How to make friends (as the Normal Person*)

the Normal Person* (or shall I call regular, everyday people with normal-people problems) tend to try and make friends with people who have their life figured out. They may try and do this by trying hard to appear either super confident (without being so) or super insecure, exaggerating their need for a friend. Either or. They try to either impress those who are more confident than they are, or they’re trying to appeal to their compassion and pity. The Normal Person*people should, however, seek friendship with other the Normal Person*; other regular people with regular worries, so you can put your burdens down together.

An Savant* doesn’t need anyone. They WANT (and, to be honest, need) another person who is highly motivated and capable, highly intelligent and driven, talented, and complicated, they need and more than need, WANT a company that can understand their complexities. A Normal Person* can never offer them that understanding and comprehension, but will be rather painful reminder that nobody understands them. They are USED to “friends” like that, but they typically feel like instead of  being able to rely on their friend, they’re carrying the loads of two or more people, in addition to their own, without feeling like they get anything out of that relationship.

the Normal Person* feel relieved by a simple fact there’s SOMEBODY in their lives, but they also feel that with the Savants*, there’s a divide that they can’t quite understand. The divide comes from the fact that the Savants* does not feel relieved but burdened by this relationship. That’s why it will never work. The Normal Person* tend to interpret this situation as the Savants* doesn’t trust them, but the reason is this: The Savants* doesn’t trust the dog-type, because the Savants* worries are simply too high-level intelligence for the Normal Person*to take on. They simply CANNOT, nobody questions their WILLINGNESS to. And the Normal Person*tends to believe that it’s the thought that counts, but often, the Savants* must take a risk to “trust” the Normal Person*as a FURTHER favor toward the Normal Person*friend who WANTS TO BE useful more than what they are able to be.

The Normal Person*people must find other insecure people to bond with. They must find those who ALSO want to whisper their secret to their friend’s ear: “I have no idea how to cope with this.” The Savants* never say this, because they don’t feel that way. They have nothing to confess to. To them, life is easy – more or less – and they like to complicate it to make it challenging – the exact opposite to what the Normal Person* like to do. The Normal Person* like simple, they like comfort, they like a warm place by the fireplace, while the Savants* want to go huntin’. In the rain. Pretending to be lions and panthers. The Normal Person* like to be and remain dogs. They’ll go hunting in packs, yes, but they like to hunt in packs. The Savants* do, too, sometimes, but only with other lions, and they are perfectly capable and happy hunting alone… Rather than a clumsy dog that reveals its position in the grass.

If you’re dog-type, don’t look for a superhuman to save you; look for other human beings you can work with. Someone you can help a little, so they’ll help you a little. Someone who you can say: “I don’t know much, but I know this…” And they can say it to you back. Small things. Little things that make you stronger together.

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