Your choices and dreams are yours, what you want is what you want – nothing is right in its wrong place.

I’ll share a personal anecdote.

When I was younger, all my life, in fact, I’ve always wanted to be a sex worker of some description. Anything to do with sex work, I was interested, intrigued by it. I was not stupid, desperate, or pressured into it; I was simply fascinated by it. Still, all the “air” surrounding it. All the girls are on drugs, struggling to face a mirror every day. They’re victims of male desires, victims, victims victims. I couldn’t see it. I simply couldn’t work out what was so horrible about it. So, I figured that as I can’t even see the risk, I better not take it.

Now I see what the risk is: If you’re closet lesbian, you’re going to be seeing men primarily as wallets and security guards. It makes sense to a closet lesbian to turn tricks for monetary compensation – this has a natural link… To a closet lesbian. To a heterosexual woman and a polyandrist at that, sex work sounds like being paid to eat candy all day. It’s an entirely different matter! OF COURSE, a lesbian woman or a polygynist woman is going to suffer being a constant object of sexual desire or acts from men. Heck, if I would have to do sex work with women to keep myself alive, I would off myself in a week! I’m not sure I’d survive a day.

The moral of this story is:

Whatever you want to be is YOUR PLACE. It’s reserved for you.

It would make no sense if everyone wanted the same thing and to be the same thing. It would result in absolute chaos. We’re all different, and we all want SLIGHTLY different things. Your place is where the shoe fits. Sure, 4 guys may want to be in a band, yes? One wants to sing, the other wants to play the lead guitar, the third wants to play the bass, and the fourth wants to always be mentioned last and made cruel jokes about because they want to play the drums. We can’t all be the drummer, and not all of us want to be the drummer, even though it’s the easiest job in the band. Hehe.

Your difference is what gives this world its balance.

It wouldn’t do if we all wanted to do nothing but have babies. It would result in chaos. We’ve nearly killed this planet with that kind of thinking. It is natural we have gays and lesbians who don’t have a natural instinct to breed, even if they have a natural instinct to raise children. (Polymashups?) I wouldn’t go as far as to say transgenderism is entirely natural, but I do believe it is a spiritual influence that hit that, too… Could it be that we truly went and filled the world a bit too efficiently? The castrated generation will potentially save the world… Until the polygamous generation takes over and keeps the number of children to 4 to 10 women instead 2.3 for one.

Your dream is someone else’s nightmare.

And your nightmare is someone else’s dream.

The point of this is that live your life the way you want it. You’ll sleep easier with the mistakes you made yourself than those pushed on you by other people who want to save you from your own dream… Thinking it’s your nightmare as it would be theirs.

Like… Some people like public speaking. Others like being alone. There are people who like both of those things. There are people who fear crowds, there are those who love them. Just go where you want to go, if it turns out it wasn’t quite what you expected, adjust.

Another example.

I’ve heard a few people scoff at my thoughts about polyamory and say: “I lived a polyamorous lifestyle for 3 years. I had two so-and-so’s and what not. It didn’t work. Jealousy got to us.” You know what? I’ve tried monogamy. I’ve had numerous boyfriends and it has never worked. 😉 Would you ever say something that stupid, right? Just because it didn’t work out with one person, doesn’t mean that the whole concept of monogamy is flawed. (Although… I have my views on the matter-of-course that we treat it with.)

There’s 3 base forms of polygamy. Polygynist (FMF), polyandrist (MFM), and polygynandrist (MFMF). I believe we all have a very inb0rn leaning toward one of these, and trying the other forms simply isn’t the same thing as trying the form that works for you. And, on top of that, if you got your partners a “first come first serve” or an “age, sex, location” basis, no wonder it didn’t work out.

I’m further going to guess that if you simply decided “you tried it and it didn’t work” you never really wanted to try it in the first place, otherwise you’d be looking for new partners like monogamists do. Being pressured into things doesn’t necessarily create the best results. I’m not saying you should give polyamory or polygamy another go, I’m saying if you hear other people say “polyamory doesn’t work because I tried it and it didn’t work out” is the same as hearing: “I tried marriage and it didn’t work.” 50% of those attempts fail, we know that…

Doesn’t stop you fools from trying again, does it?

;p

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