What should you write in your dating profile?

There is something that the Old Souls* thinkers do that the Young Soul* find confusing. The Old Souls* tend to open up their doors for “everyone” but then add strict criteria for entry. This includes dating profiles, which, especially with the Old Souls* women, tend to be a little… Spikey.

What are the Old Souls* looking for in general, compared to the Young Soul*.

First; you have to understand this difference:

the Old Souls* people are aware that they are different from others, but love who they are as people, so they want to find people who are different the same way as they are.

the Young Soul* try to be similar enough to the median to be accepted as a “normal person,” and upon reaching this goal, they do not think there would be a valid reason to reject them as a potential spouse. They HOPE FOR a PERMANENT relationship at the expense of interpersonal compatibility.

This difference goes for every relationship each type has, from intimate relationships, to personal and to professional relationships.

“Ask everyone if they are the same kind as me.”

The fact the Old Souls* are usually looking for very specific character traits in others, but they don’t know which specific individuals will have those traits, so they have to “ask everyone” if they are that kind of a person. So they’ve already excluded all of the people they know as potential candidates for being the kind of people they are looking for, and the next step is everyone else.

If they included everyone with whatever traits or goals possible, it would result in absolute chaos: “I open up a blog post redistribution service for quality blog posts…” And in the next sentence, to appease the Young Soul*: “There are no standards, no categorizing needed, you don’t need to be a blogger even, just send us whatever, just to have a chat with me.” How in the heavens’ name would that benefit anyone? You see, the Young Soul* think everything is about socializing and “fitting in,” and if it was left to them, I don’t think anyone would get any work done unless it can be done while casually chatting out loud. As it is about “fitting in” to the Young Soul* thinkers, they don’t understand why the Old Souls* won’t make the requirements easier if they are so desperate for friends.

“Do you fit in with me?” or “Would you stay with someone (like me) forever?”

When the Young Soul* and the Old Souls* are looking for true love, too, their mindset is entirely different. When the Young Soul* are looking for “true love” what it means is that they ARE desperately looking for someone to STAY with them for the rest of their lives, just anyone who wouldn’t sway from their side. They only need to know about a prospective partner: “Will you stay?” The way they ask it is, “Do you want to get married one day,” which is a very poor qualifier because I think 99% of people, the Young Soul* or the Old Souls*, will say “yes,” but the conditions under which the Old Souls* wishes to marry has nothing to do with the question that the Young Soul* was curious about: “Do you see yourself being staying by my side for the rest of your life, as your personality trait?” The Young Soul* doesn’t see why a person wouldn’t be faithful TO THEM, because they are an average, normal person, and there’s nothing about them to say they’re unfit to form a permanent relationship. Therefore, if a person intends to be faithful to SOMEBODY for the rest of their life, they might just as well be faithful to them.

The Old Souls*, however, are “unicorn hunting,” NOT DESPERATE for a relationship or a person to co-exist with; they are seeking something so much more than that. Typically they are a little embarrassed to admit to it, whether they’re male or female. They are not particularly worried about whether someone will STAY with them, but they are more worried about winding up with someone they cannot truly connect with but can’t get rid of, either. Therefore, they’re very aware of what they like and don’t like and are not afraid to express it.

What the Young Soul* should say on their dating profiles

The Young Soul* should express willingness and readiness for a deep commitment relatively fast. They should say they want someone who is normal, even mundane, but who wants a committed relationship with someone suitable. If they want to raise a bar, they should say that they want someone who is serious about their health so that they can be relied on to stay alive and healthy for a long time into the future – but that is entirely optional. Then, they should continue stating their age and whether they have kids or not, if they do, mention their age, and include their income level in the profile.

That will CERTAINLY keep the Old Souls* from wasting the Young Soul* time!

What the Old Souls* should say in a dating profile

While the Young Soul* dating profile should be short and practical, the Old Souls* should write a long, long, meaningful, profile that will confuse the heck out of the Young Soul* thinkers, and hopefully make them scroll on after the first paragraph, exhausted. Still, through the profile, which may appear DESPERATE to the Young Soul* person who is more so, the Old Souls* should avoid certain pit falls with the Young Soul*.

