the Normal Person* are drawn to the competence of old souls – the Savants*.

the Normal Person* are basically younger souls who granted, annoy the living daylights out of the old souls – the Savants*. What the Normal Person* are typically after is guidance, life lessons, and hand-holding. We tend to be a little too interested in our sex lives to give them much attention, so they’ve learned that to gain Cat Type Thinking* attention requires sex. THAT is really bad for both parties, however. It’s like demanding a teenager for blowjobs for a math lesson. The Normal Person* will MARRY YOU are expecting to be coached on how to be a real wife or husband… Or to coach you when you have no interest in fitting into someone’s stereotypical idea of one.

the Normal Person* NEED stereotypes to model themselves against. Acceptable minimums. Achievable minimums. That said, the Savants* need none of it. The Savants* need all of the expectations of age limits and stereotypical thinking, all of that go. So they try to break the rules and stereotypes that are left governing them so they can live free as the very instinctive, competent people that they are. And in doing so, they’re leaving the Normal Person* in a grumbling world they don’t fully understand.

the Savants* SHOULD NOT agree to sexual relations, marriage included, with the Normal Person*, but if they have CARE left, use it.

the Normal Person* will always try to bargain lessons and care for sex. Don’t get into that. Teach them better. Wherever you are, consider yourself a teacher.

This is the way to tell the difference between “should go there” and “shouldn’t go there.” If you are intrigued by the person’s mind, the way they carry themselves, and who they are/might be, it’s safe to go there. If not, if you feel “blah, same old, same old,” there’s too much of an “age cap.” Do not try to talk yourself into relationships that seem lackluster to you – FOR THEIR GOOD, as well as your own.

Try to navigate the situation with the assumption they want something from you that they are not saying. They’re using sex to get it, but if you ask them what they really want… Maybe ask what they think you want from them and why. Maybe they’ll tell. The likelihood is that they’ll at least leave you alone and find a YouTube channel.

Sex for money, we understand. Sex for education is another thing. Even more likely, sex for care and comfort.

That’s probably why sex is both present everywhere and removed from everywhere. It’s about this difference.

the Normal Person* don’t want to have sex, typically. They’d prefer to live an asexual life, but they will accept anything that is “for their own good.” Therefore, if they’re told “orgasms are healthy,” they’ll try to have them like brushing teeth. Obviously, there’ll be a point when it clicks in, but they’ll have sex prematurely as a matter of course, assuming they have to. The Savants* assume they want to. Typically, they don’t. The Normal Person* are often identifiable simply by the way they look: nothing you’d want to sleep with in a fit. This isn’t true for the Normal Person* who believe sex is the best way to get care, love, guidance, and security.

Therefore, the Normal Person* want to sterilize everything, to remove sex from everything, and the Savants* try to educate, liberate, and to advocate whatever sexual preferences they may have – to break free from Lover-thinking* censorship. The more one type wants something the more another pushes it in there…. With concessions.

Divide everything  into two: Sexual version and the non-sexual version… And the sex-ed version.

the Normal Person* don’t typically want to involve themselves in sexual things. Give them that option. Let the choice be there, and offer guidance when appropriate but allow adults to choose, perhaps with a good qualifying questionnaire to the effect of ARE YOU SURE you want this?

You could also apply this to your personal life and start asking new potential dates a question: “If you could be my friend or my sex partner, which would you actually prefer? We can be either,” If you can’t figure which type they are.” (the Savants* would probably answer “both,” if they’re actually interested in you.)

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