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Review: Joe Perry’s Rocks My Life In and Out of Aerosmith

Joe Perry’s autobiography Rocks – My Life In and Out of Aerosmith has been out for a few weeks – as I made the mistake of ordering a Kindle version I had to wait for 2 weeks longer than others to get it into my hands, an outcome opposite to what I was thinking. The release of the Kindle edition was delayed probably to off set the paper/digital advantage, which I thought was dumb… But I don’t know if it’s a Kindle -standard idea or Perry’s team’s idea of a good ploy. At any rate, I read it, loved it, loved it some more, even though, at times it broke my heart.

As I am a huge Aerosmith fan, and I especially love the dynamic between Joe and Steven, having them both still struggle with their feelings for one another is distressing for me to read. As a soulmate expert, I just wish I could get them both into a room together so I could explain to them both a few fundamentals that they need to get sorted in order to live a happy life side by side and do some more music together – without delays! The bottom line is this: Joe loves Steven, Steven loves Joe. Both idolize each other to such extent that they fear nothing more than rejection from the other, both disregarding the other one’s love as a simple illusion or impossibility and as such wind up doing terrible things to one another, saying the most hurtful things and being just awful towards one another, simply because they think that the other thinks of themselves as highly as they think of the other, and as low as they think of themselves (loser/nerd). Steven thinks Joe is the coolest dude in the world and thinks Joe must be aware of the fact that he’s the coolest dude in the world. Joe doesn’t think much about his coolness – although is aware of it, but thinks Steven is the coolest guy in the world and that Steven must think the same about himself and in that setting they are both trying to measure up to the other’s coolness while constantly falling short – in their own mind. Typical Exact Spirit Mirror stuff. Painful but oh so typical. All coming from the deepest of feelings; complete, utter, maddening adoration for the other.

I personally loved the descriptions of the early years of Aerosmith, and how well Perry managed to describe some of the most amazing people, obviously my absolute favorite being Frank Connelly, who he described with such juicy turns of phrases! Who could believe such character exists! How unfortunate they lost him so early on to cancer, what a different career they would have had if Frank would have been able to steer them through the hardships of relationships and life. What a gift they had – and I am equally surprised Steven barely mentioned him in his autobiography Does the Noise in My Head Bother You? Quite honestly the few pages describing Frank Connelly was already worth buying the book, what an awesome chapter in one’s life!

What I wasn’t too sure about was the overall cleaned up feel to the book – story wise. It read as if Perry was worried Billie might not like what she finds out or that Perry was not too keen on sharing the gory details of drug abuse with judging fans and public. Not that I can blame him much, but I am sure that he got up to more trouble than what the book suggests, and that was the stuff I wanted to hear about. At least he gave a good mention to Sally and Judy, his early ‘girl friends’ who both excelled with the fact they didn’t form attachments to Perry, something that could have worked better for the band, but in the end wasn’t what Perry wanted for himself – or allowed himself to want as a long term solution.

What Perry and Tyler both weren’t too shy to disclose was the relationship they had with their manager Tim Collins, who single-handedly (and as a self-taught expert to Narcissistic Personality Disorder I must say judging from both Steven’s and Joe’s account, Collins was a bad case of an NPD gone wild on power – and wilder on losing it) made sure Steven’s and Joe’s relationship would be strained to the extreme. He took something so precious and tortured it to near death, simply because he wanted to control things. A lesson for us all to learn: Be wary when you accept generous help, it rarely comes without a pay slip in the form of dependence. I commend Perry for not hiding the fact he was the one who talked everyone else into taking Collins on board, something that a lot of people would have been tempted to down play or pass off as a mutual decision after the fact.

I must whole heartedly recommend Perry’s account on Aerosmith – having a co-author David Ritz on board gave the book a lot more coherent, clear approach than Stevens earlier book – sorry to be comparing but I cannot help it. The book was a joy to read and had me in tears in more than one occasion. Speaking of which, what an awesome mom he had allowing young Mr. Perry dive in self-made diving gear…! Those were the days when risks were taken and lot was survived! LOVED the opening.

If you know Joe, tell him I need to make him understand a few things about Steven; not because I would know him better, but because I know soulmate relationships and there is nothing about their relationship that cannot be fixed. Even that time with that private jet to rehab that for a moment knocked me cold in shock… As brutal as it was, hidden in there, deep down, was a painful message from Steven: “I love you.”


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