Stop thinking having to have a relationship with you is a favor they’re granting you.

This is a bit obvious but surprisingly easy to forget:

You’re probably a nice person. You probably don’t need to TRICK anyone into spending time with you. You know how to have a laugh, and how to cook a (half-)decent meal. You’re probably up for a nice night out with people you like the company of. If you have friends who like you, there is no reason why a man or a woman wouldn’t like you. Therefore, being with you probably isn’t a sacrifice on their part.

On the same note, you have to understand that men want to have a real relationship with women, and women want to have real relationships with men. Both genders want a real relationship. You don’t need to be a trapping master to make that a reality. They want it; generally speaking, it’s just a question of WHO they want it with. It is funny how easily women believe men don’t want real relationships with women and men believe that women don’t want relationships with men. Neither is true.

In addition, most men want children with the woman they love, but having a child with some random guy is not adequate compensation for a relationship with a man for most women. Women want a man in their lives, and men want a wife and children… Just a question of WHICH WOMAN they want it with, the same as which man a woman wants it all with.

Here’s a little bit of relationship theory: The reason why we think “men” don’t want a family is because gay men don’t. The reason we think women don’t want sex with men is that gay women didn’t – when basically heterosexual monogamous marriage was the only way forward from childhood, and we had no idea “gay” was a thing. If a person doesn’t want a heterosexual relationship, it probably means they’re gay… Right?

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