What do you have to do to heal your True Emotion Mirror relationship?

Chase? Not chase? Brave it? Do something dramatic?

You know, these relationships are very individual. Each True Emotion Mirror couple or soup is tied together for the reason that they are compatible to each other, not to anybody else. This means that their dynamic is theirs, yours is yours. What works for you is not going to automatically work for someone else and vice versa. This is not a for-babies relationship; if you have a relationship that develops into a mature state of True Emotion Mirror in the first place, then you have the skill set to know what to do when things go wrong. Instinct is your past life experience.

Now, that doesn’t mean you’ll be infallible. There’s a chance you’ll repeat past mistakes and you may also be avoiding redoing them by instinct. You may have already followed that piece of advice you don’t want to carry through, or you don’t know whether it would work because you have never done that before in a previous lifetime.

What I suggest you do is to quiet the noise.

The only people who get a say is/are your True Emotion Mirror(s). Listen to other people with a very tight filter on. They may have good ideas, but they also may have terrible ideas – even experts. When you don’t know what to do, ask yourself why you can’t do the obvious thing, won’t do the obvious thing, or keep doing what doesn’t sound like the most sensible thing ever to do. There is a  reason. (Pick a new post/image, if you need help to figure it out.)

You often cannot use regular relationship advice to fix a True Emotion Mirror relationship.

True Emotion Mirrors are different. Their dynamic is so specific to their relationship that they function in an entirely different way than a generic “let’s make a relationship work by being really good at relationships” -type of relationship. Sometimes you have to be a bit of a brat to work for your True Emotion Mirror. Selfishness is giving in these relationships, as your selfishness is your True Emotion Mirror’s fetish – or vice versa. To compromise on your authentic self and your authentic wishes and needs, you compromise on THEIR authentic self and wishes. You are a perfect couple, as you truly are, not as who your (bad) psychologist convinced you should be.

Liberate yourself.

What you must do is to allow yourself to be who you are and go after things you truly want. Cut off relationships you don’t want or need and feel your True Emotion Mirror(s) would also not enjoy; purify yourself, your life, and your relationships.

Even inaction maybe exactly what you need.

I am an Aries and a Fiery Dragon. I don’t like waiting, inaction, and I’m to-the-core impatient. It PISSES ME OFF when people refuse to talk to their True Emotion Mirrors out of pride and stupid reasons, but you know what… That’s your relationship. Maybe your True Emotion Mirror loves you being prideful and bratty.

If they don’t, and you are, you’ll dodge a bullet and avoid getting into the wrong relationship by pretending to be someone you’re not. Win-win.

But…

DO SOMETHING. In spirit, in person, online. I don’t care. Do SOMETHING that feels right and doable to you. Take the smallest POSSIBLE steps, take the biggest possible steps. Anything. Meditate, even praying would be good (he or she or they will be listening). Just do something. Talk about them, write about them into your diary, anything. ANYTHING AT ALL.

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