To turn the Survivalist* thinker off you, you must prevent them from using you to make themselves look good

the Survivalist* love others for and by making each other look good in the eyes of an outside observer. They don’t care much about what’s going on internally as long as you look like the Kennedys on the outside. (The Kennedys are a perfect example of the Survivalist* family, too. They lobotomized the one quite likely a Idealists* in their family. “Violent mood swings,” as far as the Survivalist* thinker goes, might simply mean she didn’t like the regime of the household and said as much.) Stepford Wives is a perfect example of the Idealists* criticizing and ridiculing the Survivalist* Thinking in a movie. It’s seemingly about male oppression of females, but truthfully, it’s about the Survivalist* thinking.

To make the Survivalist* love you, you must help them to fortify their false ego and to uphold a favorable public image. (Yes… They are narcissists, but I don’t use that term as it is slightly more insulting and pathologizing than it needs to be. The Survivalist* thinkers are fine with each other but toxic in a relationship with a Idealists* thinker.) To make the Survivalist* thinker fall out of love with you, you must not allow yourself to be used for reputation benefits. Think of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard; when Heard got caught in the Australian border for smuggling their pet dogs in (against Johnny’s advice and wishes), Johnny took the fall for her, initially paid the fines and expenses of cleaning up the mess, but the media was all over Johnny, ridiculing him for the event. Suddenly, being Johnny Depp’s wife didn’t seem all that glamorous to the young bride, and I’d suspect a lot of her violent streak is a result of that. A Survivalist* thinker wife would have assumed Johnny would basically bribe the Australian government into not saying anything and show her what a mafia boss (as per her frequent fantasies show) Johnny is. When Johnny didn’t screw over Aussies for her, the Survivalist* thinker Amber felt humiliated as his wife. (In all of her mannerisms, you can see the air “I make him look good; he could just try to do the same for me.”)

the Idealists* thinkers live by the truth and die by the truth. The Survivalist* thinkers are very much coaching the Idealists* thinkers to keep their mouths shut during all and any social functions because they can’t handle people speaking the truth about… anything. Therefore, the Idealists* thinkers are often very quiet sort, because they don’t see the point in telling lies. The Idealists* thinkers find their voices online, which is VERY VERY unnerving to the Survivalist* thinker.

To make the Survivalist* thinker know they’re DUMPED, a Idealists* thinker will have to consciously decide to be unusable for image-building practices. The reason why this must be conscious – as we can certainly NOT BE usable anyway, but we don’t much think about it – is that the Survivalist* thinker must sense that you KNOW you are making them look bad and that you are doing it deliberately. Otherwise, they think you’re doing it either not knowing how to be presentable or that you deliberately appear pathetic and like a charity case that THEY need to fix – and that, to the Survivalist* thinker is like a marriage proposal: “Love me, fix me, help me hide my flaws. Make me great again.”

One good way to shame the Survivalist* thinker is to share “fun” anecdotes about them, wedding roasting style, which the Idealists* thinkers think is actually super funny and a sign of true friendship… But the Survivalist* thinkers HATE IT. While the Idealists* thinkers will think, “Well, she/he’s a bit touchy, huh!” the Survivalist* target will be shamed to death by such antics. The Idealists* thinkers are ONLY ever allowed to share flattering stories about the Survivalist* friends and lovers, while the Survivalist* CAN go around acting concerned and worried about the Idealists* thinkers for reputation destruction purposes, which you might also employ as a strategy if you need to… You might want to keep to the truth, which, again, is the Idealists* accepted level of being evil, but for the Survivalist*, it’s even WORSE if you reveal their ACTUAL FLAWS in the process of acting concerned about them. (Again, Amber didn’t think it was THAT BAD because she lied about Johnny, rather than telling the actual truth that she thinks he’s a pathetic loser in real life, so in her world, saying he’s not a pathetic, sad guy even a girl can beat up, he was actually the aggressor, right?)

You also must know that the Survivalist* will “give you another chance” to make them look good if they have “dumped you” for your failure to make them look good, and then you mend your ways again. They may resurface to give you another chance to make them look like gold. Make it obvious that you’re not usable for that purpose, and somehow, you’ll have to look good doing it. Having said that, what makes a Idealists* thinker look good to other the Idealists* thinkers is one thing, and what makes you look good or bad to the Survivalist* thinker is another thing – secondary in its importance. You also need to embarrass them in the way that the Survivalist* get embarrassed, not in the way that the Idealists* do, such as, I don’t think Amber Heard knows to be embarrassed over the fact the whole world knows she beat up a guy bigger than her… But she was suitably embarrassed by the fact a man nearly twice her age deemed it fit and upon himself to dump her at her prime, also right after her expiry date, too, just after hitting 30.

The Survivalist* embarrassments, to a Idealists* sound really silly. This is the fun part about them. You don’t actually have to tell anything incriminating about them to destroy yourself as a potential narcissistic source, but you can just find the little insecurities that they have and hold and exploit them in destroying their ability to use you as a narcissistic source. When they tell you not to do something, keep doing it without apologizing; for instance, in fact, ramp up the frequency of doing whatever they hate you doing. If they tell someone else “a secret” or “insider info” about you, just act differently making them seem like a bad judge of character and like an unreliable “source”, and demonstrate how poorly “your best friend” knows you. (They usually are that, so, that’s not a difficult thing, it’s just a question of figuring out what they say about you to other people which maybe a little tricky.)

Another thing you might want to do, is to NOT follow through on promises they’ve made for other people on your behalf. Find a reason not to do it, even offer to do it on your own accord later, but don’t do it if it makes your the Survivalist* thinker look good for you being their errand boy or girl. Also, notice that if you are a high-level individual, there are a few gatekeepers around you: “I can get Johnny do that for you. I can certainly make him do that. Just leave it to me.” They act like a phone switch between yourself and the great unwashed, whether you need them or not. Just make sure you don’t agree to things that they didn’t even check up with you first if they had the right to offer your services to someone sometimes even for free. Please know that they don’t see you doing it for that other person; they see it as you doing it FOR THEM, because you love to make them look good.

If you have a narcissistic person in your life, the Survivalist* thinker, you might still find it difficult to get ahead in life (manifest real opportunities) because that person thinks you cannot make them look good, and you show no interest in doing so. If they, in addition, think you’re making yourself look bad, so bad that they’ll need to disown you, even if you’d already cut ties with them, they can block you from advancing at all thinking they’re protecting you from destroying your relationship. Therefore, they can’t allow you to LOSE THEIR LOVE for you, by being clueless, right? Become very aware you have only an intention to crush their love for you if that’s how you feel, and you’re going to do it by refusing to let them use you as a narcissistic source.

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