Major update to the Savants* and the Normal Person* thinking theory

In short, the Normal Person* thinking refers to people who thrive on fulfilling expectations (a “mold”). The Savants*, on the other hand, are “free thinkers” and individualists, who value an individual over a community. That part of the theory hasn’t changed.

Not as much a static personality alignment as I thought

Previously, a lot of people have assumed that being “an introvert” or “an extrovert”, an individualist or a conformist are permanent states or personality traits. I started to write my the Savants* and the Normal Person* -thinking theories under the same assumption. However, that assumption is not true, even though it SEEMS LIKE IT in all practicality. The Savants* and the Normal Person* thinking is permanent only as far as your relationships are permanent, and whether those relationships are functional or dysfunctional.

We are all tied to a group of people, or family members and extended community, from our birth onwards, and we react to that group of people. The way we FEEL in relation to our family members, our town folk, our initial friends in childhood and whatever relationships comes after, determines whether you associate with the Savants* or the Normal Person*. If we feel like we belong, we belong into the group of the Normal Person*. If we feel we do not belong in the group we are currently half-forced to be a part of, we consider ourselves the Savants*.

The Normal Person* needs for relationships is both severe and nominal at the same time. They need SOMEONE to be there with them like the air they breathe, but they’re not too concerned WHO that person is. The Savants* thinking needs for relationships are a lot more complicated and include sexual compatibility as a strong motivation and need. Many the Savants* feel they’d rather be alone than in a company that isn’t emotionally fulfilling, or one that blocks them from finding a truly sexually fulfilling relationship. The Savants*, both male and female, have a high sexual motivation in their relationships. They are NOT HAPPY unless they have a strong sexual relationship, while the Normal Person* emphasis relationships that take care of their other physical needs and safety. Once the desired, strongly sexual connection exists, the Savants* may turn VERY “fluid” toward that person and potentially, the friends of that person.

“I like it with you” or “I’d rather be somewhere else”

In short, you might consider the the Savants* as people who don’t want to be here, and the the Normal Person* as people who either want to be here or wish to be accepted in the present company. If the inclusion is WELCOME, they are someone who flatters the other’s ego to think they’d want your company. If the inclusion is not welcome they are seen as somewhat of a “wanna-be” or “a desperado”.

Typically, the CONSTANT the Savants* have a dysfunctional or less than ideal relationship with their birth family, whereas the Normal Person* feel unity and belonging to their own birth family. This consistency in the Savants* thinking comes from the fact they are constantly running away from a permanent dysfunctional relationship; that to their own family. This dysfunction also OFTEN (but not always) has to do with an unusually high IQ of the child that feels they don’t fit in. As the child’s IQ is unusually high, they have a hard time finding understanding within their often normal IQ family members.

Affect on True Emotion Mirrors

I have, at times, stated that a love affair between the Normal Person* and a Savants* is not possible, that you both have to be of the same thinker type. This is not always obvious when True Emotion Mirrors meet. One may feel completely the Normal Person* and ready to submit to any demands in relation to this person, even so much so that it scares them. As True Emotion Mirrors, by design, are the Savants*, their sudden willingness to DO ANYTHING for this relationship to begin may scare and also DISGUST them so much that they feel a self-respecting the Savants* could never respect them in this submissive and pitiful state they find themselves in.

Interestingly enough, your True Emotion Mirror will also lock you into the Savants* thinking as time goes on. It is as though meeting the love of their life will turn them the Normal Person* to begin with, so that they can fully adapt to each other, and then, they turn the Savants* again to fix each other into position like a lock to a key. This stops anyone else from making alterations during separation periods and keeps them locked together even between lifetimes. This protects and enables eternal soulbonds.

Non-the Normal Person* and the Savants* events in Potential True Emotion Mirrors and Potential Precious Soulmates*

“I don’t think I belong” – the strongest in the team or the weakest link?

There is also the possibility that a person feels like they don’t belong into a group currently are at least a nominal member of, or with a person, they are “officially” dating or married to. This feeling may come from two different extremes: You feel you are being held back by the other(s) or you feel you are holding them back. No matter which way you feel, you are the Savants* in the group, the one who is more than willing to either accept rejection or leaving the group for your own good. The acceptance of separation always puts you in the Savants* thinking category, and the insistence of unity puts you in the Normal Person* thinking category, but these feelings may change by the group you are thinking about.

