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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.


General Description of Solid Spirit Mirrors (True Spirit Mirrors)

How Solid Thinkers fall in love

Their eyes meet across the room, and instantly, They Know. This goes beyond sexual attraction, it goes beyond curiosity, or logic, they simply KNOW this is the person who they have looked for their entire lives. This is a profoundly sexual feeling, wrapped up in intoxicating feeling of love, and therefore it is not the same as “oh that’s my (future) wife” or “that is my (future) husband” because that may be another type of a soulmate, but it goes deeper, it goes into every cell of their body, like looking into another person’s soul at the same time as you look into your own, knowing that this relationship may not be simple at all, but is wrapped up in a millennia of pain and pleasure. There is a sense of intoxication, the sense of dropping into a timeless state, becoming instantly aware of one’s own soul and it’s timelessness, the sensation of knowing this person exactly, what has been and what will be, what happened – even if you cannot remember it exactly, you remember the emotion of the events… you KNOW.

This moment is often followed by a state of fear, doubt, playing it down, explaining it away, and any number of feelings that logic dictates on you.

True Spirit Mirrors, as in the 1st Tier Exact Personality Mirrors are the MOST intense, the MOST amazing, the most incredible connection you can have with another human being and is marked by a lot of logical doubt that fights the instinctive knowledge. This person is everything you could possibly want from a love relationship and as unbelievable as that sounds, they do exist. They fall in love at first sight – or very quickly – there is a powerful sexual chemistry that even scares people; men especially: “You are going to use that power to control me!”

What all True Spirit Mirror subcategories have in common is that they all describe the same type of connection in different stages of development and soul history. It is necessary to describe each separately, because what the relationship looks like from the moment the pair’s eyes meet is different based on what has happened between them in their previous lifetimes, and each stage has its own problems, and only one stage is such that should be exposed to family and friends let alone marriage without the danger of a breakup. Although this connection is timeless and will never truly break, it is the most unstable relationship before it reaches the Mature State, but once there, there is nothing that will truly break it, nothing at all. The reason for the initial instability is the lack of jealousy and the presence of utter respect of the other person, and the belief that “I am never going to be enough for someone like that”, especially in people who are used to rejecting other people due to seemingly small details that are just not right because they are desirable people to a lot of people. A realization of possibly not being enough for this person can then lead to different action; either decision to do whatever it takes to be enough, or giving up the fight fearing it will never be. At the same time, the other party feels the same way, and both will let go too easily. Younger Soul True Spirit Mirrors will hang on more fearlessly, with a more animalistic sense of ownership than the older and ancient, who have more awareness of other people and the importance of such things as intelligence in a sexual relationship – sapiosexuals, in other words, are the most vulnerable, because it is difficult to instinctively measure intelligence, particularly one’s own in direct comparison to someone super impressive. This is not to say the IQ has to be equal, it’s just that when it is valued high, the fear of not being intelligent enough for someone else becomes a point of fear. (This meaning all types of intelligence, social, sexual, creative, etc.)

Each person technically has an unlimited number of any type of soulmates, including True Spirit Mirrors, but in practicality is most likely anywhere between 0 to 50 depending on several factors. The number depends on their own, authentic (their true feelings as opposed to the “I should feel this way but I don’t”) ideal on how many there is going to be, and also how many connections they have developed to a high level (one is also a perfectly good number for some people, although THIS is actually pretty rare). It is to be expected, that not all people have a 3rd stage (mature) True Spirit Mirrors because these connections need time and closeness to develop, but all Solid Thinkers are likely to have several Growing/Interrupted and Uncharted True Spirit Mirrors.

It is more than likely that most people also have Inflamed True Spirit Mirrors and Hidden True Spirit Mirrors, but the Mature True Spirit Mirror is, by far the rarest soulmate connection because it required complete honesty, authenticity, an iron-glad self-esteem and an ability to put oneself in the risk of getting badly hurt to have been developed in the first place. This connection does not come easy nor ready-made, and although previous lifetimes experience makes it easier to trust this connection above the earlier state True Mirrors, it does not guarantee an easy ride when the pair or group meets again.

