The fine line between the Old Souls* and the Young Soul*.

There are people who fall seemingly smack bang middle into the Young Soul* and the Old Souls* definitions when described by the most obvious and common differences or seem to be the Old Souls* with the Young Soul* traits or vice versa.

Some the Old Souls* may take from the Young Soul* the ability to completely ignore people they are not in love with without feeling an ounce of guilt about it. Their rejection is painless because they don’t if or but maybe about it, they just figure “nope, not interested, next!” and they reject people before they even notice they’ve been rejected.

There are also very handsome “catch” -type the Old Souls* men who have learned to reject the Young Soul* women efficiently, and learned that if you can’t reject them, they must DOMINATE them. While female the Old Souls* feel SERIOUSLY reluctant to dominate their male partner due to it being unmasculine to her; she may allow the Young Soul* men dominate her, which makes a Old Souls* female submit where she wouldn’t naturally, and the Old Souls* male to dominate where he wouldn’t naturally dominate.

Agreement to prioritize family over sex.

Another confusing element in some “catch” the Old Souls* men is that they have submitted to the idea that women don’t want sex, and if they wish to be perfect husbands (as they tend to want to) they will submit to the notion of their life exists for the purposes of the family, but IF they could secure the love of a woman who wishes to “use them” for sex rather than as a family man, they’d accept the idea screaming hallelujah and liberation.

the Young Soul* has relationships for their birth family and (childhood) friends, not for sex, and they insist their partners accept this role in their life. As the Young Soul* women are VERY hands-on compared to the Old Souls* women, they tend to be the ones who get to marry the high-level Cat-men, who have learned to cope the best they can. What’s more, these type of men will OFFER this same deal to the Old Souls* women: “Here’s my hand in marriage, I will guide you, give you children, protect your children…” and the Old Souls* woman feels nothing but confused: “What? Uh, where’s the sex? Let’s just do the sex part for now. What? No sex? What ARE YOU?!” the Old Souls* women don’t even understand a man is interested in her if he tries to skip the sex part and marry her straight away as a high-level the Old Souls* man truly in love might attempt to do.

the Young Soul* tries to establish (and offer) security, and the Old Souls* wants to establish (and offer) pleasure.

The Young Soul* may have noticed that the best way to get a self-confident the Old Souls* to protect them is through giving them mind-blowing sex. The Old Souls* may not be too… Experimental with their sex stuff, they can be quite happy with steamy missionary, because they’re not worried about how well they’re doing at sex. It’s just what they do naturally. The Young Soul*, however, they can go to lengths to make their sex game stellar. I’m not saying that the Old Souls* doesn’t put effort into it (they certainly play on their looks A LOT) but the motivation is different. The Old Souls* doesn’t look for SECURITY, like literally someone to protect them, they don’t use sex as a MEANS TO AN END like the Young Soul* does. To the Young Soul*, sex is a tool to get what they want, money, power, family, clothes, and status – all of which, to the Young Soul*pells out “security”, which is NOT why the Old Souls* does anything. The Old Souls* prioritizes fun, excitement, and experiences; pleasurable feelings of all kinds over security ANY DAY of the week.

Ultimately, both types can want the exact same thing, but their emergency-level priorities differ.

Both the Old Souls* and the Young Soul* want to get to the SAME ultimate bliss end goal, but while they’re in an insecure position (whether they’re seeking security itself or a secured source of continued pleasure) they are compromising on different things while getting there. The Young Soul* don’t care much for sex as long as security is there. The Old Souls* will sacrifice sex, too, if they get a good intellectual company to compensate. The Old Souls* will also compromise on PERMANENCE, where the Young Soul* will not (want to), as in the Old Souls* will form temporary bonds when they can’t find the ultimate bond, thinking “this will do me for now” or “see how it goes; maybe they’ll be better than I expect, I can always dump them later”. The Young Soul* compromises on how much effort they need to put in manipulating the other party to stay with them; how much work will they have to put in to keep the girl/guy. The Old Souls* will sacrifice their freedom for temporary pleasures, but may soon find themselves trapped in a situation they didn’t anticipate to become a long-term thing.

The Young Soul* does not fantasize of love everlasting. They don’t truly BELIEVE such a thing exists. That’s what makes them insistent on banking on permanence over true love. The Old Souls*, however, truly believe in perfect everlasting love and suffers every day that they don’t live with this person of their dreams. That is why they will break any relationship that they know not to be what they’re seeking, quite happily, just to free themselves to go look for their ultimate lover. The Old Souls* always feels the Young Soul* settles for less than what is available, while the Young Soul* feels the Old Souls* are crying for the moon of the sky.

As the Young Soul* does not believe in this ultimate love that the Old Souls* is always seeking, they don’t feel like they’re compromising when they’re getting into permanent relationships, they simply believe they’re established and settled. The Old Souls* does not feel that way UNTIL they are with their ultimate lover, their True Emotion Mirror, perhaps because they know what it is or would be like out of past life experiences with one.

Priority relationship: the Family or a Lover?

This one is a good divider; As the Young Soul* prioritize security over all else, their primary relationship is with their own blood family members, who, to them, are the most SECURE, safe relationship (if they have a family left at all. If not, they try to establish something equal to it). The Old Souls* always prioritizes their MOST PLEASURABLE relationships. In childhood, it’s their parents, in their childhood and teen years, it will gradually sift to their best friends, but in adulthood, it will sift to their (best) sexual partners. This sift does not happen in the Young Soul*.

Therefore the ultimate difference between the Old Souls* and the Young Soul* is the past life experience of Ultimate Love.

The reason why it’s so difficult to put these two types into categories, and why the separation is so elusive, yet SO OBVIOUS that the Old Souls* especially can tell rather easily which type is which, is that the difference is based on the past life knowledge of what true love is for them and why they seek it. Clearly, the Young Soul* has experience of what it feels like to be in a secure, safe marriage, but this, to the Old Souls* is no longer good enough. They’ve experienced the Ultimate secure marriage, which is profoundly sexual, loving, full, pleasurable, filled with lust and joy, the fantasy fiction movie -type that then ends dramatically on some dragon attack or some dark overlord crawling out of the depths of Hell itself to interrupt it all. You know the stuff. To the Old Souls*, this is real, but the Young Soul* kinda laughs at it and thinks it’s simply that – fantasy fiction.

But no. It’s real.

Unfortunately, the Young Soul* also doesn’t understand that if they see a couple or particularly a polygamous group in love like this, they can’t just put their hand up and say they want in and expect to be included. They think everything from a security and unity perspective when the Old Souls* has a few hoops to jump through and a thousand disqualifiers before they consider anyone a party to their perfect love affair. These qualifiers are not the same for everybody, but the Young Soul* seriously need to learn to respect them… And the Old Souls* needs to learn to play the game when the Young Soul* have no respect for their privacy.

Which one are you?

Which is more important?

1. Pleasure (emotional, sexual, and intellectual…) (With a primary source of security: secure income.)
2. Security (primarily physical security and security and status as a community/family member)? (With the primary source of pleasure: food and family relationships.)

1: the Old Souls*

2: the Young Soul*

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