“I feel like I’m losing X” – are they feeling weak or are they feeling strong?

You may also feel like someone is slipping through your fingers. If you are able to accept their freedom to choose or that they MIGHT be better off with someone else, that makes you a Savants*. If you feel like they BELONG to you, and they are downright breaking the rules here, that makes you the Normal Person*.

The scale between “strongly the Normal Person*” “mostly the Normal Person*” and “mostly the Savants*” and “strongly the Savants*” exists.

There are people who are pretty much open for anything as long as it guarantees them a PERMANENT (not necessarily happy, rewarding, or a loving) relationship as long as it’s PERMANENT. They will WANT TO conform to ANY expectation as long as the relationship will be permanent.

We ALL want a permanent relationship, but the more the Savants* you are, the more conditions and expectations you have for who you’d settle and change for. The more the Savants*, the less you are willing to change for just anybody. The more the Normal Person* you are, the more you are willing to change in return for a promise of “a forever home”.

The Normal Person* want to be loved by SOMEBODY, they fear never being loved (taken care of, as they see love to be), while the Savants* fear they might never TRULY fall in love with someone and they fear being rejected by THAT person just as much as the Normal Person* fear being rejected by anyone at all. The Normal Person* are primarily seeking someone to love them, while the Savants* are seeking someone to love, someone THEY would actually fall for if you catch the difference.

The more the Savants* you are, the more difficult it is for you to FALL IN LOVE in the first place, although you want to. You want a permanent, true, full-blown love relationship, and the more the Normal Person* you are, the less conditions you have for A relationship, any relationship. “Just love me. Who will have me? Is there anyone here without a partner who needs someone to hang out with?” They are confused about love because they don’t understand why anyone would reject someone who loves them.

Your Thinker Type will change by the company you are (forced) to keep

While the Normal Person* cannot imagine company they wouldn’t want to be forced to be a part of unless it means losing their family, as to the Normal Person* family is too much of a source of comfort to lose it, a Savants* doesn’t appreciate being forced into a relationship by anyone except their True Emotion Mirrors, a concept that is very difficult for the Normal Person* to even understand the meaning of.

An Savant* often cannot even imagine a situation in which they would be PLEASED to be forced into a relationship, and THAT feeling changes with their True Emotion Mirror. Imagine, if you know your True Emotion Mirror to put a bit of pressure on you to start a relationship with them. Good or bad? Huh? 😉 Even the most the Savants* will feel immense (orgasmic) pleasure to be pressured into a relationship by their True Emotion Mirror.

In the Savants*, this feeling is rare and ONLY relates to their True Emotion Mirrors. In the Normal Person*, they feel safe when someone is adamant that a relationship must exist. That freaks the hell out of the Savants* most of the time, as they value their freedom (to keep looking for their True Emotion Mirrors).

The difference may also be so small as to whether you’ve already fallen for a True Emotion Mirror or not

It is possible that the only real difference between a Savants* and the Normal Person* is whether they’ve ever truly fallen in love or not. Once True Emotion Mirror love hits you, you’re done compromising. Everyone else will feel bland in comparison. We are all MORE FLUID the younger we are, and MORE SOLID the older we get, however, not everyone solidifies at the same rate, and one of the BIGGEST the Savants*ifiers is meeting your True Emotion Mirror. They kind of lock you in place, and you no longer are willing to settle for scraps.

The more complicated your personality is, and often, the higher your IQ, the more consistently you feel like a Savants*. The more room you’ve got to move, the more the Normal Person* you feel. This is often about the median IQ, and “standard” relationship needs.

As a consequence, some older texts can be confusing.

While the concept is MOSTLY valid, there are times when it doesn’t make sense. Sometimes it means simple “yeah I want to be your friend” “no I don’t want to be your friend” reaction in some people, who feel two ways about some people and their relationship pressure, while they welcome it from a larger group of people than just their True Emotion Mirrors – up to a point at least.

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