Savage Spirit Mirrors

Would you believe I used to call this connection “Lovers’ Choice Soulmates*”? The reason being that the Normal Person* approach this relationship carefully, which is a great thing, as it will and can get really brutal. They will behave quite nicely until they believe they are fully loved, and once they believe their partner has “gained enough self-confidence” to fight it out, and that’s when the savage comes out. A Normal Person* behaving well is the Normal Person* who doesn’t believe they’re loved. That said, the same applies to a Savants*, but their way of bonding has a nuance of a difference, which makes a HUGE difference – you identify your Savage Spirit Mirror incorrectly, and one or both of you will wind up in jail.

The True Emotion Mirror and Savage Spirit Mirror—relationships have similarities. Both need a certain “permission to love,” but the way love develops from there is different. The Savants* approach things from a conversation, “This is what I want,” and the Normal Person*… Well… Fight. Verbally or physically, they fight. It is DANGEROUS to get this wrong. VERY VERY DANGEROUS for both parties involved, so PLEASE, if you find this to be your ideal relationship type, leave the Savants* the fuck alone. They are not willing to die for your idiocy, but they may well be willing to kill you for it. DO NOT get this wrong. I cannot stress this enough.

The Fight Club.

the Normal Person* know where to draw the line in their fight club. Eventually, they will submit and surrender to the love. However, the Savants* do not. They will NEVER truly surrender. That’s why mixing the Savants* into this is going to escalate the relationship into a battlefield that will stay that way until the Savants* leaves or manages to escape – literally escape.

Famous the Savants* the Normal Person* in fight club mode were Johnny Depp and Amber Heard, who must have known she was fully loved until they needed to feel loved… Brutally.

What the Normal Person* in this mode would look like is the “lover’s quarrel” sort of thing. They fight, but never that brutally. It’s just that they’ll fight as long as they have to, which is going to be forever with a Savants*.

Progression: “I don’t like you.”

the Normal Person* have this runner-and-chaser dynamic in their relationship. An Savant* may accidentally “run” and thus flirt with a self-assured the Normal Person*, by genuinely telling them they are not looking to start a relationship with the Normal Person*, or at all. This, to the Normal Person* is a “game is on” signal, not a rejection. An explanation is more a flirt than letting you down gently.

A Normal Person* may have trouble knowing when a rejection is real and when it isn’t, and if a Savants* is used to these kinds of games, like many men are, they may act this way, too, and send their authentic True Emotion Mirror on a run because the Savants* do take rejection well and seriously. “OK, I’ll find  someone else. You’re not the last man/woman in the world, hot as you may be…”

The Normal Person* will first play with the whole “I don’t like you” idea, to see how much “play” there is in their counterpart. They may also get fully excited over a real rejection, and admire “their courage” when they should know that even the Normal Person* don’t dare to reject a person forever without thinking they’ll eventually take a walk… But the Normal Person* will turn for a fight before they leave.

A love confession means a commitment and “Do with me as you please.”

To the Normal Person*, a love confession or an imagined Savage Spirit Mirror status means “do with me as you please,” automatically. It’s a full permission to twist them into a knot or whatever, and the more they believe they are loved, the more they will brutalize their lover.

To be fair, I do believe the Savants* have been through this phase, but they’ve learned, to their shock and horror what it means when you get this wrong. Therefore, they’ve learned in their past lives to tread a little more carefully here than the Normal Person* do. And yes, it’s annoying you have to ask for consent to everything, but you know… Better that than getting it wrong. (the Savants* may give consent to a group of people for certain things to keep things interesting but the Normal Person* still trust their instinct to be correct – and it isn’t, always.)

A commitment.

the Normal Person* may also try and make a commitment to a relationship first, that seems very practical and purposeful in terms of basic survival. This commitment seems utterly boring to a Savants*, who wants a big romance, and, frankly, the Normal Person* blames the Savants* for being boring. This difference  in thinking is the main reason why our relationships wind up sucking… So the comparisons will keep coming. (I am also an outsider to these, being a Savants* and my understanding of these relationships is still developing.)

A Normal Person* starts with a commitment, as if they were coaxing you into a relationship with them… And once they believe the commitment is real, they are fully loved and cherished, they’ll prove to their loved one that they are in it for reals, sickness and in health, by fighting it out. The idea is somewhat of a dogs fighting thing, it’s not really that bad but can look real nasty on the outside.

Once they fight it out, they’ll calm down.

If you’ve ever owned cage animals or dogs you’ll know how it goes. First, they fight it out and decide who is the boss and who is the follower. The Normal Person* will know how this works… The Savants*, however, are never top or bottom – they are firmly egalitarian. Therefore, the fighting will never stop with the Normal Person*. They will never fully submit and they will never take charge properly. Or, they will submit so easily that the whole fight it out experience will be bland and meaningless to the Normal Person*. Ironically, the Normal Person* call it “being equal” if they fight for dominance. The fact that one player winds up on top doesn’t mean to them that there’s inequality in the relationship.

To the Normal Person*, the safety of knowing they can fight their partner carries about the same importance to them as it does for a Savants* to know they can be sexually who they authentically are. Sex makes the Cat Type Thinking* relationship, fighting makes the Normal Person*. And the Normal Person* can, of course, make sex into a fight, which again does not work for the Savants*… At all.

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