Why you shouldn’t give in to rejection junkies.

A rejection junkie is a person who cannot accept the idea that they have been rejected. They don’t BELIEVE they have been truly rejected, but they believe this person is toying with them, wants to get something more out of the relationship and thus positioning themselves for a negotiation, or most likely that they are above the rejection junkie in the social hierarchy and thus an important person to win over. A rejection junkie does not think that no means no, they think they’ve found an important door to get through into the chamber of gold. They do not think that there is such a thing as “love” to look for in the relationship; therefore, they are looking for signs of other benefits besides love. Their closest idea of love they hope to gain is admiration for their persistence, I figure.

The reason why rejection junkies stay that way is that it is so common for people to give in: “OK, fine, we’ll give it a go. We’ll go have dinner.” Or whatever. “Fine, if you want it so much, I’ll sleep with you.” It can feel like that person REALLY LOVES YOU when truthfully, they don’t even understand the concept; all they want is what they can’t have, what they can’t have they believe to be better than what they deserve, and they always want better than they deserve. Ironically, the easiest way to get rid of rejection junkies is to be eager for their friendship and devotion, but if you REALLY hate their company, you certainly don’t want to put yourself in the position where you might have to say no to SLEEPING with them rather than saying no to a dinner date. However, it may help you get rid of them if you seem eager and flattered to go out with them rather than put off by the idea.

However, IF you find yourself head-to-head with them, as you tried just to tell them no, or you tried to be in a relationship with them, and now you want to break up – you can’t give in now. It gives them a confirmation that they’ll get anything they want by nagging you for it. There may be other strategies you might want to try to make them less interested in you. You need to make it seem less attractive to be seen with you, or you may make them think that the thing they think you have is not real at all. If you’re really desperate, you might want to start an unflattering rumor about yourself, preferably something true, like you had to work for everything you have and you’re actually NOT old money – you see? Something a normal person would never think is a bad thing, but a gold and status -digger would find disappointing or even embarrassing.

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