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A rock fan. A thinker. A psychic empath and a channel, a Tarot reader. A polyandrist; The lover of men, kings, and gods. An eternal romance analyzer.  A romantic pervert. Generation X Rebel. A psycho-spiritual life coach.

The Problematic Menu

Find your problem, and I'll serve up the solution

I’ve only started this website, but I’ll write solutions to these problems as fast as I can make it happen. Please comment if you have found your problem with no reply yet, and I’ll move it on the top of my list. 🙂 Also, if you can’t see it, comment and I’ll add it – it will help others.

The links open in a new tab because you might find several posts you want to read, so open them up and read through the list for more awesome answers.


Just Clear Answers, please!

I feel like nobody is telling me how to behave and what is expected of me as a human being. Everyone is repeating crap like “just be yourself” and I don’t know what that even means! Help!

I feel utterly confused about life in general. I feel overwhelmed and insufficient in many ways. How does everyone else make it all look so easy when I struggle with every little detail?!


Find commitment

I want a committed relationship but I can’t find anyone willing to give me a commitment.

A bit of a Control Freak

I have trouble getting people do what I want them to do.

Self-destructive loved one

I feel like I cannot control a loved one who seems self-destructive.

No Grand Children

My daughter/son is refusing to give me grand children, and I simply want some, and I want them to feel the joys of parenthood… How do I convince them it’s not that hard?

Social pressures

Social Obligation Allergy

I hate the feeling of obligation in some relationships, like family relationships, but I feel guilty for it.

Stuck In The Comfort Zone

I feel I want to take more risks in my life than what I am allowed to take by society’s standards.

The Must Have Item

I like stuff, but I don’t know what is the thing that would really give people the right message about me.

Wanted by the wrong people

I feel like I’m being pulled into a group of friends I don’t want to hang out with. Not really “a bad crowd” just that I don’t really like them but they seem to want me for a friend… Insistingly so.

What do they want?!

I feel a lot of people want my attention for some reason, but I really don’t have time for them – why don’t they just go away?

The Key

I feel like I can’t get someone’s attention, I need them to fix something for me (teach me the secret they know), but they’re refusing. How do I force them to take me into account?


I simply want to live my life free from everyone else’s opinion, what the hell do I do to make that happen, with all my current and future responsibilities…

Boxed up

I feel pushed into a smaller box than what I feel comfortable in. I feel guilty for not wanting to get into it or stay in it because everyone around me does so with relative ease. I hate that. Can’t I just be who I am?

Relationship Limbo

Everyone’s problem

I want way better sex than what I am currently getting. I feel bored in my sex life and I am too old to believe changing partners would do that big of a difference, everyone is the same, aren’t they? (This rabbit hole will lead to a long post trail as this may not be everyone’s problem but the people to whom this is not a problem to are the problem.)

Friend Zoned

I am getting systematically friend zoned as the “cute friend oh but I couldn’t date you because you’re so nice…!”

Anti-social dating

I am a bit anti-social, don’t want to meet people but I want a relationship. Yep.

The Benefits Only

I don’t want the complications of a relationship but I’d like the sex, please.

No Man’s Land

I feel someone is not letting me close, but they’re also not letting me go away.

Stay here, go away

I feel I can’t let someone close, but I also cannot let them go for some reason.

One Man Neverland

I have someone in my life who seems to think my entire life’s purpose is to be their amusement park with no regard to the work they make me do on their behalf.

One-eyed ally

I know someone who simply refuses to see the bigger picture, they’re entirely focussed on one small detail and it is a completely irrelevant detail to me… How do I make them see my perspective?

Lion Tamer

I feel like I need to tame someone who doesn’t want to be tamed… How do I do that?

Always Cheated On

Somehow, I wind up with men/women who keep cheating on me. Why am I drawn to these same people over and over?!

I’m Always Cheating!

I go into a relationship, I am fully and utterly committed, but in no time I find myself in someone else’s bed. What the hell am I doing?!

Career Problems and Life Plans

Career Limbo

I have a lot of internal conflict about what I want to do vs. what I should do, but I also don’t really know what would be worth the drama of going against the grain of people.

Life Limbo

I feel like I am always waiting for my life to start, and I’m getting sick of the eternal waiting.

Pre-lived life plans

I feel limited by other people, the optional paths in life are pretty pre-set and they all seem boring.

Chasing a rabbit

I think I’m working too hard for no real gain. I keep doing something over and over and getting nowhere. I’m not exactly sure what I’m trying to achieve, either. (Don’t tell me to stop, tell me how to get ahead.)

Goal seeking Consistency in CBD

I am working on something and I keep starting projects but never finishing them… I maybe a bit manic, but how can I learn to get on top of this or feel calmer about it all?

Self-control issues

Dare Devil

I think I’m a bit of a risk taker, and not in a good way. I feel like I’m taking too many risks, even against my own will, like something drives me into these things even though I try to stop.


I have two (or more) values and I don’t know how to order them; which is more important, what should I put my focus on.


I am completely consumed by a certain detail about my life… I know it is a problem but I don’t know how to stop, what am I doing?

Irrational fear

I fear, against all reason, that my life is suddenly going to turn upside down, there is no reason to fear, but I fear anyway… Why do I feel this way?



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