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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.


Antagonist Personality Mirrors

The Antagonist Personality Mirrors, as the name suggests are somewhat of your soul’s enemies, although not necessarily to begin with and probably not by the end of it all. You may start a friendship or a relationship with them only to realize you made a mistake. I have separated them into two categories, and in some cases I believe they can swap places in time.

Shop Window Personality Mirror (Madonna/Whore -like polarity)

I call this type of soulmate the Shop Window Personality Mirror, because looking at them is like looking at a window of a shop that has only one customer; you, and that shop has everything you haven’t bought yet in it’s stock. Now, this stuff maybe the stuff you couldn’t afford before or it’s stuff you don’t even want, but whatever it is, you don’t have it. They maybe the person you wish you were but aren’t or they could be the person you are thankful not to be. Whichever way it is, they are reminding you every day of who you are not. If you are friends, this probably means that what the other one is sort of adding to what the other one is, without either needing to acquire the other one’s skills or traits, but at the same time you either wish you could have those qualities or you are thankful that you don’t have to be them but are glad someone is.

As I said, they come in two flavors: The person I want to be but am not, and the person I am thankful to not be. These two versions have a very different effect on your life:

Junk Shop Window Personality Mirror

You feel sorry for who they have to be, but at the same time, you are proud and lucky to not be them. You may feel like you struck lucky, but in reality, this is their choice and it is your choice to be different, so you do not have to feel guilty because something about them is getting them what they want regardless of what it may look like. When you think about a Junk Shop Mirror, expand what they are across reincarnations and figure out what is it that makes them choose this way of being over and over. Do they get pity of favors because of the way they are? For example. I have one of these, of course, and the idea for this person is to make others treat them with less demands than anyone else because they “were born unlucky”. They don’t have to be as smart, as hard-working or even good looking to get what they want – in fact, all of this is getting them out of trouble continually. I understood that if they were born under luckier stars, namely, if they were better looking, not me nor my friends would put up with their bullshit, the way they treat everyone else. Because they were so unattractive, we simply opted out to “not notice” their character flaws as a favor because we thought they’d suffered enough. That allowed them to run the show and be the puppet master without anyone objecting to it. So, when you feel like you should be sorry for them… Reconsider.

The Elite Shop Window Personality Mirror

Roles reversed, you maybe looking at someone who is everything you want to be but are not. They are, literally, like an advertisement for the ambitious people on what kind of self-development solutions are out there for you and where you could aim to in your life. Granted, there are a lot of people who function a little like this, who simply have a few skills or traits that you would like to see in yourself, so in a way, everyone is sort of an example of what you could be, too, but it gets pretty annoying when you are being taunted by someone who is everything you want to be but are not. If you have someone like this in your life you are probably in denial about who you want to be and they are there like a red flag waving for you to see what you too could be if you simply accepted that you wanted this. They are there to awaken your jealousy and your need to become a better person, and once you do, the natural instinct is usually to keep well away from them because you don’t want the constant reminder of who you could be but aren’t… Unless you feel they could perhaps rub off on you a bit – the people with very little ego benefit a lot from an Elite Shop Mirror, because they are humble enough to take note and learn… Once they put their minds to it.

Propelling Personality Mirror

This type of anAntagonist is someone who is highly skilled in the same area that you are skilled at; be it attracting the members of the opposite sex or driving a car very fast around a racing track like James Hunt and Niki Lauda, a good example of Propelling Personality Mirrors. The name comes from the propelling effect: they fuel your need to win and be bigger, better and more, the need to out do them will drive you towards greater achievements and as they are your biggest competitor and also very capable of beating you in your own game, their bigger they get, the bigger you have to get to keep up with them, giving you both a great benefit in self-development. If you would only have to compete against people who you can easily beat, you wouldn’t need to constantly improve upon yourself, and secondly, a personal feud between yourself and the Propelling Personality Mirror will keep you at the competition (and at self-improvement) even if others did better than you do. Finland and Sweden are a pair of Propelling Spirit  Mirror countries, just like Australia and New Zealand. “Whatever you do, we need to beat you at it, and even if we were the last two to finish, I need to beat your ass doing it.” Without it being personal, it would be easy to just give up the game entirely, once the greats escape your scope: “Oh why bother, I’m miles from winning the competition, so I might as well give up…” but give you a Propelling Personality Mirror… “Oh dang it, I know I can’t beat THEM, but I sure can beat HIS POMPOUS ASS!”


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