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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.

Exact Personality Mirrors

The non-compromising soulmates

as in both of the 1st and 2nd Tier Exact Personality Mirrors

What is in common to all Exact Personality Mirrors is that for the relationship to survive you do not compromise on who you are, want to be or want to become and demands absolute 100% honesty to thrive. All editing of one’s own true personality towards what is “approved”, expected by society or other third party, or “the right thing to be/do/think” is a danger to this relationship, because the people involved love each other for exactly who they are in their true state of being, in their natural, unobstructed personality. This personality is not “angelic” or in any way inhuman, quite the opposite, it contains everything that you are and have been in your previous incarnations; the good, bad, and the ugly.

If you want to be loved for who you are, you have to risk to be hated for those same qualities.

Because we mostly live surrounded by Partial Personality Mirrors, we get told over and over that we need to be someone else; someone more manageable and more reasonable, etc. Obeying that will directly cause problems with your most important soulmates; the Exact Personality Mirrors. In essence, Partial Personality Mirrors are people who do not love you for who you are, but they love you for who you could be if they had the chance of molding you into their own liking; often into their own image that they love more than you. (Exact Spirit Mirrors are sometimes dissatisfied with you, however, because they can see the full potential of who you are; the part that is unused, and they may push you towards fulfilling your full potential, but this demand feels GOOD, liberating and supportive when it comes from an Exact Spirit Mirror, while it feels intrusive and unwelcome from a Partial Mirror.) What is in common with the 1st and 2nd Tier Exact Personality Mirrors is that they hate everything about you that is inauthentic, borrowed, anything you do out of a sense of responsibility or duty (or outside your own inner values) because they see you are hurting yourself and they cannot stand the sight of it. They will rather reject you for who you are not than to love you for the small parts that are truly visibly you. The more you try to please the median opinion, the less loved you are by your ultimate soulmates, which means don’t sell out if you want your Exact Spirit Mirrors to love you!

The reason why I describe them as “purifying, uncompromising” soulmates is exactly this; they are like a chemical process that purifies your element from any impurities you have picked up whilst mixing with other people. This process is often heated and even violent, but it has one purpose only; To force you to be honest about who you are. To be fair, also Antagonist Mirrors have the purpose of purifying you, but you react to it by starting the purifying process in order to get rid of them, not in order to join them like with the Exact Spirit Mirrors, True Spirit Mirrors in particular.


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