True Emotion Mirrors Part III – Random Points

Selflessness

As far as selflessness goes, a person who has at least a spirit level connection of their True Emotion Mirrors will turn towards other people to help them along their way. (For as long as this connection is not actualized in spirit any more than in the physical, the pair is going to feel it is URGENT and vital to get it sorted and completed, and are unlikely to be able to relax enough to give a shit about anyone else’s problems.)

The True Emotion Mirrors with enough of a connection at least in spirit feel like they can afford to give things to other people, and to guide them on their way. They share knowledge, material goods and whatever others need, because quite frankly, their True Emotion Mirror is the only thing they need to be happy. After that, you can give up everything else without barely knowing it’s gone. You’ll hold onto stuff only to make your True Emotion Mirrors happy, your wealth and possessions become a “look how much fun we can have together because of what we’ve got!” But… The selflessness regarding others may be misinterpreted as you being THEIR True Emotion Mirror, if they are not as aware of theirs as you are of yours. They may thus latch onto you which can sometimes be incredibly frustrating. (Don’t fight your feelings, your impulses are created to guide you back to your True Emotion Mirrors , who are the only thing that balance your life back to perfection.)

– True Emotion Mirrors are also NEVER an obligation to you, at least not an unpleasant one… I’ll try and make sense out of that one as it is not an easy sign to understand. Whenever you feel someone is pressuring you into a relationship with them due to an obligation of some kind, INCLUDING, NOT LIMITED TO, them telling you that you are their True Emotion Mirror and thus, you are obligated to love you, in NO STAGE do you feel right to try and force your True Emotion Mirror into a relationship with you due to an OBLIGATION. You may try and buy them, you’ll easily jail them if you were an ancient being, you wish you could hand-cuff them and drag them back to your lair, but you would never try and OBLIGATE them to it, with “You owe it to me” or “it is your duty to love me”. NEVER. You would feel like you are trying to obligate the wind to blow for you because you’re hot like it was it’s duty. You’d feel like an idiot asking. With a Partial Mirror, you feel like you have every right to expect them to love you, too, because why the hell not? Why SHOULD THEY fight this, after all… You own them!
– Further on the feeling of OWNING this person: A True Emotion Mirrors are VERY SLOW to accept the feeling of owning each other. They will eventually feel that, but they have had to go through a lot of convincing to make it so. A Trail Companion* may feel like they own the other person with relative ease. They may cheerfully take it for granted and then be surprised when their partner or friend lashes back: “You don’t OWN ME! Fuck you!” A True Emotion Mirror is very coy about such assumptions because they are truly in the presence of perfection itself, although in reality, the difference between them is not that great, they simply FEEL LIKE this other person is A STAR.
– Now, when the other person is an actual star (celebrity) or otherwise a super popular person or superbly beautiful or talented or wanted by the other gender or in any way superior to other people, they tend to have friends, sometimes. These friends and family members may easily start using this superior person as a narcissistic source. This means that they feel that by association, they too, are better, more, greater than others, and they feel like the owner of a limited edition Ferrari supercar. They feel pride and superiority towards others because they are associated with this amazing person (Enigma) and they truly feel like they OWN this person in the sense of owning a piece of equipment or a luxury item, a castle or a piece of land. The sense of owning a True Emotion Mirror feels, first of all, mutual; you own them and they own you. The feeling has been established by a mutual GIVING oneself to the other – and this must be confirmed by words one way or the other, as the True Emotion Mirrors would never ASSUME that about each other. They need WORDS to support that feeling that they’ve got. They’d be MORTIFIED if their loved one would say they’ve jumped the gun, and claimed “ownership” to them when they truly don’t feel like they had any right to do so. They would feel MORTIFIED!!! (Ashamed like never before.)
– polygamous True Emotion Mirrors will also throw a spanner into the works here. There is a possibility that a True Emotion Mirror group who are openly polyamorous send the vibe of “loving everyone” to their surroundings. This DOES lift the self-confidence of the True Emotion Mirrors linked to this group, (up to a point when it starts to work against it again, I’ll explain in a while). As True Emotion Mirrors are always quite amazed by each other’s talents and their attitude and values and everything that they are, they always feel a little or waay out of their league even though they couldn’t be more in their own league if they tried. They feel like OK, maybe it’s not such a big stretch that I might be a part of that group, as I know they are amazing but at least I don’t have to be THE ONLY ONE there, I don’t have to try and be everything to this one amazing person, like they are used to in a monogamous society. (This might become an unfamiliar feeling once monogamy becomes a thing of the past.) The feeling is that… “Okay, I might dare to ask if this girl/guy might love me, too, because I sure as hell love them like crazy, so I’ll… Ask.” or “Me and my best friend could band together and see if we would be interesting enough for this person if we worked together as a team…”

