The Young Soul* and the Ravens* view titles very differently.

The Young Soul*people want and need a sense of guarantee of permanence no matter what. The Ravens* want a guarantee of abilities to perform in a position. The Young Soul*will get themselves a title expecting it to give them a permanent role in a company or group, as that title, to them, should guarantee a permanent position. A Young Soul*will get a title to learn how to perform in that position OR they will hire people with a qualification, expecting that person to be able to assume the roles in that position without too much drama.

What are titles for; the Ravens* and the Young Soul* disagree.

Unfortunately, the Young Soul* will present their qualification as “a right to enter”, and assume a title as a “right to stay”, but they DO NOT hold themselves to the standard of expectation of the performance of that title. They may be very good workers, don’t get me wrong, but it may have taken them years to acquire respect for the company they work for, and their respect is acquired by a company that TRAINS THEM, and TRAINS THEM, and TRAINS THEM again to be good at their job. Without this training and hand-holding phase, they will quite likely FAIL ON PURPOSE just to get attention from a trainer to assure them that their failure doesn’t result in losing that job.

The Ravens* are absolutely terrified that they will not be able to live up to the expectation of a certain title they may hold. They are 100% focused on their own performance, and the responsibility that comes with the title. They don’t EXPECT or even want anyone to be coaching them after they assume the title – they often realize that they may be the ONLY PERSON in an organization that has those skills even in theory, and they don’t expect another worker to be able to train them even if they were willing to. So basically a Ravens* assumes they need to know everything they’ve promised to know as they assume a role, with the only coaching part being “how do we do things in this organization” but their job is their job and they believe they should know it fully at the time of their hiring. They will also hold a different type of responsibility to the organization; they will do their job 100%, whereas the Young Soul*boss may EXPECT THEM to do far less than that. A Young Soul*will expect the workers to slack, and the Young Soul*will try and force the new workers to ask for help so they know they’re committed to LEARNING their job. Therefore, the Young Soul*will be a torturous boss to a Ravens* struggling to meet the expectations given to them… as their the Young Soul*boss doesn’t ACTUALLY expect performance of that level.

In social groups the differences are similar. If you assign the label of “the best friend”, a Ravens* assumes it means “we don’t hurt each other, we can trust each other, we have each other’s backs.” A Young Soul*assumes it means “we’ll never part no matter what”, which does mean “I can cheat on you, I can stab you in the back, I can dig at your self-confidence, and I can be a nuisance to you, and you will forgive me and never leave me.” However, if a Ravens* notices you aren’t living up to your role as a best friend, wife, husband, or even a dungeon master in a role-playing game group, you can be dumped. They also assume the same is true for them, if they don’t treat their friends according to their role, they assume they will be dumped.

Promises mean different things to the Ravens* and the Young Soul*.

the Ravens* avoid making promises they cannot keep, where as the Young Soul* thrive on making the biggest promises they can to secure a role, but they assume that you will coach them to perform to the level of their promises – including punishing them – not leaving them – for treating you poorly. Their promises mean: “I am WILLING to do that job” not “I KNOW HOW TO do that job.” Which type you should seek to hire depends heavily on the job. Anything new that requires a person to LEARN the role requires a dog-type, but if you want something to be INNOVATED, you’ll have to leave it to the Ravens* to do. The Young Soul* won’t excel at nothing they have to teach themselves to do or to hold themselves accountable for doing it right (including parenting; they’ll assume their partner or parent will teach them to parent) while the Ravens* is often very impatient and willing to take heavy training when they’ve already acquired a qualification or are entering into a role that they, themselves, believe they can perform to a standard without someone looking over their shoulder.

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