Don’t talk people up too much… K?

You may have a habit of talking people up to other people hoping to sway them to join the fan club, so to speak. This can, however, have counterproductive effects, especially in the Elder Souls* who don’t like bandwagons of any kind. They don’t like liking people they’re told to like and are much more likely to have negative expectations about that person rather than positive ones. Feeling pressured to like someone is not a good way to meet someone.

You can, of course, say casually something to the effect of “I think you’d like him.” Or even “I know you’d get along real well,” but don’t get into insisting that someone HAS TO feel excited about meeting someone before they actually do. If they truly like each other, a casual remark is enough to sway them to meet that person, but talk too much, the “okay” will turn into “maybe not. I’d rather not. I don’t think so. Not now, not ever.”

You may also give the impression there’s something wrong with that person’s ability to make friends and that they’re a little pathetic. Especially if they’re obviously good-looking and charming, it may seem like an over-sell to pressure someone into changing their idea about them, as if that person had some big dark secret that everybody should know about. You have to sway every eligible potential partner or friend into liking them despite the rumors or other obvious flaws… That they may not notice yet. That is not the right way to introduce a person to another. You have to trust that the cool factor of that person is quite enough for a person of normal to high intelligence to notice without your pressing them to.

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