The importance of selfishness and uncompromising attitude

Have you ever heard anyone tell you that everything in this Universe has it’s rightful place, and everyone in it will find their proper place? If not, I’m telling you now. We are what we are, and during our incarnations we become more of ourselves and are trying to find our proper place in relation to each other, our perfect way of being. I cannot stress this point enough: You cannot guess who you are by emulating another soul, especially spiritual masters like Buddha or Jesus (they were who they were, they had their rightful place in the Universe and you’ve got no business trying to be them unless you’re their incarnation!) When we find a person who compliments who we are, and not only accepts us for what we are but also needs us to be what we are so that they could be themselves, that is when we have found one of our soulmates. From there on, we evolve together, making finer and finer adjustments of who we are, who each other are, and we mould together into an inseparable unit that, when severed, becomes less, and our unique qualities and learned behaviours will seem foreign to everyone else except to those who were there moulding us into who we are. Your soulmates made you. You made your soulmates. This means that whatever you are is perfect in their view – or at least good way there!

When we are separated and surrounded by non-soulmates, we start to hide who we are because we are not loved for who we are. We, to our non-soulmates are wrong. They are searching their own soulmates and try to make you into them, but you are not, and you are in a wrong place. If you try to become what they want you to be, you will become more and more unrecognisable to your soulmates, and you are undoing the good work you have all done in order to become perfect for each other. That, and you can’t turn a stone into a soft pillow no matter how much you try, and a pillow doesn’t make a very good brick… But you can sure try and people have tried!

“Selfishness” and uncompromising is the only way you can make sure you end up in a relationship with a Full soulmate. Compromising is the most dangerous thing you can do to your happiness, and that is what we are all being trained to do – because those of us who are weak and impatient and inconsiderate of your authentic self and inherent beauty would rather have others mould to their needs than search for the true connection that everyone wants. A fully functional soulmate relationship requires no compromise. At all. Ever. (Maybe on what to have for dinner tonight but the major brush strokes should be easy as.)

You need to be selfish enough to know what you want and require that you’ll have it. You can’t, however, demand someone who doesn’t want to give it to you to do that for you, that is not how this works. This means that you will let go of anyone who doesn’t fully fit your needs, your wants and your desires and who have a problem with who you are. This, is, of course with the exemption of those who do want to be moulded and who do not wish to have their own dreams, rights or desires, but exist fully to serve another person and who thrive in doing so. (I’m sure such people exist.)

Don’t you, too, admire people who bravely go where they want and go after their dream no matter how implausible it would be that it would actually come true? Don’t you admire a 50-year old musician who lives below poverty line but still says it’s the music that gets him up in the morning and who is simply refusing to take a full time job? Ah, okay, there are some of you who don’t see the value of that, but then again, you’re the wrong kind. 😉

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