In all of spirituality and psychology, one thing that is constantly being misread and wrongly implemented is the difference between an emotional action and a physical action. The instruction of “letting go” is one of those things. Because most spiritual teachers (ironically, not all,) are very aware of their souls, their emotional space, and the emotional connection to other people, they don’t always realize that their instructions make no sense to someone who is still very body-aware.

“Stop chasing” is a popular instruction in the True Emotion Mirror community and one that, I am sure, even soul-aware people tend to misunderstand, this has NOTHING to do with how many times a day you call them, how often you check their Facebook page any given day, or if you are continually sitting outside their apartment in a car with darkened windows. These are SYMPTOMS of the emotion that causes you to chase, they are the action that the emotion brings about. Even if you stop the behavior, you haven’t healed the emotion that drove you to that behavior.

“Letting go” is another similar instruction that body aware people misinterpret. It is not the same as “give up on them” or “break up with them”, and again, this has nothing to do with the actions you take; the physical behavior that you alter in order to pretend to have “let go” of them. You can’t cheat the spirit by altering your actions, your emotional space is what matters, and it is THE ONLY thing that matters.

Once you have let go of someone, you can call them 10 times a day and they will happily pick up their phone to answer to you. But if they sense, that every time you call, it’s your emotional self wrapping their claws around their throat… They are not going to be as happy answering your calls.

You might not even ever call anyone, or contact them in any way, and they still feel like screaming at you to GO AWAY!! (Did you see my pop up on the site? 😀 Very unprofessional, I know. :p That is me screaming at someone who I have never spoken with to leave me and my site alone because they are continually DEMANDING ME to “take it all back” because they don’t like what they read. They feel as though me changing my texts would be like a magic wand waved that will change the reality that they live in, and me changing my mind on things would release them from some death grip that rings doom to her “True Emotion Mirror” relationship… And thus, she believes I am a God, not a human.)

Whoever you are focussed on will feel your emotions with them, regardless of their soulmate status to you. I can feel someone akin to an accountant I hired breathing down my neck demanding me to do something, and she is certainly not a True Emotion Mirror. Whoever, for whatever reason holds a stake on your behavior will be able to put an enormous pressure on you to “do as you’re told” but resulting in the opposite outcome. I know a friend of mine is holding MY True Emotion Mirror down for me, “YOU HAVE TO GO TO SEBBY, YOU BELONG TO HER!” and although I have let go of him years ago, my friend still pushes him towards me as if he wouldn’t come voluntarily if given the chance.

The resistance of emotional coercion is a spiritual security setting

The absolute resistance that EVERYONE FEEL towards emotional force, persuasion, or coercion is a spiritual security system designed to make it IMPOSSIBLE for our minds to be controlled by someone with an ulterior motive. If it didn’t exist, we could be remote-controlled by anyone at all, so it is GREAT that it exists. In other words, for as long as you are not able to allow someone to do as they, themselves feel fit, the only force you can utilize is physical. It is safe, because they KNOW what is happening, and they can still make a conscious decision to obey or disobey, but a spiritual/emotional control is different. It shuts down the person’s system if someone is trying to emotionally force them into action they may or may not wish to comply to.

I believe it is possible for a person to create a “system override” so that they can act regardless of someone trying to force them to do exactly what they would want to do, but that is seriously advanced form of spirituality and I don’t even wish to attempt to advise the general public on how to do that… Even if I knew.

Who needs to learn letting go?

Everyone who takes pride in being “a bit of a control freak” or “a busy body” or “everyone’s mum” is very likely a person who is in SERIOUS need of learning how to let go of their need to control other people’s actions and feelings. Mothers are VERY likely to be emotionally holding their children to a task, failing, and so are some fathers. (I personally know a lot of mothers like this, fathers… None, even if there is a persistent stereotype of controlling fathers and husbands out there. They are no longer tolerated in our society, but controlling mothers are.)

The need to try and force someone into action comes from a fear that they otherwise would not (know their own interest). It stems of mistrust of other people, and the belief that only oneself is aware of what is the correct course of action. Therefore, the cure is to understand one’s own rightful place in relation to other people around you, and to become consciously aware of one’s own expectations and frustrations with other people.

I personally just realized I’ve been trying to emotionally FORCE some people to leave me and my soulmates alone when the much more effective method would be to allow them to decide for themselves whether they should leave us alone or not. Of course, once someone makes the opposite choice than you feel is obvious, the wish to start forcing them to your will rises quickly. When  you stop telling people what to do, they become responsible for their own actions and making them more aware that their chosen behavior is… wrong. So remember that you might be trying to force someone to go away, making them unable to, just as you maybe trying to force someone to come to you, making them unable to do that.

Letting go, thus, means releasing the need to control other people’s choices and actions.

Good luck.

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