For a clear Solid Thinker, the tell-tell-sign of a True Spirit Mirror relationship is that they turn a quite Fluid for this person. This means that although they would not happily change for anyone (although they might try to, and when they do, they feel bad about doing so,) but for a True Spirit Mirror they will want to evolve; expand, be more for them, and to be a better (suited) person for them. The True Spirit Mirrors will always attempt to model after the strongest of the pair/group in order to become equal (again) as they always have what it takes to do so and find the challenge pleasurable, while the Partial and Adjusting Spirit Mirrors will always try to lower the bar so that everyone can stumble over it somehow, (and often create pedestals under each other just to feel equal to them). True Spirit Mirrors will expand gladly, and even when they grumble and complain about not being enough, they kind of know they will do the work anyway because they, ultimately, cannot leave this one alone. Without an ego fighting them, they will wish nothing more than to be the dream girl/boyfriend for this person, and the feeling is mutual, whether they are aware of each other’s feelings or not is another question entirely. (Don’t panic if all of this doesn’t seem to be applying to you here, there are so many different situations it is impossible to mention them all here, and it will take me a lifetime to list them all in a blog! However, if you feel like it would be too much trouble to put effort into this relationship or a relationship, or you feel like it’s a necessity rather than a natural reaction to it, you are thinking about another type of a soulmate. Even if you worked hard to be your True Spirit Mirror’s ideal partner, it never feels like hard work, it’s a joy or a pleasurable challenge to you – or you imagine your True Spirit Mirror wants you to be more than what you already are, even though they don’t, and that is simply a reaction to your own insecurities regarding this person.)

True Spirit Mirror relationship stages

1st Tier Exact Personality Mirrors – Complete, ultimate, ideal lovers with millennia of history, connection tried and tested, broken, fixed, broken again…

Mature True Spirit Mirror

(old, fully developed connection)

Imagine Italy, the land of Amore, and the mature aged couple, surrounded by adoring children and family members, who admire this older couple for their flaming love that has endured unchanged for all the decades they’ve been together, and shows no signs of dying out. They love and tease one another, they flirt all the time as they are completely enamored by one another; as much as they love their children, that love pales in comparison to the adoration they feel for each other, and they want nothing  more for their children than for them to find this same love as they feel for each other. They love to give love advice to the younger ones who are still struggling with their lover’s quarrels and confused emotions because they know how enthralling phase that was, young love, that titillating feeling of not knowing whether your heart is going to be squashed or rescued; They are mature stage True Spirit Mirrors. (Different personalities live different lifestyles, but this does describe it very well.)

This ancient lover of your soul has been with you through thick and thin. You have loved each other for so long you don’t know how not to love each other anymore, they are like the air you breathe, and your souls have been entwined together by complete adoration, admiration and complete love toward the other. Once you return to each other, at first, every doubt you’ve ever held about true love will evaporate into the thin air, you KNOW it so deeply that THIS is what people are talking about, THIS is it… And usually within the next few minutes every doubt you have held in your mind about your own worth and the possibility of finding true love will return ten fold and tell you to run from this connection because you believe you are fooling yourself into thinking this is real – or a thousand other reasons that cause fear. When you first meet/met in this lifetime, you knew each other at the first sight, and you knew you returned to your long lost lover. You already know what is fulfillment, what is the surrender, but that is not necessarily where you are currently (on the surface). Every bit of hurt that you felt the moment you last met, will also be present, and so this connection CAN start from the point of an Inflamed True Spirit Mirror, that I have described separately because it looks so different at times. You pick up where you left off, but the difference of who you are now and what you have been taught about love (as in “don’t trust your feelings”) will cause problems… Read more…

Growing / Interrupted True Spirit Mirror relationship 

(old to ancient, partially developed connection)

It is very rare to find your True Spirit Mirror in any other phase than this or to stay in a Mature State for longer than a few hours, before freaking out and slipping into this stage. Because of this, the Mature State True Spirit Mirrors often meet when there is something or someone standing in their way, in order to function as a buffer to get them used to each other’s presence again. Often the buffer stops them from spinning completely out of control if they were there just by the two of them, and in many ways, the Mature State True Spirit Mirrors need to “sneak around their spouse” for a while to avoid slipping into this stage. In an ideal world, the Growing state True Spirit Mirror would be allowed all the time in the world to develop into a fully blooming relationship, but in the modern world, this process gets interrupted far more often than not. Because we are all basing our expectations of what is supposed to happen when bonding with a Partial Spirit Mirror, we hurry things along partly out of embarrassment of having to admit that “No, we haven’t kissed yet. No, no holding hands… No, I haven’t raked up the courage to talk to him/her yet.” In this phase, we are like 12-year olds again, we see the other and freak out. We don’t know how to behave, when normally confident people suddenly realize that Oh My God… I don’t know what to do… And we clamp up and without proper encouragement from those who have reached the Mature State, we give up on the relationship. It is simply too weird, too much, too hot, and “too good to be true or last”.

