How do you know you’re gay or straight?

I’ve got this system. :p

Everyone is either 1, 2, or 3 -point gay or straight:

1 point gay/straight

You are able to perform sexually with that particular gender IF YOU HAVE TO. Still, you don’t really enjoy it, and it requires a lot of effort – and you wouldn’t do it unless, for some reason, it was an expectation, such as being closeted gay in a heterosexual marriage. You can do it, but you’d rather not. Here’s how it feels;

You are able to feel 3 types of love toward a specific member of a specific gender; friendship, romantic love, and sexual love, BUT NOT AT THE SAME TIME. When you are running your lives, you can feel friendly love toward them, you’re partners etc. It’s all good. Then, you have a romantic dinner, and you focus on the romance romance romance, but you don’t feel sexual attraction or friendship toward them at this time. Then, you can have sex with them, during which you separate yourself from the feelings of romance and friendship from them. You most likely have to use fantasies and STRONG imagery to get there, perhaps thinking of people of a different gender than your partner as inspiration, too, but not necessarily if you are deeply in the closet.

2 point gay/straight

Your reason for not engaging in homosexual activities is primarily the fear of being judged by your same-sex friends. As in, if you’re a man, you wouldn’t risk your friendships with other men for the sake of a homosexual experience. You may also feel like having an opposite-gender partner, even if you don’t like him or her very much, is important to your image in front of your same-gendered friends. If, however, you realize that they wouldn’t mind or even thought you were hotter if you did, you’d quickly jump on that bandwagon.

A straight person would, in contrast, attempt to find gay experiences to impress an opposite-gender partner; a woman might think she would be sexier if she did have lesbian experiences but would be relieved to hear her male lovers were put off by it, so she doesn’t have to have sex with women to be sexy enough for her male lovers.

Bisexuals are very likely in this category; they may find further definitions in polygynous (in this case, women), polyandrous (in this case, men), and polygynandrous (both genders) definitions. (Straight people can, too, btw.)

3 point gay/straight

When you are with the right gendered person, you can feel 3 types of love toward them simultaneously: Friendly love, romantic love, and sexual love. You can have sex with them while simultaneously feeling you are with a romantic partner and your best friend.

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