However, when the group is established, other similarly aligned natural polygamists will take notice. They may not know their True Emotion Mirrors (or are on the run from them thinking “no way in hell do I have a chance” when in fact, they do) and they will think: “oh well, there’s already 12 of them, what’s one more?” or “You already fuck him, why won’t you fuck me? You’re polyamorous, why do you care?” (One of the biggest polyamorists pet peeves even outside True Emotion Mirror groups.)

– When the group starts to grow in size so much that it becomes difficult to remember everyone (army size) each individual may start feeling a bit expendable. They will start looking at themselves and compare themselves to the others thinking at which stage do I become just an outsider looking in? At what state do I become more trouble than what I’m worth? This is normal even with True Emotion Mirrors , but also a respectful Trail Companion* may notice when they are not really in the right group. I’ll try and explain the difference. The first and most important clue is how do the others feel about it? Do you believe them when they tell you they want you to stay? However, here is another point of misunderstanding: When you ask a True Emotion Mirror if they still feel love for you or if you are still in love with him or her, they instantly fear YOU are no longer in love with them and WANT TO leave. That the whole craziness is too much for you and that you need more private time with your partner(s). This may turn their answer into “supportive” of you leaving, even though that is the last thing they want you to do. They’d simply feel selfish to ask you to stay in a situation in which clearly you are not receiving all the love and attention you so wholeheartedly deserve. So… A Partial Mirror may react to that request as a “no you OWE us. You HAVE TO stay! We need the numbers! You have to stay loyal!” A True Emotion Mirror may be seeking the words to explain why they need this person to stay and they FEAR they think exactly this way about their loved one, and they fear their motivations of wanting to keep them are utterly selfish. They may even think about the numbers for a second, or how much they’d hate to have their enemies see them lose this lover of theirs, but they’ll quickly curb those worries for the good of their True Emotion Mirror. “So what I have to face the public shame, so what I have one less lover, if they are not happy with me, that’s how it has to be!” This, again, may be interpreted as “you don’t really care” but that’s not the case. The True Emotion Mirrors ‘ grip on each other is incredibly light for an “unbreakable bond”. They let go so very easily that it is easy to think they don’t care, but they do. So… How to tell the difference of someone letting you down gently, and someone fearing you actually really want to go. One trick that helps me personally when I am worried someone is better off without me is to picture their alternatives. I don’t know how effective this is in reverse, but… “Where would they go” or “how would they feel” if we broke up may be helpful if you are not in a pit of despair and self-pity at the moment, in which case you’ll give yourself a reason to hang yourself. (Don’t.) One thing that may make you feel better is that the bond is unbreakable, as in it exists as a standard of being. Like water; you can separate a glass of water from the mass of water, but when you pour it back in, nothing has changed. Therefore even if you let someone go and let them explore their options, once they return, nothing will have changed… In THAT sense, it is safe to break the True Emotion Mirror bond, as it is always going to be restorable. You CANNOT mess up a True Emotion Mirror bond so bad that it can’t be restored, but you can do so with ANY other type of a soulmate. There is nothing True Emotion Mirrors wouldn’t forgive each other, even though the forgiveness may come with a complete ass whooping.
– The unbreakable bond…

Your past – when did you meet them and how do you know?

My mother had a group of school friends she still hasn’t stopped talking about at the age of nearing 70. She worked with some of these people, and she has always full of love when she talks about certain work-colleagues to the point that my dad has started to feel irritated about it. She speaks of them the same way as I speak about my rock gods – as unattainable, amazing people who are simply that one notch above everyone else, right?

I have always known she loves these people more than she loves her family, and that she admires them more than she admires us. It’s not like she has rubbed it in, she doesn’t have to, her eyes light up when she even mentions one of their names. She never calls them – or is rarely in contact with them – but she feels she was blessed and lucky to have known them, and she also feels superior to others because she once had friends like them.