We should simply enjoy the uncertainty, grin at the people who question our famous abilities to seduce anyone we like by simply saying: “Oh, he’s / she’s the one person that makes me FEEL like I have something to lose here. He / she is one in a million and I am not going to mess this up by being stupid. Let me take my time.”

It is common to give up on your True Spirit Mirror in this phase by convincing yourself that this is not ever going to work; it is “just lust” or “they are acting weird, mentally unstable, even”. Read more.

Uncharted True Spirit Mirror

(new, completely undeveloped connection, perhaps the experience of the originator of the Twin Flame theory)

The Uncharted True Spirit Mirror is an interesting phenomenon and a very rare one at that. This is something who you have never (really) met in a previous lifetime, if you have, you have barely spoken. You are complete, utter strangers, but instinctively you know they would be perfect for you, and that your minds and personalities would simply slide into place together if given a chance. Everything about you two would work, you simply do not have any previous experience of it, and it is an intriguing feeling, at least to an ancient spirit, who has pretty much done them all by now. 😉 The Uncharted Spirit Mirror gives you almost an eerie, creepy feeling because you feel like everything about their energy matches yours, but you know they are a stranger to you. They are almost uncomfortable to be with, because that energy matches that of yours so perfectly, and they are also physically so attractive to you that you don’t quite know how to handle yourself around them. Truly amazing, probably the connection that started the “rumor” that Twin Flames have never met in a previous lifetime before because that feeling is STRONGLY present. Read more.

Inflamed True Spirit Mirror (old connection in severe crisis, “demonic nightmare soul”)

I also call this phase True Spirit Mirrors the Demonic Nightmare Souls, because of the way they relate to you. This is luckily potentially a fleeting phase, but can, even in milder forms, take a decade or two to sort itself out, but fleeting in the sense of eternity. There is a lot of hurt in this phase, something has happened that has left your, or your soulmate’s soul hurting, it is most likely a misunderstanding, inability to accept one’s own blame or some fear that isn’t true that is making the pain so strong. We do have a habit of telling ourselves stories about the other so that we could convince ourselves to “do the sensible thing” and leave this relationship alone. When you tell yourself enough of these stories, you start to believe them to be true. Usually, our worst fears are being reflected in the way we think the other one thinks about us and that creates the state of inflammation.

The basis of the problems stems most likely in suppressed sexual feelings, taboos that cannot surface due to societal sexual shaming and demonization of certain acts. To describe it; it can be difficult for a person to accept it about themselves that they would, in their heart of hearts, want to prostitute their own daughter to every man that visits them, because, deep down, they know that is what their daughter wants… That can cause a few problems in terms of fully opening up to someone, don’t you think? But more commonly, the Inflamed State is about a firm belief that “You think I am not good enough for you because I such and such.” Read More.

Hidden True Lover (Spirit Mirrors)

These ones are fantastic fun when the suppressed sexual feelings are not pressed too far down. The Hidden True Lovers challenge and make you question your sexuality, most of the time, and they often pass for 2nd Tier Exact Spirit Mirrors but are really 1st Tiers hiding. The reason they are hiding is often a taboo of a sort. This could mean a same-gender True Spirit Mirror who you cannot quite see in that light yet, even though your connection is clearly sexual – perhaps you two are the only ones who haven’t noticed it yet. Most often this denotes a multi-True Personality Mirror connection, as in same gender partners in a mutual Polygamous union (Poly Flame). Whatever they are, they do bring out something in you that you never thought you had; they may turn you from a perfectly normal red-blooded male into a cross-dressing homosexual, at least momentarily. This connection is also often a cause for someone to attach a permanent homosexual label onto themselves even though they were merely sexually attracted to this one particular individual. Read more.




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