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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.

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Interrupted state True Spirit Mirror

Usually what happens is that the pair meets, they walk straight to each other. They start a conversation and even a relationship, and they try to behave like this was just any other normal relationship. The soul connection is confronting to them, especially if they do not accept the possibility of true love or soul mate connections, so they simply “freak out”, they start looking for reasons for the relationship to not be as good as it seems to be. Every warning that their parents have given them about romantic relationships will come crashing into their minds: “Don’t trust a guy no matter HOW much in love you think you are! They are only after that one thing and you have to be careful so he doesn’t take advantage of you!” When he refuses to meet her parents yet, because he knows the relationship needs time to develop and mature, she believes she’s being used for sex and “knows” the relationship needs to end. (How ugly when you think about the first version to this story.)

Even the slightest ripple can cause the relationship from developing normally, and the pair goes into a slight to severe shock as a result… Sometimes this shock can be soul-destroying. What happens is that when they initially met, they both knew who the other was. Then, as the other decides to err on the side of caution, the other feels that they are not trusted, and that the other one doesn’t feel the same level of love and connection as they themselves do. As a reaction to the slight hesitation, they pull back, which, in turn, causes the other to go into a state of shock; “So I was right to be cautious!” Things snowball from there.

The hesitation can also stem from profound love and admiration toward the other, combined with a poor self-esteem: “I am not worthy of someone like that, I feel as though they love me, but I cannot give myself a compliment that huge and to expect someone like that to really love someone like me.” Politely, they pull back from the connection¬†while the other is left wondering why they other doesn’t trust them or love them.

At this state, the relationship very often spirals into an interrupted state, where the pair simply pulls back before more damage is done: They respect one another too much to really work things out, and they doubt the possibility that such a connection would exist too much to trust their instincts about the matter, and they take steps back until they have lost contact entirely.

The other option is that they get so driven by their own selfish needs to complete the connection that they attack each other brutally and go into an inflated state, that I also sometimes call the demonic phase, just to give a more apt description.

Sometimes the relationship goes into the interrupted state under pressure from others. A lot of times the True Spirit Mirror relationship looks really ugly or worrying to the on-lookers. It may seem he is taking advantage of her, or that she is taking advantage of him, when both of them have a strong intoxicating attraction for each other, that their friends and family is “clouding their judgment”. But nothing clouds a judgment more than fear and insecurity, and it takes courage to trust a relationship that looks all wrong on the surface and feels so good on the inside that words cannot explain it, and every word that would accurately describe it sounds like mental illness or loss of sanity to sheer sexual chemistry…



 

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