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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.


The Unrejected Potential True Spirit Mirror

This one, I admit, is quite a mind-fuck

OK… As I’ve said many times, the soulmate connections are not “is” or “is not” but a choice from potential. We all have TONS AND TONS of compatible partners in this world, and we choose out of them what we want and would enjoy. Your True Spirit Mirrors are defined by them always wanting the same thing for themselves as you’d choose for yourself, and that their happiness is your happiness and you are a part of their happy place in life.

However… Conflicts arise when Potential True Spirit Mirrors, the soulmates that the Universe is putting in your path as a suggestion: “I know this is a little out there, but how about it..?” When one of them says “Yes, sir!” and the other goes: “I think not” problems arise.

Often, the runner doesn’t even want to acknowledge the relationship enough to reject it, because there is an aspect in it that they don’t even want to entertain as an idea. Gay-relationships being one good example. Although we are all ever so slightly bent, it is a choice whether you want to indulge in them or not. But whatever the reason for rejection, it could be a small thing, too, for instance, someone otherwise perfect but over-weight, someone too tall, too short, too old, and so forth, but as the reason is often insanely small, and often there hasn’t been enough conversation to even clearly reject someone, but even more commonly; the one who doesn’t want that relationship doesn’t want to say it out loud: “I don’t want you because you’re fat, and I’m not even remotely inclined to change my mind on that!” People simply don’t say things like that out loud, even if they were thinking about that, and THAT creates the unrejected True Spirit Mirror.

What the runner needs to do is to simply lay it out in very clear terms. If that doesn’t help, following one’s natural instinct is in order. A rejection done with a ROARING voice on a public place is quite likely to sink in a lot easier than a polite: “I will get back to you at some stage, it was nice seeing you again” in the hopes that they’ll get the message when week 5 has passed. Don’t be afraid to truly embarrass this person, because the other alternative is physical violence coupled with a clear “I don’t want you!” and that is not a good approach.

You may want to do this “in spirit” only, imagine what it would feel like to make a commitment to this person, and imagine how you would feel about it. By a commitment, I mean a feeling that accepts them for who they are as they accept you for who you are, and a commitment to be truthful and honest to them and to work out your differences and issues. What you’ll instinctively think you’d do will be interesting to see.

Also, mind you that if you feel at all guilty about rejecting someone, it is interpreted as doubt of your resolve, so work through your feelings of guilt before you even mention it.

Once the Unrejected Potential True Spirit Mirror has been rejected, they’ll fall into the category of the 2nd Tier Exact Spirit Mirror, and into the appropriate subcategory, sometimes even into the Bosom Spirit Mirror category despite having made sexual advances before.

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