the Savants* want to stand out, the Normal Person* want to vanish into a group.

the Savants* will insult the Normal Person* when they’re paying them a compliment, and vice versa. The Savants* like to think they’re special and unique without comparison, and the Normal Person* want to know they fit a mold and are like everybody else. They just want to be like everybody else. Now, what “everybody else” is perceived to be determines what the Normal Person* of Thinker wants to be seen as. If everybody else is a unique individual, they want to be uniquely individual the same way.

“You’re just like everyone else” is a compliment to the Normal Person*

So, if Type Thinkers compliment the Normal Person* for being ‘unlike anyone they’ve ever met,’ they would tell the Normal Person* they’re completely off the rails with their attempt to be a proper person. When a Savants* wants to make a person feel loved, they emphasize the ways they’re different. To the Normal Person*, it’s abusive; you’re pointing out all the ways they’re failing to meet the simplest of expectations.

When the Normal Person* wants to make a person (like their child) feel relaxed, they’ll pretend no to notice they’re different in any remarkable way. They will also assume that if you think someone is different, you also assume that person is somehow of higher value than yourself and that you erroneously imagine you have to submit to their will because you think they’re superior. (They’re trying to work out why you’d say “they’re unlike anyone I’ve ever met and I love them therefore I need to leave you and go with them.”) They assume everybody would, first of all, rather be with their family than their friends, so if someone is leaving one or both to be with “someone special,” they view that “special person” akin to a slave owner or… A dog owner. “He/she is taking you from your family, they’re evil.” If you further explain that you’re similar to the person you’re leaving them for, they assume you’re putting yourself down, you “must” leave because you are “flawed” (different) the same way as the person you’re going to is flawed. “You belong in the same pile of trash,” is what they think you’re saying.

Lowering the bar so that everyone can feel they can make it

the Normal Person* like to lower the entry requirements to next to nothing so that everyone can get in, so to speak. Their group dynamics are “closed” once they have enough friends, but while they’re looking, they’ve got two problems: To be approachable while still qualifying. Therefore, they need to be seemingly decent while still never too close to perfection to intimidate people. If they see another person who is intimidating, however, they impress their impressive looks or status as “poor self-confidence” as they’re “prepping themselves to a superior position,” thinking they cannot be unconditionally loved like a normal person.

Therefore, they’ll easily try and befriend a “superior” person, only to give them the permission to relax their standards. They’ll buy a Ferrari to make it into a shopping trolly.

To keep the Normal Person* from your tail, you need friends.

There is basically no way a Savants* can convince the Normal Person* that their help is not needed by you, that you’re fine and all, other than to have visible friends (as opposed to your imaginary friends, lol.) You need to show an alliance to someone. And I suggest the Savants* should ally with other the Savants* for appearances sake… And also, because we really like each other, even if we weren’t 100% right for each other. Still, compared to the Normal Person*, any the Savants* is a better match than.

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