People want fast and easy company as much as they accept easy sex.

People are social beings. We rarely prefer our own company to ANY company at all. It is also true that if someone is a social person, they’ll rather feel that telling someone they don’t even want to hang out with you is such a seriously offensive thing to say that they really find it difficult to tell you not to come around anymore or not to hang out anymore – particularly online when there’s really no excuses; you see they’re online, hanging out, not working – so telling you that they don’t want to hang out with you cannot be about work or being too busy or the usual excuses, but they’re simply not into hanging out with you and that… is feels like the biggest insult to tell by someone who really, really wants some company.

The truth is tho two people can wind up playing the same game. They may be totally bored but still have the same issue; “I don’t know how to break it to you.” Therefore, if that’s you or suspect it to be you, you might want to make it easy for them to express their wishes to not hang out, too. It may also be that they, too, just want someone to talk to at times, and even though they’re getting boring to you on purpose, they still want just to have someone to talk to at times. Nothing of serious nature, even. You might want to express that it’s nice just to have someone to complain about life to, even if it’s nothing else.

Unfortunately, there are people who see “being boring” as a flirtation toward “getting serious” with them. The less effort, you know, prepping them for a boring everyday life. There’s a good talking point; do you want your significant other or your best friends to be someone you’ll never get bored with or someone who you don’t have to entertain constantly, or… Some combination of both. Do you want someone who tolerates you being boring or someone who will make the boring exciting or humorous no matter what you do?

So the question is; if someone is being boring with you, are they trying to make you go away or commit? Two opposite choices, same behavior.

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