Can you love someone without being aware of it?

There is a highly disturbing belief in the Twin Flame circles, that suggests that a “runner” maybe in love with the “chaser” without being aware of their emotions. That is a highly manipulative and a toxic idea to give to people. SURE, perhaps it maybe true in some sense, but if you ask that person: “Do you love me” and they think on it for a moment and go: “No,” who are you to insist they do?

I know there are situations where a person can LIE to you about their feelings; you can FEEL their love for you, and they still tell you that they’re “not interested” or that “they don’t feel anything for you” when you can feel it in you body they’re not telling the truth. There can be several reasons for LYING about it, but that doesn’t mean they are UNAWARE of their emotions; they are simply not giving them validity, or they think they can get away with lying to a “Twin Flame” which… They can’t. The reasons why they lie can vary from wanting to play a little, to play cat and mouse and hard to get, to pretend not to be quite as easy as that, to being ashamed of loving you for whatever reason, being in a committed relationship, and a variety of other reasons.

What worries me the most about it is the conviction that people can tell you that “You are my Twin Flame, if you don’t love me, you must be unaware of your feelings/not in touch with your own feelings,” which is an explanation I bought for a while, too. That is, however, impossible. You can’t be a lesbian without being aware of it on some level, you can’t hate someone without knowing you do or want something without awareness of that want.

However, there is a potential that they WOULD BE in love with you if you were ready for them if you had done the work required to be worthy of them. In that case, they may be on your path to work as a carrot to self-discovery and spiritual growth, and IF you get where you need to go to be at their level, they’ll fall for you. Until then, they’ll stay cold because you don’t deserve them yet.

Just be aware of this: if someone isn’t in love with you, they are not the problem; you are. Stop trying to twist it the other way around because you’re too lazy to do the work that will make you lovable. The same is true in reverse: If you don’t love someone, that’s their problem, not yours: They better produce better content. 😉

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