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Please note that these posts describe a relationship between two or more individuals. This is a soulmate typology, not a personality typology. You always need a MINIMUM of two people to decide which relationship type is in question, but you can read what would be your ideal relationship type based on your thinker type.

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The Permanent Runner/Chaser Dynamic

The reluctant Solid Thinker and the Chasing Fluid Thinker

It is an enormous difficulty that this message sinks in with a Fluid Thinker. You cannot FORCE anyone into a relationship with you, no matter how much you want it, and no matter how good you think you would be for the other person, the Solid Thinker. This is not to say that the Fluid and Solid Thinker relationships will never work, but it is to say that even at best of times they take an enormous amount of effort compared to Fluid-to-Fluid and Solid-to-Solid pairings and groupings.

This is also not to say that the Fluid Thinkers won’t get what they want out of this relationship, it simply means that the Fluid Thinkers MUST stop thinking about this relationship as a sexual/romantic relationship, and start thinking it as a friendship or a student/tutor relationship.

The Fluid Thinkers must understand that the Solid Thinkers have specific needs for their primary love relationship that the Fluid Thinkers ARE NOT ready to fulfill. It is ONLY through the Solid Thinkers patience and will to teach the Fluid Thinker the necessary traits this particular Solid Thinker may want out of them, but the vast majority of Solid Thinkers feel that this would go against everything they believe to be right in a relationship; to them, individuality is a secret thing that they will not tamper with, so they will need to understand the Fluid Thinker’s need to conform and to be subjected under a rule – they are looking for a dominant, someone who will train them into the ideal partner in this relationship. The Fluid Thinker is chasing the Solid Thinker to be their coach, and it is solely in the hands of the Solid Thinker to decide whether or not they take on the job, and under which conditions. (Think 50 Shades of Gray and the contract.)

The Fluid Thinker in this relationship will only ever get as much say in it as the Solid Thinker allows them to. If this relationship is to go on, the Solid Thinker is to be the unquestioned dominant, and the Fluid Thinker his or her servant. However… As I mentioned, not all Solid Thinkers are AT ALL inclined to train anyone to be their intimate partner, but they may be more inclined to teach someone another role in their lives, which sometimes is more than sufficient – or even ideal – for the Fluid Thinker.

The Solid Thinker MUST SEE potential in the Fluid Thinker and take them on at their own belief that this person has got what it takes to become what they want out of them, think any Hollywood movie of a reluctant teacher or mentor followed around by a pestering novice – the Fluid Thinker.

It is an instinct that drives the Fluid Thinker into chasing the Solid Thinker: “You know something I need to learn, please teach me”. The Solid Thinker may see the potential and feel the need to guide them, but they are more than likely to decline the offer as they feel it to be unethical or taking advantage of the Fluid Thinker’s naivety. As far as romantic relationships go, the Solid Thinker is unlikely to be in any way interested in training themselves a lover, but some may happily take the offer, should they first understand why it is not a bad thing for the Fluid Thinker.



 

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