The One-Sided Soul Bond, Enigma

One of those dreaded topics… This is the only form of “a false soulmate” (false Twin Flame) there is. I always keep telling you that if you feel the love and it’s returned, then it’s a True Emotion Mirror bond, but I must say that I have found an instance of True Emotion Mirror -strength soul bond love that does go one way only.

Don’t panic, you can probably tell whether or not your True Emotion Mirror bond is like this, but as I describe how this bond is formed, I want you to be more empowered with knowledge as to what is happening to you, compared to “it’s in your head only” -love. We always worry about whether our True Emotion Mirror feels the same way toward us, whether we should hold onto hope at all, so here will be the answer to that burning question: Is there a chance a True Emotion Mirror bond is completely one-sided?

True Emotion Mirrors are not created for you

As you know, I have concluded that True Emotion Mirrors are not created for you, but that we have a lot of potential True Emotion Mirrors that will develop in intensity over time, sometimes creating multiple bonds at the same time. Because of this natural development of the intense connection that we know as a True Emotion Mirror connection, it doesn’t always go perfectly – and that makes it so special when it does. There is no guarantee that will force your True Emotion Mirror to end up with you, without will or control… When they do, they choose so. Besides normal every day relationship, these bonds have other ways of being formed.

Sure, True Emotion Mirrors, before they become that to each other, have to have a compatible soul to each other. Their emotions must mirror each other, up to a degree. They have to fall into a compatible spectrum in ALL AREAS OF LIFE. Once this condition is met, the bond may start developing, it goes into the growing state. However, what people call “Twin Flames” are mature stage True Emotion Mirrors meeting again in this lifetime… Either in the physical or telepathically.

One-sided soul bonds

You know how we develop a love affair with an idol, a celebrity? The idol is in no way aware of your love for them, but you devote your entire existence to the worship of this person? This bond, although it seems harmless enough, may create a bond between you and your idol, and this bond will withstand growing up, living life and death, and will be there for the next life time. The more devoted and ‘obsessed’ you were, the more likely it is that this bond will never leave you. In previous lifetimes the idol might have been a prince or a sage of some description, someone who gathered a lot of admiration toward themselves, by simply being exceptionally attractive. A Don Juan -spirit, if you will.

This is not harmful in itself, it only becomes harmful when the admirer doesn’t accept realities and takes this devotion as something that they feel the object is obligated to return. If your daughter (or son) has an idol like that, it can be a healthy growing experience if you gently remind them about unconditional love and how they can wish good things to happen to the object of their devotion without feeling jealousy over their girlfriends or boyfriends. This will also teach you the important lesson of letting go. This existing one-sided bond will make things difficult when this same idol reincarnates into a very accessible place in your life, but he or she has no idea who you are. To you, they are the most fascinating, amazing person, to them, you are a stranger, and potentially a stranger he or she has no interest in.

This kind of admiration is easy to find around you without including celebrities into the mix. There are always the popular kids at school, some upstanding citizens of a country town, local heroes, and simply cool people – everyone knows and admires them, and some will find them sexually attractive and form a one-sided affection to them – we see this all the time. While these people are friendly and accepting of admiration, they don’t necessarily form any kind of need for it. The need for attention, if there is any, is definitely not linked to the admiration to a certain individual. As we also incarnate with our soul mates, we are likely to find ourselves sharing the life with these same individuals over and over, and if we don’t learn to let go of them, the one-sided bond is being nurtured over lifetimes into a flame that burns on it’s own – without the feelings ever being returned.

How to recognize an Enigma?

An Enigma, as I call these highly attractive people, is cool around you. It’s like as if you didn’t really exist, or that your existence to them was nice, but they don’t really seem to be dependent on your attention as much as you are of theirs. They are likely very friendly towards you, but they never cross that line that would tip the scales and you would know that they feel the same way – because they don’t. You are expecting a verbal confirmation out of them because to the outside they are unreadable. They are used to being admired, but they also need you to know that they are not there for a romantic/sexual connection although they want to maintain friendships.

I would say that the likelihood of an Enigma having been a celebrity or otherwise notorious in a previous life if they are not one in this one is extremely high. You can consider if this person is ‘star material’ in any way, to assess the possibility of this kind of a bond having been formed. Other signs of one-sidedness is their coolness and your feeling of ‘needing’ their attention or love, while they seem not to feel dependent on yours. You also don’t FEEL the love of an Enigma, but you FEEL the love of a True Emotion Mirror, even when they are playing games like hard-to-get and jealousy games, etc to catch your attention.

An Enigma can also be “accidentally attractive”

Another “dangerous” type of a person is someone who is not necessarily the most beautiful girl or the most handsome of men, but who is somehow accidentally attractive. They are easy to fall for, because the observer counts on them not being traditionally attractive, and therefore, they assume this person is special only to them when the fact is that many people like the same person.

The Enigma, when observed rationally may not be handsome or beautiful, really, but… Like the opening words of Gone With The Wind go:

“Scarlet O’Hara was not beautiful, but men seldom realized it when caught by her charm as the Tarleton twins were. In her face were too sharply blended the delicate features of her mother, a Coast aristocrat of French descent, and the heavy ones of her florid Irish father. But it was an arresting face, pointed of chin, square of jaw. Her eyes were pale green without a touch of hazel, starred with bristly black lashes and slightly tilted at the ends. Above them, her thick black brows slanted upward, cutting a startling oblique line in her magnolia-white skin-that skin so prized by Southern women and so carefully guarded with bonnets, veils and mittens against hot Georgia suns.”

Scarlett O’Hara is definitely a great fictional example of an Enigma, loved and admired by both men and women, but who, on her turn, didn’t hold much fancy to anyone but one person; Ashley Wilkes, and perhaps her own mother, Ellen.¹

True Emotion Mirrors are much calmer than Enigma-chasers

Clearly, an Enigma bond cannot really be called a True Emotion Mirror bond, but the intensity of the emotions the admirer feel can be very similar indeed. If a person allows themselves to fall head-over-heels in love with an Enigma, there will be a lot of heartache involved.

The amount of emotional pain you suffer for love has no bearing on whether that is a True Emotion Mirror or not. Many True Emotion Mirrors are very calm in their love for one another, but Enigma can cause quite a stir – because the danger of someone else is constantly there, and the chaser is usually WELL aware of the fact that the Enigma may wind up marrying someone else on a whim. A True Emotion Mirror feels a level of certainty about their True Emotion Mirror… Like: “You can marry someone else and have 12 children with her, you can go through the entire performance of love and marriage, and still I know you love me, and only me.” And this is not a threat… it’s knowledge and trust that you just know.

1. I do think this character is based on a real person, and that Rhett Butler was her Mature Stage True Emotion Mirror – and Ashley only an Uncharted True Emotion Mirror, but… I’ll go into that another time. ↩

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