She’s talking about her True Emotion Mirrors , even though she would never claim any ownership to people like that – people she regards being superior to her, BETTER people. (They’re seriously not that amazing, it’s completely subjective.) She has always wanted to turn me into one of those people. She thinks she loves me because she thinks I COULD one day be like one of her truest friends. Unfortunately, I view those same people with very different eyes. Sure I know what she sees in them, but to me they are boring and predictable and quite frankly… Materialistic and self-absorbed… And not very good looking or sexy, either. Not them or their similarly minded children. This has caused nothing but friction in my relationship with my mother, she thinks love is to show me how to be like the people she admires, when I have begged and pleaded for respect for who I am as a person and what and who I admire in people.

Don’t get me wrong, I kind of feel her admiration of her several bosses is kind of cute. She goes all in a knot if one of them comes for a visit. She’ll scrub the house from roof to floor and fusses about it like a mad woman. When they’re finally at the door, she goes full cherry red in her cheeks and acts like a moron around them. Our True Emotion Mirrors have that power of turning us into blithering idiots and make us feel like 12-year olds again, and we’ll just have to try and cope.

And as cute as it looks, it’s impossible when you’re in that mindset. You feel like you can’t act natural, and you’re always superbly starstruck about them. And… Everyone surrounding you will be a bit… “okay, bleh?” while you’re there thinking “OMG they must be SOOOOO POPULAR. EVERYONE would WANT TO BE WITH THEM! Oh I would LOOOOOOVE IT IF THEY WOULD JUST CALL ME….”

Speaking of calling, this one True Emotion Mirror of my mom’s called her every Christmas for years on the dot, and that was her Christmas made.

Yeah… My dad and mom are not True Emotion Mirrors to each other, but they get along. The Trail Companion* bond is FAR FAR more durable than the True Emotion Mirror bond because they don’t respect each other enough to see it necessary to let go of each other. “I don’t really care if you want me or not, you made a promise so you’ll just stick around and do as you’re told and we’ll go to our graves married. The fuck do I care if you’re not happy about it.”

(That’s why I tell True Emotion Mirrors to get on top of their insecurities and try their hardest to get back together with their True Emotion Mirrors , because the person who is a god or a goddess to you, is nothing but a lousy backup plan and a compromise to another person.)

 

How do you know for sure they don’t want you?

People I’ve coached in the past often ask how do they know when it’s time to let go of hope and move on. One answer is that you can’t let go until you can let go. It’s like asking someone super glued to a pole release their grip of the pole. I’m sure they’d want to, you know, but easier said than done. You’ll let go naturally when all of your hope is exhausted, and you know this is not happening – or you have been replaced; as in, they’ve found someone else who they love more than they love you… In the physical, and are in an actual relationship with their True Emotion Mirror(s). Even this doesn’t work at all times, as Polyamorous people don’t necessarily react to their Near/Trail Companion* falling in love with another person, even if they were not a True Emotion Mirror.

One important key to this is to try and work out how they bond. If they make friends using the method A, they’re going to reverse the process to alienate a person they don’t want. Note that some people do try and play hard to get, they may play jealousy games and they may pretend to not be interested and even tell you you’ll never have them in order to irritate your ego and to make you flair up and try and get what is denied from them.

People who don’t play games don’t usually get it – so if you play these games make sure your possible True Emotion Mirror actually realizes these are GAMES. Don’t make assumptions that a good looking guy or a girl is a narcissist that will never take no for an answer or that they MUST prove it to themselves they can have anyone they want. A good-looking person may accept very easily that they are not everyone’s cup of tea – after all, they themselves reject people left right and centre, and understand there’s no malice intended when they do so they don’t get offended when people do that to them. They also know how ridiculous it seems when someone won’t take no for an answer but keeps banging their head against the wall like a moron. They often feel they’d rather give up the fight when they still have some dignity left – but they won’t feel embarrassed about loving someone who they think is a god in human form, so they may send you a love letter to explain how they feel and that is NOT a joke or a dig.

Awareness, being evolved, and knowing other True Emotion Mirror groups

Many people confuse a True Emotion Mirror Typology as a some kind of a personality test, or a collection of personality traits, but that is not what it is. It is a description of a relationship. Also, a lot of people fixate on one person who they have the need to prove to be their True Emotion Mirror in order to gain the right to ORDER THEM to stay, and to force them into a mould. However, if you do this, you will miss the fact that the people who you love and appreciate the most in this world are actually what you’re looking for.

