Polyandrist (heterosexual) woman, you have no need for female friends

If you have identified that you are, in fact, a polyandrist, this post is for you. And, in this post, I’m addressing female polyandrists, (as opposed to the male polyandrists, the ones you’re looking for). This is a somewhat new revelation for me, so I am simply going to try and make a note to self, and this is, thus, a beginner’s guide sort of thing.

We are socially conditioned to always be in the company of other women. I can’t remember many women who are either alone or in the company of men, apart from mothers who have only sons. Then again, as a woman, I wouldn’t even meet those women, or be in contact with them, as they’d be looking for male company and I would barely notice them. So they might exist, these women, without us paying much attention to them.

Women are socially conditioned to not only make friends with other women but to always be in each other’s corner. “We have to stand up for other women, protect each other, help each other in business” etc. All that is polygynists talking. Polygynandrists will love and help both genders, and polyandrists are in the game for men only.

Single and looking: “I am alone and lost my male soulmates”

Try and reach this mindset: “I am alone and lost my male soulmates” rather than “I am alone without female company, I look like a stupid loser and desperate for male company. Men will think I’m weird and desperate.” Others will easily interpret that energy as “I pine for female acceptance but I’ll settle for men because they’re easier to please because they need sex.”

If you feel like women are flooding into your life while men stay away, you’ve got this setting wrong. You may want men to fill every aspect of your life (and trust me that is available to you), but you’ll need to get the fear of being judged for not having or even wanting female friends out of your mind.

We judge ourselves for being cold toward women

If you’re anything like me, you too know that society doesn’t understand women who don’t support other women. If your genuine alignment to women is that you don’t REALLY care for them, but you don’t hate them, either, you may feel a bit weird turning your back on them, or taking men’s side.

The feeling of judgment comes only from the energy you hold as “I should care more”. No, you don’t. For as long as you hold an energy “you’re someone else’s problem”, you’ll walk away from them without them taking hold. You may well BELIEVE that, too, but if you doubt yourself on some level, that you SHOULD care because you’re a good person, that is interpreted as “you care” about women, specifically, not about people, some of whom are women.

You simply need to aim to NOT HARM women, and perhaps offer guidance from a neutral point of view. Offering guidance for women is NOT GOING TO BE A SAFE THING for you to do, until you are certain you’ve got your energy set up properly. Otherwise, women will flood your website or your Twitter feed because you carry the “lacking women” “weird without women” energy. At worst, they will also block men out of your life because they’re thinking you’re a lesbian and feeling awkward about it. (Yeah.)

A polyandrist woman walked into a bar…

Now, imagine going out clubbing in search of men… ALONE. I know some women do this and can do this, and it has always felt super creepy to me. Like she’s a PREDATOR, right? Or like there’s something wrong with her because she’s in public places prowling alone. Yet, that is what we must learn to do… With class… Or without it, whatever suits. ;p

You have to work out the “I’m weird” feeling. Get it out of your system. You’re just you, and you’ve lost the men you love. You’ve lost your , and you’re alone. When you get it right, men should be flooding, without further action needed. 🙂

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