker thinking is more female typical, it is not gender specific. This sounds like a depressing statistic for the Cat Thinker thinking men. The difference is made up by non-monogamous women, who are supposed to permanently partner up with multiple men simultaneously. My gut-instinct is that polyandrous relationships “hold” more men in one, than the equivalent polygynous relationships require women for one man, to explain the low number of Cat Thinker thinking females.
Another, perhaps better explanation is that society has always tried to silence sexually-thinking women and force them into the mould of what Dog Thinker feel is a good wife. Cat Thinker thinking women often feel like aliens around gender-typical women.
Blending into the other type.
And to add to the confusion, Cat Thinker thinking will blend into Dog Thinker thinking when in love. Similarly, when a Dog Thinker falls in love, they’ll start to blend in Cat Thinker thinking quite naturally. But for as long as someone can say they’re “feeling normal” around another person, they are not truly in love with that person. Sexual attraction maybe there, and some baseline compatibility, but if they don’t start feeling excited in some way about something they’d normally avoid – not love.
This doesn’t mean you’ll CHANGE types, what it means, is that you’ll start expanding your comfort zone. A Dog Thinker will start experimenting with sex toys, and a Cat Thinker will start thinking how to manage day-to-day things with their True Emotion Mirror, and find it romantic at least… I doubt they’ll ever find scrubbing floors and doing school runs quite as erotic as the Dog Thinker does. (Not in THAT way, gosh! Even they’re not that creepy! No, in the “Honey, I picked up our children – the fruit of your loins – from school today… Want to reminisce how we made them? Yeah OK, that’s pretty creepy to us Cat Thinkers.)
I’m Cat Thinker – for your information.
I am a Cat Thinker personally. As such, I find understanding Dog Thinker both boring and difficult. I don’t truly care about the way they live their lives, and want nothing to do with it. Still, as a self-educated life coach with an aim to NOT CAUSE PROBLEMS elsewhere as I try to fix another. I MUST have a level of understanding toward a Dog Thinker. In the name of fairness, I must say that I may misunderstand Dog Thinker still.
I try my best, but I may misrepresent their logic at times. Especially Dog Thinker’s sexuality, which, to me, seems like an impossible combination of things, as they couldn’t look any less sexually attractive to me if they tried, the women especially, – even if they’re technically good looking. It’s like they’re not even trying, right? They’re stress on a stick, not sex on a stick to me.
So basically, at this stage, after 12 years on the job, I’m starting to have the points of disagreement marked down… But my answers are still shaky at times.
Us Cat Thinker can learn from them… I’m surprised to say.
Having said that, Cat Thinker CAN learn from the Dog Thinker – which I never thought I would ever say. Considering I’ve always taken them for absolute brain-dead zombies, I find it surprising. As it turns out, they have a point or two to make. I wouldn’t go so far as to say “we were wrong,” per say. I’ll say, tho, that sometimes, they have a way of thinking that can, if combined with a Cat Thinker romance and a True Emotion Mirror, can actually work out to something quite nice. Like… You take a humble pie and you add the True Emotion Mirror chili on it, and it can go down a treat… When otherwise, you wouldn’t touch it with a 6-foot pole.
But us Cat Thinker must be Cat Thinker first, and Dog Thinker second, and vice versa… Even though the Dog Thinker don’t have the brain to do what we do, and can’t be trained to think like a Cat, even if they could miow like one. They’re morons. 😉
(Outside this theory, I’m a dog person, just so you know. Love them on 4-legs… Where they belong. Scrubbing floors on all fours…)