What the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology is created for is to describe all possible relationship types, so you can rest assured you’ve got the right people (without force) or that it is free to keep looking for that love that seems fictional or so unreal you feel stupid and childish hoping it would exist. I want to explain to you WHY it is OK to keep looking… And that you’ll find who you are looking for…. And that it will be perfect… Exactly the way YOU wanted it.

The typology is also a warning. I am trying to warn you of people who are unwittingly, without any attempt to cause you harm, pushing you out of alignment with your True Emotion Mirrors . (Your Trail Companions* are the dangerous ones. Avoid them at all cost. They mean well, but their ideals and ideologies and values are very different to yours, and they’ll force you to adapt to their world, which then ruins you from your True Emotion Mirrors . The Partial Mirrors are also doing this feeling they are doing you a favor and that they do this out of love for you. Also, not all Trail Companions* are dangerous, but you’ll have to only interact with those who appreciate the fact you are, in fact, only Trail Companions* and they accept that without difficulty not trying to make you into something you’re not.)

Being evolved allows you to see THEIR perspective, without compromising yours

Logically, an evolved human understands why another person (a Incomplete Emotion Mirror) loves another person (their True Emotion Mirror who is also your Incomplete Emotion Mirror) but might not love us despite our own preferences. However, if we could pick the most perfect people without any judgement or fear of people laughing at us or making us feel unmarriable or childish, our ideals would describe our True Emotion Mirrors to the t. If you’d write a romance story with THE PERFECT lead characters, you’d write in your True Emotion Mirrors without thinking, even if you haven’t met them yet. (Only, to be realistic, you are more than likely to give your characters flaws because you don’t want to write utopia that nobody would believe in. Write away – your idea of perfection is highly subjective and your reader will think you’ve created the most excitingly flawed characters – but so realistic!)

An evolved person can at least logically understand why they are not perfect in everyone’s perspective, while they still have the right to value what they value. An unevolved person will deny that right – their way is the best way and that is final. They have a very low tolerance to different views on what is perfect, and have a high need to prove themselves to be correct and the only person (along with their True Emotion Mirrors ) who truly know what perfection is. The way to deal with these people is to simply argue the point until they give up and back off out of the fight… Something a person who’d like to think themselves evolved wants to avoid… However, the next step to this in evolution is to learn how to deal with those who are less evolved and manage to somehow keep to one’s self-respect even though wrestling with a pig makes you feel dirty. (It’s ego, by the way. You want to wrestle, but you don’t allow yourself because of ego. Screw that.)

More than one way to be perfect

Every time you think of a perfect person you’ll think about your True Emotion Mirrors . (or you’ll start with a near perfect person and then start refining: “Like so and so but more like… less… with a bit…” If you were asked to describe your perfect ideal of a dream come true boyfriend or a girlfriend, you’d be describing your True Emotion Mirror.

As a polyandrist, I must say that there is a possibility that your appreciation of different kinds of people may seem confusing though. You may find a lot of different kinds of people “perfect”, and the more evolved you are, the more you can feel you are “perfect” but also a person who is very different to you can be equally perfect to you without it causing a conflict in your mind. A perfect rose is a perfect rose, where a perfect orchid is a perfect orchid, you know? Mostly these differences relate to your looks, while internally, you maybe eerily similar. Some feel absolutely fantastic that two so dissimilar people can find the ultimate love.

Although it is MORE THAN COMMON that the True Emotion Mirrors look like siblings, it is not a necessity. Their similarities are internal more than external. What is inside counts more, of course, but as it happens your OLDEST connections are likely very similar looking to you due to the fact you’ve probably begun your life as a human being within a certain culture and race, and you’ve loved the ones nearest to you, who are likely of the same race as you are. I still look freaking Armenian to this day, or Greek or Latin, I don’t know but I certainly don’t look Finnish – and this is how we can easily find our oldest connections – they look the most like us. However, many of us feel EXCITED about the differences, as looking in the mirror can get boring. 😉

It is important you understand that the way you are is more important than the way your True Emotion Mirror group is. If you’ll all endlessly adapt to becoming exactly alike, you’ll wind up becoming the same person… Literally. This world doesn’t allow more than one person of each type, just like it doesn’t allow more than one water. As soon as you become 100% identical with another person, you become one; this is the True Emotion Mirror effect. In the final stage, True Emotion Mirrors also decide which gender they are going to be once they are identical in every way. I theorize that sometimes “gender confused” people are a recently reborn as one True Emotion Mirror in one body and they cannot decide which gender they want to be. True Emotion Mirrors maybe of the same gender, however, which makes their adjustment into one body very simple indeed.

