How to make friends (as the Young Soul*)

the Young Soul* (or shall I call regular, everyday people with normal-people problems) tend to try and make friends with people who have their life figured out. They may try and do this by trying hard to appear either super confident (without being so) or super insecure, exaggerating their need for a friend. Either or. They try to either impress those who are more confident than they are, or they’re trying to appeal to their compassion and pity. The Young Soul*people should, however, seek friendship with other the Young Soul*; other regular people with regular worries, so you can put your burdens down together.

An Old Soul* doesn’t need anyone. They WANT (and, to be honest, need) another person who is highly motivated and capable, highly intelligent and driven, talented, and complicated, they need and more than need, WANT a company that can understand their complexities. A Young Soul* can never offer them that understanding and comprehension, but will be rather painful reminder that nobody understands them. They are USED to “friends” like that, but they typically feel like instead of  being able to rely on their friend, they’re carrying the loads of two or more people, in addition to their own, without feeling like they get anything out of that relationship.

the Young Soul* feel relieved by a simple fact there’s SOMEBODY in their lives, but they also feel that with the Old Souls*, there’s a divide that they can’t quite understand. The divide comes from the fact that the Old Souls* does not feel relieved but burdened by this relationship. That’s why it will never work. The Young Soul* tend to interpret this situation as the Old Souls* doesn’t trust them, but the reason is this: The Old Souls* doesn’t trust the dog-type, because the Old Souls* worries are simply too high-level intelligence for the Young Soul*to take on. They simply CANNOT, nobody questions their WILLINGNESS to. And the Young Soul*tends to believe that it’s the thought that counts, but often, the Old Souls* must take a risk to “trust” the Young Soul*as a FURTHER favor toward the Young Soul*friend who WANTS TO BE useful more than what they are able to be.

The Young Soul*people must find other insecure people to bond with. They must find those who ALSO want to whisper their secret to their friend’s ear: “I have no idea how to cope with this.” The Old Souls* never say this, because they don’t feel that way. They have nothing to confess to. To them, life is easy – more or less – and they like to complicate it to make it challenging – the exact opposite to what the Young Soul* like to do. The Young Soul* like simple, they like comfort, they like a warm place by the fireplace, while the Old Souls* want to go huntin’. In the rain. Pretending to be lions and panthers. The Young Soul* like to be and remain dogs. They’ll go hunting in packs, yes, but they like to hunt in packs. The Old Souls* do, too, sometimes, but only with other lions, and they are perfectly capable and happy hunting alone… Rather than a clumsy dog that reveals its position in the grass.

If you’re dog-type, don’t look for a superhuman to save you; look for other human beings you can work with. Someone you can help a little, so they’ll help you a little. Someone who you can say: “I don’t know much, but I know this…” And they can say it to you back. Small things. Little things that make you stronger together.

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