Narcissism: rejection and claiming of a label despite behavior.

Another narcissistic quirk that I want to point out just for the sake of curiosity is the habit of rejecting or claiming a label despite one’s behavior. “I want all of Johnny’s money, but I’m not a gold digger!” “I am speaking on behalf of all trans people every chance and broadcast I can, but I am not an activist!” “I gave my children a ton of childhood traumas, but I’m a great mother!” “Yes, well, I start fires here and there, but I’m an awesome firefighter!”

A narcissist doesn’t want to attach negative labels to themselves, but wants the positive ones, and they also don’t want the burden of having to behave in the manner as the labels describe or want to be excused for behaving in that manner. They are basically saying: “I know I do this, but I don’t want you to dislike/judge me for it, so you don’t have to!” or “I know I do/did that, but you still need to admire me for technically being it, you know I want to be admired for it so you can!” There’s an innocence in narcissists that quite blows the mind of a normal person. They don’t see what they do as dishonest, just… “Well, I don’t like that so… I want to be seen this way and I know you think that’d be better, too!”

Narcissists play a game of pretend everywhere they go. It’s not malicious in intent, it’s just their way of looking at the world. I’m not saying you should accept it because it’s not malicious, I’m just saying it’s not malicious because it isn’t. It’s just like children playing pretend; they assume you love the game just as adults love to play pretend with children. No harm in it… They just become better at the game, in some sense, but this “I know I suck cock but that doesn’t make me gay” -way of thinking is just one of the developmental phases.

 

 

Cult Leaders wanted. (Not by me, tho.)

I want to liberate people. I want people to be able to be their authentic selves and find whoever loves them for whatever they are. There are a TON of people who look up to me to whip them into shape and to mold them to my image (thinking that’d be possible without any will to do anything for anybody else but me, being completely fucking blind to anybody but me and thinking somehow they can fucking help me achieve something I want.) There are also people who fight their urge and wish to whip people into shape, and fear they’re breaking some moral rule, feeling that way.

You all need to meet up. If you only want to please ONE PERSON, your leader/boss/friend you’re a Dog Type Thinker, and if you really want people to worship the ground you walk on, you’re a Dog Type Thinking Alpha. An alpha dog. You guys do you.

I’ve got a different jam but I’ll try to help you all meet up, because, well, that’s the kind of shit Cat Type Thinking people do.

Love whomever you love….

Despite my usual tone in my posts, I am not telling you to get rid of people who you love. I’m explaining to Cat Type Thinkers why it’s vital for them to not hang onto accessory relationships. The kind they have in order to gain approval or admiration from moral people. If you have friends who are there simply to flag your moral superiority or moral deeds in general, you are still hanging onto some false ego. You cannot use other people (like handicapped people, mentally challenged people, black people (same category, lol), uglier women than yourself or uglier than you truly find sexually attractive, etc) to make yourself look moral.

That said, if you truly love someone for whatever reason (maybe because they’re far sexier than anyone else, maybe, maybe you love someone butt ugly and stupid because they’re goofy and funny, I don’t know), whatever you love them for, love them as you do. Radical acceptance. No judgment on my part. If someone makes you happy by being there, and they feel the same way about you, all’s good. Let them run you to the ground if you feel they’re worth it.

Get rid of everyone who isn’t worth their shit to you, tho, and feel no judgment from me.