The only thing the Normal Person* wants and needs to hear is “You don’t have to be responsible (yet).”

the Normal Person* do take responsibility for their close ones, sometimes too much so. They are prematurely responsible, however. You may have to give them boundaries about what they can and cannot handle yet. You should never force them to take responsibility, and be careful not to even suggest that they should – and always be aware that they fear responsibility so much they’ll deliberately fuck up every time they think someone is “testing them for maturity.”

the Normal Person* also want to pass the baton as soon as they can; nothing annoys them more than feeling responsible for other people, which is fair enough. Type Thinkers don’t like it any more than they do that they’re being made responsible for adult’s everyday life. You may have to remind them that they do not need to be responsible for other adults, including their adult children, but they can have an obsessive belief that they are responsible for everybody else in their lives… Annoying the living daylights out of every the Savants* they’re trying to manage. That annoyance, by the way, they’re interpreting as criticism: “You’re not doing your job properly; take better care of me.”

the Savants* do not believe they are responsible for other adults EVEN WHEN they take responsibility for a lot of things. They still expect each individual to make their own decisions for themselves. The message should be: “You are not responsible for other people. You are only responsible for yourself. Make the best decisions possible FOR YOURSELF; other adults will cope.”

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