Kick your humility and modesty to the curb with your True Emotion Mirror.

In fact, this is one of the things that the Normal Person* do right compared to the Savants*: they are not afraid of being rejected, but what they don’t do right is take a rejection when that happens. They are not afraid of rejection basically because the Savants* fear it enough to fear it for them, too. The Savants* hate to be “lassoed” into a relationship because it happens too often by people they’re not interested in themselves. That’s why they tend to be very cautious when it comes to chasing a person for a relationship.

When the Normal Person* approach someone they’re in love with, they ASSUME they won’t be rejected. This is not the right way to go about it. An Savant* understands that the possibility of rejection exists, but they need to lay their cards on the table. “Look, I want you, like proper want you. How do you feel about it?” the Savants* must learn to chase the truth: “OK, reject me; if you don’t want me, you’re going to have to reject me and give me a reason why.” For a Savants*, good reasons for rejection exist. Some are such that they don’t want to alter for it, some are such that they do not want to alter to, and they’re like, “Oh. OK. That’s a valid point. Sorry, I wasted your time.” That reason is a deal breaker; “if that’s what you want out of a man/woman, I see I’ve been giving you credits you didn’t deserve.” I’m not trying to scare you because the Savants* like who they are. They know what about them is “deal breaker material.” They are not afraid of BEING THAT, but they often fear judging others and revealing to them, “Look, I just don’t think you’re perverted enough for me.” “PERVERTED? You want someone PERVERTED? Whoa. I’m truly not that. Good bye.”

Follow your instincts.

On the other hand, if this is your True Emotion Mirror, the thing keeping you from them is good news. “I hate how humble you are. I don’t LIKE YOU simping to your YouTube audience and making yourself smaller for those meaningless motherfuckers.” He’d be like: “Oh, is that all? Fuck, I’ll stop simping. I hated doing that anyway.”

You’ll get weird needs around your True Emotion Mirror. Control yourself, but at the same time, follow those instincts. Give them as much reign as the law allows, and you can allow yourself. Just… Ask for a permission first. Confess to your NEED to have them and keep them, and ask for a permission. If they deny you permission for any reason, just control yourself like you’ve done so far. You may need to ask WHY, but you may just need to wait.

Express your impulses, too. “I just want to kick you in the shinbone and scream ‘What the fuck’s wrong with you?'” “What do you mean?” “Why are we not married yet?!”

the Savants* can feel scared of themselves when they feel possessive of someone.

the Savants* value personal freedom and choice over any other value. They believe every human being is and should be free to be and go and whatnot. When they meet their True Emotion Mirror, they start feeling like cuffing them onto a radiator to stop them from ever leaving. Their claws and fangs come out, and they are NOT HAPPY about this reaction in themselves, feeling SO GOOD about wanting to hunt down and capture this person just out of their selfish need to have them and possess them… Forever.

This feeling is MUTUAL among True Emotion Mirrors. She feels it, he feels it. They want to put shackles on each other and scream, “YOU FUCKING DO NOT MOVE!” They have to REMIND themselves intellectually to keep their cool about it. They laugh at themselves or scold themselves over it, but they don’t typically do it; they’ll try to respect the perceived rejection, which never was rejection but a similar shock to their own need to put those shackles on, waiting for the other person to show them if they’re interested at all.

The trauma of being too hot for one’s own good.

the Savants* have basically been traumatized by their own desirability and being so lusted after that they’ve learned (in previous lifetimes, too,) and they avoid acting like that to the endth degree. But that is a trauma, and it needs to be cleared, and managed. The Savants* must learn to trust their instinct of their love being welcome, not because it’s LOVE, but because it is THEIR love. (the Normal Person* believe ANY love is welcome love, but to the Savants* that’s just not true.)

So, rather than fight your possessiveness regarding your True Emotion Mirror, ask for a permission to feel that way. If you don’t believe the answer is for real; ask them how far you’re permitted to go in your need and desire to hold onto them with a mad sense of possessiveness. Just confess to it. If they freak out, they may be scared of their own willingness to be possessed, because they don’t truly LIKE people who are willing to go there, and their initial sense of self-preservation may kick in… But they’ll change their mind. They’ll get to terms with themselves if they’re your True Emotion Mirror, and they’ll process it, and realize what is going on…

They fell in love with someone who fell in love with them.

Oops.

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