We have clear rules on how to deal with our child’s homosexuality…

… but parents still struggle to accept the sexuality of their straight child, especially their daughter.

If you heard that your child is secretly gay, your brain falls into gear immediately: “Do not judge, love doesn’t ask for gender, it’s their choice and their sexuality is their business.” You would immediately start looking for ways to make sure your child knows they are loved despite their sexual orientation, that they are valuable to you the way they are, and that you’ll welcome their partner into the family and attempt to come to terms with any obstacle or awkwardness their sexuality might bring you.

This is the result of a couple of decades worth of gay pride, but what about straight pride? WE are still in the closet. WE are still apologizing for having desires that are not condoned by the Bible, WE are still keeping things under wraps hiding our sexuality from others, being ashamed of unwanted sexual attention from the opposite gender and we still pretend having children is the culmination of our sexual happiness. Both straight men and straight women are very much still under scrutiny over where, when, with whom and under which circumstances and how turned on you were and by what. Once a gay man or woman is out of the closet, the shame subsides (hopefully more often than not) and society is expected to accept them, because shaming someone for their sexuality is no longer allowed.

Unless you’re straight. (Or polygamousORpolygynandrous, but that’s a whole other can of worms.)

How to deal with your child’s sexuality doesn’t come up in the parental meetings unless your child is a deviant, partly because admitting that you have an issue with their sexuality, pretty much implies you have an issue with your own, too. The other reason is that this is the way we have always dealt with sexuality and this is the way we’ll do that now. Sexuality is accepted and embraced only by parents who have a very close relationship with their children.

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