If you need others to convert to your sexual orientation to feel OK to be it, you’ll need to work on that.

There is a good slew of sexual orientations and identities in this world. We don’t all like the other’s way of being sexual. We find it weird. That doesn’t mean we need to have ISSUES with other people’s weirdness or judge them for being the way they are. Jokingly, I added this to the 10 commandments: Thau shalt not have issues with thy neighbor’s sexuality.

Now, that said, if you need others to display the same sexual characteristics than yourself, you are TOO DEPENDENT on other people and their emotional support. While we all need the company of sexually compatible people actually to enjoy our sexuality, and it is natural we enjoy the company of sexually compatible people (such as heterosexual people enjoy the company of heterosexual people more than gay people, just the same as gay people enjoy the company of other gay people. There’s nothing weird about either. Gay people will not get straight people laid the way they like it, and vice versa. Natural.)

You must be able to remain gay even if your best friend is straight as an arrow, right? Even if your psycho-spiritual guru and, as thus, #1 idol is a die-hard polyandrist and heterosexual CIS-gendered woman, and you’re… well, not, you still have to remain true to yourself, not seek solace in trying to morph into your psycho-spiritual guru. Also, you don’t need to develop a sense of humor just because your psycho-spiritual guru has one. 😉

Your True Emotion Mirrors have a tendency of being able to ADD more stuff to your personality without it causing you problems. However, there’s a difference between allowing your TrEmoRs to do it and allowing someone else to do it. If it’s someone else, the chances are you’re trying to please the wrong person. A real trait of yours gives you pleasure even when you’re not liked for it. It’s worth its own value even when others will scoff at it. Therefore, the company of incompatible people is valuable because if you refuse to change or see yourself struggling to truly change, or find the expectation to change unpleasant, that will show you an aspect of yourself; who you truly are. If you keep lobbying others to change to your liking, you know that’s who YOU ARE, not who they are.

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