The Level of Perceived Perfection

Last night I did something that made one of my True Emotion Spirit Mirrors coils. I walked in a funny way without making sufficient effort to make sure they all knew it was a joke. He HATED it. He started laughing soon after at his own reaction and the realization that in the 6 years time that he’d been observing me and what I do in spirit (as a fly in the wall) 24/7, this was THE ONLY TIME I did something he didn’t like.

Don’t get me wrong. I have some disgusting habits. He has more than enough reason to dislike what I do. (They all do.) Still, he likes everything I do, or at least the way I react to the disgusting things, or something about it makes it OK, but the point is… Everything about your True Emotion Mirrors is perfect TO YOU, even though in reality, nobody is perfect. You simply feel like these people, by everything you have ever thought about or felt, are perfect. You may know this intellectually as some people have a high respect for individuality, but in the case of True Emotion Mirrors , they truly feel these people are perfect from a very subjective perspective.

The reason why I wanted to bring this up is this… You know that if someone is in your tail for 24/7 without blinking, no need to sleep, no need to take a break or take their eyes off you, and they still manage to love everything about you, you know NOBODY could be able to fake things for that long without getting caught… I suspect. I do everything under their watch, EVERYTHING. 0 privacy. However, somehow, I manage to remain the person they like… I do some things they don’t like to be honest – mainly talk about how much they love me as I try to teach you all and I don’t like talking on their behalf any more than they like me doing it, which is the reason why they tolerate it, because you all need to understand what true love is… But… The point being… It doesn’t matter what you are like as long as you thrive towards your perfection, your ideal.

That brings me to another point.

If you’re not your ideal person yet

You may not think you’re all that lovable now, and you hope that you don’t have to remain this way in order to be loved. It is a very few individuals who can honestly say they are their absolute ideal person. So the vast majority of people wish to improve on themselves in some way, or at least have the freedom to do so without it meaning they’ll lose love. Whenever people are 100% happy with who they are, it is usually a sign of standards that are set relatively low to begin with. Usually, not always.

This is actually directly related to your body weight. What I say about excess weight is this: It is the exact measure of the lack of happiness, self-satisfaction, or self-respect you feel. It is the exact distance of how far from your ideal you are, with very few exceptions proving the rule. Most of us would love to be fit and beautiful, and I do think that in 99.9% of people, being overweight is not their ideal.

When people tell you to accept your body the way it is, it may sound like “accept that you’re a fat pig and will never be anything but, now, love that fat pig that you are.” That is not what it means or what I mean. What it means is that it is important to accept realities for what they are NOW, because telling yourself over and over that you’re not really that fat is only going to drive you mental, and will cause you to dress like a sausage – stuffed into a very tight sock, lol.

Once your mind is proud of who you are as a person, you’re ready to drop the weight

It is also true that trying to fight the weight off when you have other things to focus on is absolutely futile. Here I am sitting writing this with a pack of Pringles and Coke. Never you mind. I’ll work it off when the time comes, currently, I have more pressing matters to attend to. That is to make my mind perfect, as it is not there yet. I must sort my shit out so to speak. I use the expression as it so perfectly describes the feeling. I gotta sort my shit out! Figure it out. Fix it. Make it work!

I want my credits, my accolades, and my wealth, and not until I know I can do it, until I’ve finished some part of what I am aiming to achieve, I’ll feel like “Okay NOW you people can turn your eyes toward me. Until then, I’ll hide a little. I’m not too ashamed but I’m also not ready to flaunt it yet.” When I’m nearing the point at which you can all take a look at me and ask me a million questions that I know all the answers to, I’ll keep my head down and my body weight up.

I know it’ll happen, and although I obsess about my 5 extra kilograms that make me hide inside my clothes, (that’s 2.5 pounds for you Yanks,) in my peaceful mind I know that the time will come when I’ll work it off in matter of a month or two. It’s not a big deal. The same will be true for you, no matter if it is 2.5 kilos, 25 kilos or 50, when you are ready to be seen, looked at, and admired, you’ll work it off easy. You’ll simply do it as you’ll no longer feel ashamed of your superficiality because what’s on the inside has been taken care of. You’ll know that your external will match the internal, and it’s the internal you’ll be proud of.

Modesty may be one of the values you uphold. Also being “deep” as opposed to “shallow”. However, judging someone based on how good they look is equally shallow as judging someone on how fat or ugly they are. Be careful there.