One problem with the Young Soul* is that if someone expresses an existence of a personal flaw, the Young Soul* see it as an invitation for someone willing to fix that personal flaw. Therefore, no the Old Souls* profile should be too open about personal flaws, but it shouldn’t be too braggy either; that’s an invitation for the Young Soul* to see how desperate you are for a permanent partner considering you have to exaggerate so much to make a splash! Drawing a balance is a really tricky thing.

The spikiness in the Old Souls* profiles is their attempt to discourage the Young Soul*; but only encourages them

The Old Souls* feel easily trapped if someone emphasizes too high an expectation of instant commitment, but they are also fast chased out by spikiness that would only excite the Young Soul*. Therefore, the Old Souls* can lower their verbal weapons because they are trying to discourage the Young Soul*, whether they know this or not. Being very spikey means that the Young Soul* get excited and the Old Souls* get discouraged because they don’t like conflict or drama.

Friends with benefits

The Old Souls* should boldly say they are looking for true love, but they want to explore friends with benefits first. To a Old Souls* this means exactly that; to the Young Soul* it means they’re not ready for commitment yet, and they are not looking for a marriage – which is kinda true.  The Old Souls* also need to realize they like doing things with their authentic partner, but with the enthusiasm to commitment the Young Soul* have shown over centuries, male-female relationships tend to veer toward commitment and to sex because the trade-off has been that “women” want commitment and “men” want sex, so there are no hobbies and interests elements in many relationships that start with the expectation of a romantic relationship… And mind you, it is the Old Souls* that will take it toward sex – both men and women – because otherwise, there is literally nothing for them to do with the Young Soul* person. The Young Soul* bore them to tears, and the only thing they CAN DO together is sex.

Single because they enjoy sex so much.

The Old Souls*, both men and women, could go as far as to say that they are still single because they love sex so much. (Let the Old Souls* and the Young Soul* fill in the blanks. Cats: Sex with strangers? Dogs: Sex with their one partner; CONSTANTLY?!) This is tantalizing for both genders of the Old Souls*; it poses a challenge: “Can I be the reason they’d stop sleeping with a lot of peole? Interesting.” The Old Souls* won’t try to CHANGE YOU or TRAP YOU, but they’re willing to try to make you an addict for their loving. The Old Souls* should avoid making their sexual appetite sound like a problem they want fixed, or a problem they have no control over because the Young Soul* can decide to FORGIVE THEm for it and stay with you REGARDLESS they expect to be cheated on on a regular basis as if the Old Souls* sex drive was a medical condition.

Don’t forget to include your hobbies and interests.

The Old Souls* should continue with a long list of hobbies and interests, as they are important for the Old Souls*. Still they should make absolutely NO MENTION of wanting marriage and kids, but maybe refer to a lifelong romance with someone sexy, which, again, to the Old Souls* is catnip, but for the Young Soul* it sounds like “a lifelong deal with only sex, high emphasis on staying good-looking, no commitment.” which, in turn, means they’ll have to stay “on edge” for the rest of their life because this person is too sex-driven; which is true about the Old Souls*, they are very sex-driven.

The Old Souls* should say NOTHING about wanting to have children in a public profile but might, after finding someone interesting, make a mention of it on the first date, maybe. If they are childfree, they might mention that as it’s an important selling point for a bunch of the Old Souls* people; the D0g-types will understand it as a temporary stage though: “I am currently free of children,” but it won’t affect their decision to message the individual or not. The Old Souls* might also mention “they are not very family oriented” and “don’t keep contact many friends,” if that’s true. These statements don’t matter much to a Old Souls* person, but will be bitterly disappointing to the Young Soul*. (The more the merrier – the fewer the sadder.)

the Old Souls* love a long, personal text, the Young Soul* think you’re being self-important.

You should never shorten your dating profile if you are a Old Souls* person. The more you say the better. The more detail you go into, the more weird you can make yourself sound, the better. The Young Soul* hate weird wordy people, and the Old Souls* love them. Also, the Old Souls* love puns, fresh expressions, joking, and good humor (mention your favorite standup comedians!), and the less you leave room for “taking it back,” the better; the Old Souls* will be AT AWE if they find someone who they truly click with, and the Young Soul* will think “Oh my god what a wind-bag, imagine spending your life listening to that asshole talk about himself/herself ALL THE TIME…”

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