I am a warning specialist. Ironically, I set up my first website on Twin Flames with the intent to encourage people to trust that they haven’t lost their mind, but that the voice of their Twin Flame in their head is real and… I wrote very romantically, sky-touching posts about how true love is and whatnot, only to soon have to tell people that HEY, MATE, I didn’t in any way say that the person you’ve got a crush on BELONGS to you and that you can OWN THEM and break up their marriage because YOU have a crush on them!

And the further I dug, the more horrible attitudes I found in people who have no idea what love is. I was horrified, terrified, and frankly, still am. I see the tons and tons of emotionally manipulative traps I’ve walked right into myself in the past and how difficult it is to get yourself out of those traps. How difficult it is to reframe your thinking from someone who trusts people completely to someone who actually has to WARN people about how duplicitous and manipulative some people are.

So is this person your True Emotion Mirror or not?

At the heart of all I write is the painful question: “Am I complimenting myself by thinking this person loves me?” It is to be noted that people who are Trail Companions* to each other don’t see it as a compliment that this person might be in love with them, they see it as somewhat of an obvious, and they may be ANGRY about their supposed True Emotion Mirror NOT loving them, rather than feeling amazed that they do.

There’s also one very good indicator: Have they TOLD YOU they love you? If not, and you’ve had to interpret things, and if they have told you they DO NOT love you, you are on very shaky ground. Having said that, there is that situation when your True Emotion Mirror truly is under the impression that you’re some kind of a player and that their heart is in real danger with you, and they try to keep their distance from you just to protect themselves from you – or they think “treat them mean to keep them keen” as in play you with a jealousy game. There are a few reasons why a True Emotion Mirror WOULD tell you that they don’t love you, but you can try and figure it out… And a lot of my texts deal with this very question: “When is the rejection real, and when is it ‘True Emotion Mirror running’?”

At the end of the day, this is the best practice: Accept that you MAY HAVE been mistaken about their feelings for you because if you can’t even THEORETICALLY contemplate this idea, how do you know you’ve studied it objectively? I don’t suggest you should STAY in that doubt constantly, far from it, but just when you are trying to analyze their behavior and words, keep humble. Understand that you may have been mistaken.

Now, with True Emotion Mirrors, there’s one very amazing thing about them that sets them apart from everyone else: You can actually physically feel their love for you. It is like an emotional blanket that wrap around you when they look at you. They make you feel safe and loved and cared for simply by looking you in the eye, and in this state, their words may say: “I don’t want you,” but every instinct you’ve got says they’re lying – and this maybe them just playing mind games with you.

Can you trust women?

No. You cannot trust women, nor can you trust men, boys, girls, or moms. The real question you have to ask is: can you trust this particular individual? Male or female, do you trust them? If not, why not? Do you want them? Do you feel OBLIGATED to want them, trust them, show them, love them even though you don’t truly want them, trust them, or love them?

Do you feel tempted to trust someone against your best knowledge just to show yourself not to be biased? Don’t let your ego (wish to be regarded, even by yourself, as a person of great virtue) get the better of your instincts.

Never again fall into the trap of treating people as “men” and “women,” as that’s clearly so very outdated and stupid, given how fluid we know the gender to be. Some women are an absolute waste of air, just the same as there are men who you wouldn’t want to piss on to save their life from a fire. Most of us are pretty cool; some people are damned near saints, even a lot of people are quite saint-like rather than untrustworthy, but if you tend to trust everybody, you might want to train your mistrust. The opposite, if you are very suspicious of people, you might want to train yourself to see the good in people, to balance your scales.

Is true love real?

Yes.

And it can happen to you, but NOT if you wait to receive a certain amount of love from others despite your own shitty behavior toward that person before you give an ounce of love to them… And only give love to that person when they threaten to leave you.

The biggest mistake people make when looking for true love is to wait for it to be unconditional. Unconditional love is for babies, literally. They can poop their pants, they can cry and keep you awake at night, they can poke you in the eye and kick you in the balls, and you’ll love them just the same.

However, about the time when you turn six, the love you receive starts to be CONDITIONAL, and that’s a good thing. The older you get, the more RESPONSIBLE you will be for the well-being of other people, and if you do not want to keep the people around you happy and cared for, then frankly, you don’t deserve to be loved. You deserve to be left alone until you realize you are not special by being born into this world (we’ve all done that), but you will become special through your good deeds toward other people.

Very unlovable people tend to expect love to be unconditional. They try others out by treating them horribly, expecting them to forgive it all and to show their love regardless. They want to be loved like they remember their mother’s and father’s love to have been when they were toddlers. Technically, we call these people narcissists, but these traits seem to be far more common than the diagnosis is.

You don’t have to be a saint to receive true love, in fact, our true lovers love us for the “bad stuff”; the things that we do DESPITE the danger of turning people off us. Just know this: bad behavior may well be the thing that makes your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates fall in love with you, but that same stuff is the stuff that makes your Trail Companions* hate your gut. Therefore, if you act freely as your authentic self, what happens is that your Trail Companions* realize they are not your biggest fans at all. They’ll walk away from you without feeling like they’re missing out on much, but your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates will find your quirks and “badness” absolutely delicious.

Therefore, be as bad as you are, but not any worse than you are, don’t expect anyone to fall for your true self except your true lovers and friends… And a few who still refuse to believe who you portray to them is the real, complete you because they still want to hang onto a fantasy that you’re the one for them, but that is, as they say, another story.

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