In addition to this, you may hold an ideal that in fact the perfection is in the imperfection, and you want your perfect people to be relaxed about their physical beauty standards. You will always look down at people who put a high value on physical fitness just the same as they look down on you for not valuing it enough. The feeling of contempt are mutual as your values are different. Therefore, whichever way you want it, go at it without fear of judgment from those who actually matter to you.

And what they say about your body not being who you are – it’s true, but your body is a freaking mirror of what you are. If you have those extra kilos, and who doesn’t, they’ll come off only after you’re proud of who you are… And that is an interesting measure when you look at some fit people who are proud as punch for what they are… Some of them had the bar was set very low to begin with…. At least from my perspective… Low as in “ooo, you know the difference between broccoli and cauliflower and now you feel you own this world… Good on your tight ass!”

Materialism and your True Emotion Mirrors

Along the same lines, let’s discuss materialism.

True Emotion Mirrors love the same ‘stuff’. They value the same material good for the exact same reasons. If one of them doesn’t value a thing or a product or whatever, the True Emotion Mirror will know exactly how to “market” the thing to their lover, as they think exactly alike. They can also equally turn each other off an item if they know something about it that they know matters to them but the other one is unware of, such as this company uses animal testing or similar, or that it’s the conformist choice when you value individuality and rebellion.

This makes their Partial Mirrors easily think they are materialistic, or that they go after the material. As they reject everything that the Partial Mirrors value, and seek for something different, the Partial Mirrors may feel that this person values materialistic things more than they value people. For instance, you maybe going after a career in the show business because you love the art form and you want to be the best there is as a personal challenge, but your Trail Companions* may think you’re doing it because of the money, the fame, and the accolades.

But money is never anything more than a tool to buy things with to a non-materialistic person. Money is an opportunity to build shelters for the homeless, to help the people you love realize their dreams and maybe buy an wildlife sanctuary and make sure a section of this planet is safe and sound. Those are not materialistic reasons to want money, but they require a crap ton of it. This may confuse onlookers to think you’re materialistic and that you’re doing good just to distract people from the fact you actually simply want to have a personal cook, a cleaner, and a permission to tell everyone to go to hell when you feel like it. (The latter sounds fucking fantastic tho.)

To you, the symbols of your alignment to your True Emotion Mirrors are worth more than a Warhol painting.
Whatever you are into in your soul group, you will value the symbols of it more than you’ll value something that you ACTUALLY agree to be valuable… Like a painting of an important artist. In my soul group, we figure that the worthless trinkets that we wear to show an alignment to our rock gods and the loyalty to our tribe mean more to us than anything made of gold or silver. You can always replace gold and silver, but that trinket that you got from a market when you were 16 and have worn ever since (I just broke one of those 2 weeks ago, 25 years later and FUUUUUKKK!) mean more to you than anything valued at hundreds and thousands of dollars on the open market… Unless of course you managed to buy Joe Perry’s guitar once you made it big in your own band and although it’s valued in the thousands you wouldn’t let go of it… :p The money becomes irrelevant when the love is there.

This causes a perceived link to materialism. Whatever your stuff is a symbol of, what values they represent, they tell a story of who you are as a person. They may even tell a story of a detachment of material, as you may not LOVE the material, it’s simply there. Materialism is a funny thing. Emotion is emotion, right? Many people may love their material goods, but for non-materialistic reasons. Others, however, only hold onto stuff as if it meant nothing. They are not sentimental at all about the things they’re surrounded with and throw away stuff without thinking twice. (My ex-husband is like this. He takes something he’s had for 20 years, traveled around the world with it in his backpack and throws it away without blinking. Nah, even he’s not that callous but close to it. I hold more attachment to some of his stuff than he does I feel, and I wasn’t there when he traveled, and we’ve been divorced for years now!)

However, as this stuff, memorabilia, and symbols of alignment are important to people, as this stuff tells a story of who you are, it may become more important than your relationship to your parents or some friends. If they ask you to dress differently, you anger and refuse – and you should refuse, as this is who you are. They may feel, however, that you value the trinket more than you value them. This is partially true, and you should be careful not to apologize for it, and say if the trinket becomes an issue, then the feeling of its importance in the pecking order is mutual. If they want it gone because they can’t love you if you have it is no different to you wanting to keep it because you can’t love yourself if you don’t have it. Same thing from opposite angles.

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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.

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