It’s not that the narcissist doesn’t love you, it’s that they take love as a weakness.

Narcissists** do love you. It’s not at all that they don’t love you; in fact, they do love you desperately, genuinely, and authentically. The problem is that they don’t have good coping mechanisms for that love. This applies to narcissistic parents, as well. They view love as a weakness; they feel powerless in that feeling. Therefore, they try to regain power over you by the various methods narcissism is known for.

If you cope with your love better than they do, they call that narcissism, by the way… Initially, now, you have to learn to deal with their fear of love. Narcissism is a fear of love and taking responsibility of people they love. Show them it’s not as bad as they fear.

What you need to understand about a narcissist is that you hold all the power in that relationship – if you want to.

They’ll do anything to keep you – that’s what this is about. Therefore, you can start dictating rules for them as to how to make that happen. Sadly, the one thing that you’re likely not want is a continued relationship with a narcissist… Still, it is possible that your True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate is a narcissist or has a narcissistic reaction to you, and if that’s the case, you’ll want to fix this thing as much as they do.

Therefore, I’ll write this post from the perspective that the narcissist is your True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate and that love is mutual.

They fear your requests.

One very likely reason for True Emotion Mirror running is narcissism. They realize they’d do anything for you, and that scares the living daylights out of them. They know how other people treat them when they’re in love with them, serving them hand and foot, and now they realize they’re in a position where you can command them as you wish. They may also be preparing for battlefields, as they believe you’re as scared of them as they are of you.

What you need to do is to ask them to do little things. Ironically, that is what a narcissist does to their prey, too, but you must ask for little things. Show them the road to everything you need, starting from the little, “be nice to me.” “Take me for a coffee tomorrow. Starbucks. Noon. You’ll pay. I’ll have a cookie, too.” Then, you go to Starbucks, have a coffee and a cookie, and nothing more. But now, you can let them ask you for something because they were a good boy (or a girl.) “Do you want to go for walkies, little one?” :p

You don’t need to demand, ask, or raise your voice, you can just tell them to.

You say ‘jump’ and a narcissist in love with you will jump. Never abuse this power, only make nice, fair, and cool requests. Make them feel lucky they got a nice dommy. That’s the only thing they fear; they’ll do anything for you, they’ll bury bodies, they’ll rob a bank, and overthrow a government or die trying, if you asked them to. Ask them for a cookie instead, and they’ll feel relieved. Ask them to cook you a meal. Take you out. Whatever, little, normal things, and they’ll quickly sigh of relief.

Then you can ask for the government. I’m joking, of course. Although you might have to STOP THEM from starting to think that way, that they’ll have to kill some king because you’ve been so nice to them, even though you didn’t have to be.

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