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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.


Inflamed and Muted True Spirit Mirrors

Fear of rejection, doubts, suspicion

Muted True Spirit Mirrors

If you are lucky, if your True Spirit Mirror relationship goes wrong, one of you slams it on mute before going into a full-blown inflammation state. On the other hand, there is an argument to be made about the virtue of arguing with your True Spirit Mirror, but if you don’t know what to do, the best is to slam on the breaks and leave it hanging than to allow the relationship to “get infected”.

The Muted Phase comes naturally to Solid Thinkers who avoid conflict, as they never want to fight with the ones they love the most out of true love and respect for them, they’d rather do anything but hurt their loved ones, so they can disappear out of sight for a long while before reappearing again, hopefully with a plan.

And when I say “for a long time”, 20 years is not uncommon.

Inflamed State True Spirit Mirrors

The Inflammation of the True Spirit Mirror relationship is actually pretty rare, because it would take a full-blown Fluid Thinker and a Solid Thinker pairing to get it to this point, and it is rare that actual True Spirit Mirrors would be of different thinker alignment, but it’s possible. The more likely explanation to an inflamed relationship is not a True Spirit Mirror connection but a conflict of thinker alignments between non-compatible people. However… Although rare, it happens, and as one would have it, over a misunderstanding if it is a True Spirit Mirror relationship.

Between Hidden True Spirit Mirrors of the same gender and Bosom Spirit Mirrors, there is a conflict of one being more willing to be REALLY intimate with their friend (not even meaning sexual) while the other is perhaps more keenly aware of the sexual vibes between the two to allow the other too close. Fearing to find oneself gay or bi, or the fear of being seen as such, can make the other reject the too eager closeness of the other Рbut the interesting part is, that the one who IS aware of their sexual attraction to their Hidden True Spirit Mirror is the one rejecting the other, but if the chaser is the one aware of their sexual attraction, they may have mistaken the type of a connection we speak of and the rejection is absolutely real.

In True Spirit Mirror relationship, the most likely cause for an instant inflammation is when the girl is working from an ideal that is not authentically hers, and rejects the advances of her True Spirit Mirror on the day/night they’ve met under the instruction of her elders. She may know she’s acting against her own self, makes herself harden up, which is then misinterpreted by the guy as contempt or ridicule, or as a true rejection, and he, embarrassed about having thought as highly of himself as being wanted by a girl of her kind, shoots back to save face and the mess is about done.

Another source of inflammation between actual True Spirit Mirrors (as opposed to lower level Mirrors who simply don’t get it) is one person’s denial of their mutual true sexual fetishes. When one of them, for instance, cannot tolerate the knowledge that they are turned on by something like BDSM for instance, and their True Spirit Mirror tries to tie them down for the first time, the one in denial may freak out to an inconceivable level: “Who do you think I am…!!” Their idea of the perfect romance shatters, and they run – not from their True Spirit Mirror but from facing themselves.


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